New Baby Sleeping: In Own Room or In Your Room???

emlou2009

Hell_Dans_Un_Handcart wrote: »

The best possible thing you can do is not to give them a dummy at all, because if it's normally in and they spit it out, then your SIDs risk is increased. I wonder how many mothers are giving dummies to reduce SIDs? Honestly, I don't know how HVs get away with trawling such tripe.

i wonder how many frazzled, exhausted, cried-out parents would be falling asleep on the sofa and accidently suffocating their babies if they didnt give their babies a dummy though

BTW, i just re-read my previous post, it looks like i said i sleep on the sofa with my LO :eek: i dont, what i meant was if i'm watching tv/ironing/laptopping, just generally anything in the room with him i'll lay him on the sofa next to me. i consider it safe as i dont ever leave him and i keep a careful eye on him, and he seems to sleep better during the day if he knows that i'm close by as he never has a proper deep sleep like he does at night.

rjh090384

daughter was in my room till 6 weks then went into her own room - i was totally panicking when she was in our roomn and not getting any sleep because everytime she snuffled i was staraight up checking on her - we both slept better weh nshe was in ehr own room

twentypenceoff

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

OK twenty pence didn't put it that well but believe me it is difficult having a baby living above you. I'm not saying people shouldn't have babies, nor am I saying that it's always within parents control. But it is nice to have some acknowledgement of the fact that you are being disturbed (in the same way that you would acknowledge if you had had a party and disturbed people). We had upstairs neighbours who had a baby and I have to say that we were both as zombified as new parents ourselves. We didn't complain about the baby crying although it did waken us at least three times a night for a few months until they moved out. But we did mention it to them when they started yelling at each other from different ends of the flat 'do you want a cup of tea'. And when they decided to hoover in the middle of the night because they were up anyway. And never got as much as an acknowledgement that we were trying to be reasonable, in fact they were pretty p***d off that we brought up the hoovering. their attitude was more or less if we suffer then you should too. Not good for neighbourly relations.

At least if you're a new parent and you look exhausted and your work is suffering, there is some understanding of what is happening. This isn't the case if you're a neighbour. So just a minor plea for some understanding for those who also suffer

Thank you.

li'l_p

Hell_Dans_Un_Handcart wrote: »

The best possible thing you can do is not to give them a dummy at all, because if it's normally in and they spit it out, then your SIDs risk is increased. I wonder how many mothers are giving dummies to reduce SIDs? Honestly, I don't know how HVs get away with trawling such tripe.

Sorry, just came across this thread again whilst looking for something else....

Yes, exactly, that was my point and the point of the HV - she wasn't spouting tripe. The guidance states that using a dummy can reduce the risk of SIDS, and yet the HV pointed out that you can't actually make a baby keep a dummy in as the baby will inevitably spit it out which goes against the theory of baby having a dummy reducing the risk of SIDS.

Hope this clarifies.