The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

mollypolly

Good morning everyone.
Its dark and miserable here today:rolleyes:

I would just like to say that I gave up drinking completely because I realised that I just could not be a SENSIBLE drinker.:o

I really admire those of you who are managing to cut down to sensible levels and wish that I could have done that too.

Having said that though, I do think that there are several people on this thread who really know that they need to give up completely as setting targets is not working for them for various reasons.

Not nagging.......but...... if you are one of those PLEASE try a little bit harder....you will feel the benefits...I Promise.

Have a good day all and
Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Miss_Piggy_2

mollypolly wrote: »

I would just like to say that I gave up drinking completely because I realised that I just could not be a SENSIBLE drinker.:o

I really admire those of you who are managing to cut down to sensible levels and wish that I could have done that too.

Having said that though, I do think that there are several people on this thread who really know that they need to give up completely as setting targets is not working for them for various reasons.

Exactly what I was trying to say but Mollypolly said it much better than me!:rotfl:

I hope nobody thinks I was critisizing (sp) as I certainly wasn't intending to. :sad:. I'm envious of anyone that can drink at sensible levels. I wish I could do that. I think its great to have targets to aim for. But I was never reaching mine (only on the month when I was on medication and COULDN'T drink). Shows to me I can't BE a sensible drinker. Always putting my foot in it me. In future I'll be :lipsrseal:rotfl:

Miss P
xx

69chick

I think it is very important for people to put their views accross on here, whatever they may be in relation to drinking, it gets us all thinking as to where we really stand etc. so I for one like to see different opinions - glad to see you have your whip out too MP ...

As a cutter downer I am pleased with how I am doing, although I can see how wonderful it could be to just not have to think about drinking...I will often read about someone who says that they drink 'about a glass of wine a month' so obviously someone who doesn't generally drink but maybe has a glass if out somewhere, that it really how I would like to be in the future...I remember when I gave up smoking (a long time ago) that I thought at the time that I would be miserable about it forever and probably every time I was out would be fed up at not being able to smoke, however that couldn't be further from the truth as once I had kicked it I have had no desire to smoke ever since which has been a revelation to me!!

Hope everyone is well today, a bit miserable weather wise here, am stuck in waiting for a delivery and I have washing/ironing/tidying/organising/cleaning to do and no excuse not to do it by going out...


sorry for the waffly post

ETA was going to mention, dh has been drinkin the cobra zero (0% alcohol) bottle beers this week and he is amazed by how nice they are, the last experience he had with non alcoholic beer was kaliber years ago which he said was awful, worth a thought to the beer drinkers anyway and they aren't too bad cost wise (£1.97 for 4 in MrTs)

graemecarter

mollypolly wrote: »

Good morning everyone.
Its dark and miserable here today:rolleyes:

I would just like to say that I gave up drinking completely because I realised that I just could not be a SENSIBLE drinker.:o

I really admire those of you who are managing to cut down to sensible levels and wish that I could have done that too.

Having said that though, I do think that there are several people on this thread who really know that they need to give up completely as setting targets is not working for them for various reasons.

Not nagging.......but...... if you are one of those PLEASE try a little bit harder....you will feel the benefits...I Promise.

Have a good day all and
Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Great post.
I am like you MP - as much as I tried to control my drinking, I could not guarantee that I would drink sensibly when I had had a drink.
I got drunk the night before job interviews, missed meetings at work, birthday parties, etc. All because I had taken that first drink.
If I didn't have that first drink, I would make those commitments.
If I had just one drink, all bets were off and I could not tell you I was going to be there sober (if at all). I would promise that I would stop after one or two and do what I needed to do, but then I would squeeze in one more drink, and then look for ways of not doing it so I could carry on.

I don't feel satisfied when having one drink. I have an urge to drink more. Thus I don't have that first one. That's the one that gets me drunk.

The fear of not drinking was immense. In reality, not drinking is fantastic. My life is much better for it.

