The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

budget_babe

Nelski wrote: »

Hiya all and particularly Budget Babe. Thought you would have forgotten me by now !! Ok so I will go for a target of 10 days to start if thats ok. None so far but weekdays are the ones I plan to cut down on.

10 :eek::eek::eek: if I can do that I will be really proud:o

Don't worry sweetheart you weren't forgotten and you are now on the May list, good luck and take care.

Hugs xxxxxxxxxx

annie_d

Oh jo-jo, how awful for you. I dont know what to say. Life can so easily become a downward spiral can't it? One day and it can just tip. ?Just get through today...drink water and start again tomorrow.
If your husband can't/won't "do things" with you, you will have to plan to do them yourself. You'll just get more frustrated and angry if you keep waiting for him to get thongs going.

That cider is a killer, in more ways than one cos it leaves you feeling so low after you have drunk it. I am thinking of you.

Thankyou Budgie for the warm welcome. The BBQ came and went today and i managed with AF lager while all around me had wine (except tea total husband) Wonder if i will have a weight loss too. I think my tummy seems a bit flatter after 6 days without the dreaded stuff. x

sleepyjo

Thanks toeveryone -i know that i am lucky that dear husband has a job and is busy - but he is on call 24-7 if we decide to go out - without the phones, then it costs us to have the phones diverted to other people, hence why - we do not go out so much, but it gets me down, when what seems to be every weekend or bank holiday, everyone seems to be going out, enjoying them selves, without a care in the world, and where i am I? at home.
i have tried to say to dh stay in tonight, i have something planned, but if the phone goes, he has to go out on the job, so stuff the suprise - as work comes first!
the only do's that we seem to go to - are work related do's - but then all that seems to happen, is dh and his mates stand about talking about work, while i stand there patiently sipping my wine, etc.,
I have been having one glass of cider followed by one glass of water, so hopefully, i will not be opening the wine tonight, it is a good job i have you guy's to talk to, otherwise i would be absolutely drunk tonight, years ago, i would have rung my mum and talked things through with her, but even though she is still alive and 'well' in herself, because of the alzeimers - she doesn't even know who i am any more, let alone listen to me waffle on, about how i am feeling!!

do you know, it is five years tomorrow, since i found my best friend dead in her flat ( she died of a brain tumer) and the next day, my father in law died of a heart attack in front of me.
i am begining to wonder wether all of this is related, because i lost the two people i talked to most in life to - all in the same week!
anyhow, many thanks to all of you who have replied to my post earlier, i have read t hem and taken them on board.
i will try better tomorrow, best wishes jo-jo

Miss_Piggy_2

((hugs)) Jo-jo. Sometimes things get on top of all of us. And it sounds like you have been through a lot.
Don't feel like a failure about drinking the cider - tomorrow is a new day. New start.
((more hugs))
Miss P
xx

maman

Love to you Jo-jo. I so wish I could help you, take you out for the treat you so need. Don't worry about booze, you can start afresh tomorrow and we'll all be with you.

GT60

Hi Jo jo please don't feel to bad it is only a slip up ( i wish i could think like that when my oh does it )
Remeber the aim is to take one day at a time.

My Oh has been AF for 13 days now :j
I am so so proud of her BUT i have never told her so :mad:
I know i should but after all the sh** that the alcohol has caused well i don't know.
She is coming round to not drinking and we are supporting each other with getting control of the house and the kids.
Before it was me who dished out the punishment when they missed behaved but got no back up of the oh and some times i didnt like coming home from work because i knew she would be drinking later and all the crap that comes with it...

Anyway remeber take one day at a time and you could try drinking a drink from asda called AME it is next to the soft drinks the OH swears by it.

Good luck to you all
Niall;)

sleepyjo

niall24 wrote: »

Hi Jo jo please don't feel to bad it is only a slip up ( i wish i could think like that when my oh does it )
Remeber the aim is to take one day at a time.

