The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

jo1972

budget_babe wrote: »

btw I think you and I will soon be fans of the same music?

:D:D

Night Budgie, thanks for the support as ever :A sleep well xx

Rolandtheroadie

Does alcohol affect my work? No. Does it affect my home life? No. Do I feel I drink too much? Yes. Can I go without alcohol? I dont know, I've never tried.

Why do I drink? Its my release. It allows me to sit and chill.

Obviously I (feel/know) i have some sort of drink problem or I wouldnt be posting. But I'd decided tonight that I was going to stop and just happened to see this thread.
What do I drink. A bottle of wine and a couple of beers probably on average 4/5 nights a week.
So we'll give it a go. The next 6 days wont count though (i'll be on nights) but we'll see what happens from there.

jo1972

Welcome to the thread scotsman! Good luck, keep us posted.

GC, where are you? We are needing your advice!

annie_d

My sixth day AF, all done! Hurray for me ( Yep, i do feel a BIT smug tbh) Can you put me down for the 2 days we have had so far in May please? Thankyou x

Kellylea

Hello, I am 22 and not alcohol dependant at all but i do have to quit drinking full stop.

I am normally a happy and positive person who is quite confident and fun loving. When i drink i lose all sense of control judgement and i swear that i am 100% a different person.

I am currently suffering with my usual severe anxiety after a recent leaving party at our local pub. It's day 4 now and I still have the beer guilt but so much worse than anyone i know. My heart races and i wish i could die so that all the dark evil thoughts would go away. I know in a few days this feeling will be erased from my mind until sometime next month when i get drunk again. This time i know i can't let this happen to me again. I don't want to feel this depressed it scares me and i never want to do the things i think i did on wednesday again.

I can't just have two drinks because when i do i lose any kind of reasoning and it is a great idea to get drunk. Terrible i know for such a young girl. I come from a family of apparant alcoholics.

My question is how do i get around the oh your not drinking your boring go on have a drink that has occured in the past when i have quit. I actually enjoy not drinking and waking up normal happy and fresh but other people can't stand it when i don't drink. Any tips?

Thank you so much and good luck to all!

Rolandtheroadie

Kellylea wrote: »

Hello, I am 22 and not alcohol dependant at all but i do have to quit drinking full stop.

I am normally a happy and positive person who is quite confident and fun loving. When i drink i lose all sense of control judgement and i swear that i am 100% a different person.

I am currently suffering with my usual severe anxiety after a recent leaving party at our local pub. It's day 4 now and I still have the beer guilt but so much worse than anyone i know. My heart races and i wish i could die so that all the dark evil thoughts would go away. I know in a few days this feeling will be erased from my mind until sometime next month when i get drunk again. This time i know i can't let this happen to me again. I don't want to feel this depressed it scares me and i never want to do the things i think i did on wednesday again.

I can't just have two drinks because when i do i lose any kind of reasoning and it is a great idea to get drunk. Terrible i know for such a young girl. I come from a family of apparant alcoholics.

My question is how do i get around the oh your not drinking your boring go on have a drink that has occured in the past when i have quit. I actually enjoy not drinking and waking up normal happy and fresh but other people can't stand it when i don't drink. Any tips?

Thank you so much and good luck to all!

Coincidentally, I come from a long line of alcoholics (5 uncles 2 aunts). Do you smoke? If you didnt smoke and someone offered you a cigarette would you think anything of saying no?
I'd go out as usual but tell my friends/associates I didnt have much money so would buy my own. I'd then buy cola/whatever soft drink i wanted and pretend it was alcohol.
Either that or just tell people you dont need alcohol to enjoy yourself.
Good luck to you too.

lillibet_dripping

Morning all:j
WELCOME to Scotsman4th and Kellylea

Sleepyjo - thinking of you this morning.Please don't feel bad - you have a lot to cope with right now, but as the others have said today is a brand new day. Look forwards, not backwards;)

HS - excuse my bad manners and please accept my apology for not thanking you for the scoring last month:o

BB - thank you for scoring May. We'll all do our best - dib,dib,dib, dob,dob,dob and all that:D

Woke up feeling a tad rough this morning. I had a long day yesterday looking at houses - some awful, some OK and one that I can 'see' us living in. The garden had a huge fishpond full of Koi - the spaniels are rubbing their paws with glee, not because of the fish but because they think I am considering buying a house with their own private pool:rotfl:I had dinner all planned, but then DD called to say she was sleeping at her dad's so I popped into Mr. T's and bought a bung-in-the-oven meal with a bottle of wine:eek: Not only have I blown the grocery budget and lost an AF day, but I will never live down the shame of buying a ready-meal:rotfl:

Have a lovely day, whatever you are doing.
x

115K

:hello: to the new people.

I don't think I will be AF today as I'm going out so I will see how I go later.

I hope you all are having a good weekend.:A

40somethingmum

sleepyjo wrote: »

Thanks toeveryone -i know that i am lucky that dear husband has a job and is busy - but he is on call 24-7 if we decide to go out - without the phones, then it costs us to have the phones diverted to other people, hence why - we do not go out so much, but it gets me down, when what seems to be every weekend or bank holiday, everyone seems to be going out, enjoying them selves, without a care in the world, and where i am I? at home.
i have tried to say to dh stay in tonight, i have something planned, but if the phone goes, he has to go out on the job, so stuff the suprise - as work comes first!
the only do's that we seem to go to - are work related do's - but then all that seems to happen, is dh and his mates stand about talking about work, while i stand there patiently sipping my wine, etc.,
I have been having one glass of cider followed by one glass of water, so hopefully, i will not be opening the wine tonight, it is a good job i have you guy's to talk to, otherwise i would be absolutely drunk tonight, years ago, i would have rung my mum and talked things through with her, but even though she is still alive and 'well' in herself, because of the alzeimers - she doesn't even know who i am any more, let alone listen to me waffle on, about how i am feeling!!

do you know, it is five years tomorrow, since i found my best friend dead in her flat ( she died of a brain tumer) and the next day, my father in law died of a heart attack in front of me.
i am begining to wonder wether all of this is related, because i lost the two people i talked to most in life to - all in the same week!
anyhow, many thanks to all of you who have replied to my post earlier, i have read t hem and taken them on board.
i will try better tomorrow, best wishes jo-jo

Oh jo-jo

No wonder you were drinking yesterday - everyone should understand under the circumstances.

Have you had any counselling re your bf and fil . Its way too big to tackle on your own. Try and take it easy today . Try talking to your OH about how low and lonely you are feeling . OH is probably feeling a bit low at this time also at the anniversary of his fathers death so be kind to each other.

Take good care of yourself .

40SM

40somethingmum

Morning all

BB - put me down for another AFD ( now 2 in total) :j:j.

I feel really pleased that I have got through a Friday night & Saturday night without drinking especially when my DH had beers in the fridge !

Being a part of this forum is obviously working :T:T:T

Thanks guys.

Have a lovely day

40SM