MSE Pregnancy Club XI

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aless02 wrote: »

:T:T Yes, this!! We're NOT finding out the sex and this is part of the reason why. Our culture has so much emphasis on gender & gender roles that it's constricting to ANY child. Our boys will be able to play with dolls if they want & our girls will have trucks & building blocks! Maybe it's my country girl tomboy roots showing through, but I refuse to have any gender-specific clothing or materials for baby...and by not finding out, it keeps the ILs from buying any!

(sorry, rant over...this is a hot button issue for me)

You would love my daughter, her fav thing is cars and dinosaurs :rotfl:
Her DVD collection is mainly Dr Who, Primevil, and Power Rangers and she owns 3 football outfits !!
However she plays with dolls and wears pink too, just depends on her mood at the time:D

aless02

perfect, mm! that's more my point...not denying a girl wearing pink, let's say, but just letting them feel free enough to choose whatever they feel like.

mountainlioness

aless02 wrote: »

:T:T Yes, this!! We're NOT finding out the sex and this is part of the reason why. Our culture has so much emphasis on gender & gender roles that it's constricting to ANY child. Our boys will be able to play with dolls if they want & our girls will have trucks & building blocks! Maybe it's my country girl tomboy roots showing through, but I refuse to have any gender-specific clothing or materials for baby...and by not finding out, it keeps the ILs from buying any!

(sorry, rant over...this is a hot button issue for me)

LOL Aless, glad to find a kindred spirit! DH agrees with me but thinks am too militant about it. I would have a total ban on the gender specific thing but have resigned myself to it being unenforceable. Even if we didn't tell ILs now it'd only delay the inevitable and we'd be inundated with pink frilly rubbish in September.

I hate all the stuff about ' oh you won't be able to do x with a girl' (usually something active, sporty or fun) well, if you never give her a chance then of course she won't be able to! I always think that when men moan about women not being able to throw or kick a ball etc Well, did their parents ever take em out and teach em? No, probably not, cos that's what you do with boys! Makes me mad! (I can throw properly and am better footy player than DH, which he thinks is great, he loves showing me off to his workmates - they start playing thinking it'll be a real pain having a bird around then I dink it past them and they soon start playing!)

heh heh I rant about this a lot too!

My parents are really cool about this kind of thing (academics, have pic of dad in kaftan in 60s etc) so no danger of any stereotyping there - I grew up thinking that it was normal for girls to be able to do whatever they wanted. What a shock when I got into the workplace! I work in a uni now so it's not as bad as some sectors but sexism is still rife. PIL are the danger zone - they def treat their daughter differently.

karen1907

We have our 20 week scan in two weeks and have decided not to know, we want it as a surprise. They have also been known to get it wrong so I am paranoid that they would tell me it is a boy, we then get loads of blue stuff then it ends up being a girl!! Although I don't mind what colour we put on the baby I am sure that colour coding is just to help others when they go "Umm what a cute ...... umm Girl? Or is it a Boy?" IYKWIM

I have to say though initially I did want to find out what sex it was because if someone else was going to know (the person doing the scan) then I will want to know. I couldn't have someone else knowing when I don't. But now I have gone to just not wanting to know.

My OH spent this weekend setting up a "micro-office" we have 3 bedrooms and the 3rd one is small so we use it as an office. The plan has always been from the start to convert the second bedroom into guest room/nursery with a sofabed to pull out for guests. But OH decided that he didn't want to get a sofabed to replace our nice wooden bed (which we were going to store in our garage) and has been trying new ingenious ways to make better use of space. We have a little area which leads to the attic space (in the eaves of the house so in the sloping roof bit) that used to hold two chest of drawers- it can't be much more than 3 foot by 5 foot and he has managed to put a little desk in there (made with a bit of kitchen worktop) with enough space for monitor/keyboard/mousemat on it with the computer underneath. Plus the office chair. The only problem is we have to find homes for the office drawers/two chest of drawers and other office paraphernalia! Luckily we still have 22 weeks to go! It's going to be an interesting few months

Sami_Bee

elle_gee wrote: »

We always wanted to find out. OH was convinced we were having a girl so it took a few days for it to sink in and for us to get used to saying "he".

I know everyone says "I just want the baby to be healthy", but speaking as someone with a very UNhealthy baby right now, you want them to be healthy for their own sake, but you love them just as much regardless It makes no difference at all to how we feel about Rhys, he's just "our little boy" and yes we're proud of him for different things than maybe parents of normal, healthy 15 day old babies, but he's still awesome and ours

:T well said honey
As someone with 2 friends who's daughter's have heart defects I whole heartedly agree. One of my friends get really annoyed when people say 'as long as its healthy' She says it should be more like as you get a baby at the end:)

Glad he's opened his eyes!! :T :j I wonder if they'll stay true blue xx

SugarSpun

Elle, that's wonderful!

I've just been cleaning the kitchen. As of now, everything is in its place except for the tins to go back into the pantry (still off limits to food because there's a late bug resurgence, damn them) and the dishes drying on the draining board. The floor is swept but not mopped because that looks too much like hard work, and the rubbish is ready for Himself to take down tomorrow.

Next on my thrilling list is a cup of tea, a large glass of water and a sandwich, then I am going to do some cleaning in here. Nesting seems to have hit me ... or am I just avoiding the work work I need to do??? It's yet another public holiday here anyway. 17 days till maternity leave, of which one more is a public holiday and four are weekend. Two work days will be taken up preparing for and giving the presentation on Wednesday, and then it'll be all about finishing this paper, then editing and submitting it.

We got a bunch of pink clothing in the ebay bundles, but the "good" clothes are bright colours and mostly from the boys' departments. I'm not planning on raising a girly girl.

Sami_Bee

tarajayne wrote: »

Sami, don't know it you got a dock for your ipod but this is now a great price. x
http://www.hotukdeals.com/item/412752/klipsch-igroove-ipod-speaker-system/

Thanks hun, We've just got a tv with a doc in it tho (I know OH wouldn't be able to resist it!)

mountainlioness

How much are you guys buying clothes-wise? We haven't bought much (only ad hoc when we've seen something with a lion on!) as we were told you get given loads and they grow out of stuff so quickly.

Is there a rough no of each item it's best to have in?

searching_me

ok so ive tidied up but its still messy its driving me absoluately crazy ... do you think im nesting??? :rotfl: x

mountainlioness

ooh another question - are any of you ladies tall? I've just bought some quite expensive mat tights but they keep falling down as they're not quite long enough. Any tips on where I might get some long mat tights?