Pippilongstocking

mollypolly wrote: »

Good morning everyone.
Its dark and miserable here today:rolleyes:

I would just like to say that I gave up drinking completely because I realised that I just could not be a SENSIBLE drinker.:o

I really admire those of you who are managing to cut down to sensible levels and wish that I could have done that too.

Having said that though, I do think that there are several people on this thread who really know that they need to give up completely as setting targets is not working for them for various reasons.

Not nagging.......but...... if you are one of those PLEASE try a little bit harder....you will feel the benefits...I Promise.

Have a good day all and
Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Hey never a truer word said.

I drank a 'bit' on holiday - part being lazy, part in denial, part not ready to face most of my 'friends' reactions.

Worse thing I ever did to be honest. I am back to fretting and craving and just being a nightmare about everything.

Having come home I am back to locking my purse at work, etc frettign about how to drink and when to drink and not drinking.

In July I am being rubbish as I can't remember the days I gave in (although I only had a few drinks because it was controlled and it was in restaurants etc) and the days I didn't - the last day (the minute I got inot a space where I could have alcohol freely and access to it) I did drink was with OH cos we had a row (which was probably a reaction but also an excuse to drink excessively) and immediately I downed a bottle of wine in about 20 mins. I was vile and evil to him, then immersed myself in wine and my book - incredibly selfishly.

I can't drink sensibly. Therefore I guess I can't drink full stop - I have been very quiet on here cos I am wrestling with my own stupidity.

I think I have had 9 AFD's in July but do need to recheck myself.

And my belly weight has jumped right back on after having even just a couple of drinks a night (I am quite little so it feels like alot of weight).

Onwards

MP you are as always a star for just saying things dead right. Sorry for being so quiet - this is one of the first times my kids have been away and I am not drunk every evening, I am going to bed (I never use to go to bed before just sleep drunk on the sofa), and I am getting up clear headed - although i am giving myself a hard time about drinking when away and how hard it is now thinking about the bluudy stuff all the time again.

Pippilongstocking

GC too true as well

69 chick you beat me too it as well

Sorry for the quietness - trying to unfangle my very fangled head

I am currently called Broken Brain Girl (by my kids and family) and at the moment that's how I feel - not feeling sorry for myself just very very confused and random.

Rambles are good - clear the muddled head.

hugs to you all - missed you all tonnes whilst on holiday.

mollypolly

Fay...Please don't give yourself a hard time over what is done.It can't be changed now and you have so much going on in your life with work etc the less you worry about this the better.
I am glad you are not drinking now and you must just take one day at a time.


Remember...baby steps (what else with your little legs:D) and one day at a time.
Forget the target you set for this month...go from now.
All the best hun.
Take care of you while the children are away
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Pippilongstocking

MP never a better word said - rest of the month to go

Onwards

Stripey socks on today - odd being in the house without the kids - but keeping busy.

graemecarter

mollypolly wrote: »

Fay...Please don't give yourself a hard time over what is done.It can't be changed now and you have so much going on in your life with work etc the less you worry about this the better.
I am glad you are not drinking now and you must just take one day at a time.


Remember...baby steps (what else with your little legs:D) and one day at a time.
Forget the target you set for this month...go from now.
All the best hun.
Take care of you while the children are away
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Exactly.
You cannot change the past. Alcohol has done damage. However the best thing to do is not do it again. One day at a time
So don't have that first drink. No excuses - weddings, funerals, sackings, bereavements, holidays etc cannot make you drink. There is no need or reason for you ever to drink again in your life. You may want to , you you never need to. You take that decision.

If you want to like/love yourself, you won't drink.
You have admitted you cannot drink at all, you don't need any more evidence that alcohol in your body is not a great relationship, so starting now do not pick up.

69chick

Fay, You are a lovely person, please don't beat yourself up, just as GC says 1 day at a time, you can do it and now you have your stripey socks on you ar good to go xxx:D