My Oh has been AF for 13 days now :j
I am so so proud of her BUT i have never told her so :mad:
I know i should but after all the sh** that the alcohol has caused well i don't know.
She is coming round to not drinking and we are supporting each other with getting control of the house and the kids.
Anyway remeber take one day at a time and you could try drinking a drink from asda called AME it is next to the soft drinks the OH swears by it

Thanks for that and everyone else, i am plead=sed at this moment in time i have only drunk 1.5 ltres of cider, the rest is still there in the bottle and is going down the drain at any moment soon!! the wine is going in the cupboard along with everythng else in there..i do feel better - just for letting off a bit of steam! if you kinow what i mean - i just get so so wound up, and feel like i have no one proper to talk to in the world, that would understand how i feel. i used to talk to my best friend barb (barbara) every week and she always seemed to understand me, knew how i felt - i felt like i could tell her anything at all, and she would listen with an open heart and give me her best advce, then at the age of 49 she suddenly died, with me finding her the next day, not only did i have the whole shock of finding her, etc., but i lost the friend that i could talk to most in the world........i still miss her today greatly!
i'm sorry, i feel like i'm being so remorsful, no - tomorrow is a brand new day.
i will try and be more positive, and find something to do on my own to do (while my husband finds something to work at) i do feel guilty for drinking and especialy so, fot saying that i was giving up for good!
But tomorrow is another day!
thanks a bunch, jo-jo

sleepyjo

sleepyjo wrote: »

niall24 wrote: »

Hi Jo jo please don't feel to bad it is only a slip up ( i wish i could think like that when my oh does it )
Remeber the aim is to take one day at a time.

My Oh has been AF for 13 days now :j
I am so so proud of her BUT i have never told her so :mad:
I know i should but after all the sh** that the alcohol has caused well i don't know.
She is coming round to not drinking and we are supporting each other with getting control of the house and the kids.

p.s. you should tell her NOW HOW PROUD YOU ARE OF HER and not wait any longer, as you do not know what tomorrow will bring!

it has taken a long long time (27 years) for my husband and i to talk, and even now i cannot tell him things that are close to my heart - hence this set-back tonight) but things are a whole lot better than they were two years ago - i was ready to walk out on everything, but thought long and hard about it all, and decided NO that was not the answer>
Tell her tonight
love and best wishes, jo-jo

jo1972

Jo-Jo, so sorry to hear you are down tonight. Don't let yourself wake up tomorrow in the same mindset, it's another day so start afresh xx

Niall, I am so pleased you have some good news. Well done to your OH, that's a fantastic achievement!! :T:T:T

HS, forgot to say, thanks for doing the scoring last month (although I wasn't in it ), great job!

Budgie, thanks for the first of may update, when you get a chance could you please update me to a 2, I'm off to bed in a minute and won't be drinking today

Eselt, bought some Berocca today, felt quite saintly after I'd had my quota of Vit C & B :cool: :rotfl: it seemed to put me off drinking slightly felt kinda good about trying to repair the pressure I've been putting on my liver and didn't want to ruin it!! Didn't have a chance to get to H&B, do they sell milk thistle anywhere else?

Night all :wave:

xx

budget_babe

Hi everyone :hello:

Just wanted to check up on my May members before bedtime

I hope everyone is ok and Sleepyjo hugs and I do hope that things will get better for you sweetheart, take care xxxxxxx

Dear Lurky I am waiting patiently btw does the Lovely Esther want to join in May, she would be very welcome. Hugs to you both and the family. xxxxxxxx

Molly Polly I hope your DD's birthday went well and you had a lovely time? Hugs and we are into month 5 now, gosh this year is going fast is it not? hugs and take care xxxxx

Jo I hope things are going well for you tonight? But you must eat more in May, you cook such lovely meals, you need to enjoy them too Hugs sweetheart and btw I think you and I will soon be fans of the same music? Lots a love xxxxxxxx

Bhb hows it going matey? You are doing so well and everyone on here is very proud of you. Hugs to Mrs Bhb to and you. xxxxxxxx Oh and the goats

Winebox hugs and I know you said you will update next week, I just wanted to say that I am thinking of you sweetheart. Lots a love xxxxxxxxx

Grahame C hi and we have a brand new thread, I look forward to your posts as ever on this one. Take care matey and hugs. xxxxxx

Ntc Hiya and hows the journal going? Do I get to proof read at all? Ok I'll be patient but I am an Aries and its not supposed to be in our nature Take care and lots a love xxxxxx

Miss P hugs to you sweetheart and piglet, its always lovely to read your posts and thankyou for the comforting words about my email fiasco. (It helped ) xxxxxx

Hugs to all our other members and to Ym how are you matey? Adj1nl you still have not posted for awhile, I am worried about you can you perhaps just post a couple of lines to let us all know how you are? Hugs xxxxxxx

So May has begun and we have 29 days left for me to nag you all How :cool: is that? Just hope I have some mates left at the end?

Hugs and God bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Edit Jo :T Brilliant and so well done, I am thrilled and so pleased for you. Night Angel and sleep well xxxxxxxxxxx