The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

xx_Jo_xx

Im really glad I joined this challenge, Ive already started to notice a big difference!

I dont drink lots and lots ALL the time, but I was starting to notice that part of my routine when i got home from work was to pour myself a glass of wine while I was cooking dinner and doing washing and dishes etc. I would top that glass up when I actually sat down to eat my meal and then Id top that glass up, after Id finished the kitchen etc and sat in front of the tele when the little one was in bed. Or often, it would just be one glass with my dinner or after the little one was in bed when I was sat down for 5 minutes peace!

But it got to the point I couldnt honestly tell you the last day, I DIDNT have any alcohol - I was drinking in some form or another every single day

But I have noticed Ive been drinking much more water and fruit juice etc and I dont have a fuzzy head every morning!! Plus Im saving LOTS on my grocery bill as Im not buying nearly as much Alcohol!! Yay!!

115K

maman wrote: »

115K, cutting back is good, that's why most of us are on here. Being smiley dependent I must have AF days. If only I could manage just a couple of glasses (like you 69 chick -well done).

Thanks. :A I am going to be AF today so that will be 4 days for me. I do feel better for drinking less when I have been drinking. I haven't had a hangover in a while.:T

Hope everyone is alright.

so_here_we_are

xx_Jo_xx wrote: »

Im really glad I joined this challenge, Ive already started to notice a big difference!

I dont drink lots and lots ALL the time, but I was starting to notice that part of my routine when i got home from work was to pour myself a glass of wine while I was cooking dinner and doing washing and dishes etc. I would top that glass up when I actually sat down to eat my meal and then Id top that glass up, after Id finished the kitchen etc and sat in front of the tele when the little one was in bed. Or often, it would just be one glass with my dinner or after the little one was in bed when I was sat down for 5 minutes peace!

But it got to the point I couldnt honestly tell you the last day, I DIDNT have any alcohol - I was drinking in some form or another every single day

But I have noticed Ive been drinking much more water and fruit juice etc and I dont have a fuzzy head every morning!! Plus Im saving LOTS on my grocery bill as Im not buying nearly as much Alcohol!! Yay!!

That is me exactly, i do exactly the same, it is scary how much we drink, I'm glad you are noticing the difference, i hope to be the same in a few weeks months time x

graemecarter

maman wrote: »

Welcome Silentsmile I don't want to put you off but I wouldn't aim too high with your first target. Personally I would rather have an achievable target and, reach (and if possible exceed) it than be disheartened. I suppose it depends just how much you need to cut down.

5AF please Jo.

It's a tough one. I don't think there has been a month this year where the overall target has been reached. Most people don't make their targets, which is a cause for concern. It would be great if people were exceeding the targets.
Just shows you how tough it is to stop/cut down on drinking.
If you cannot live without alcohol, then cut down.
If you can do a month or 2 without booze then go for it. It isn't forever, just a month or 2

TIME2GROWUP_2

graemecarter wrote: »

It's a tough one. I don't think there has been a month this year where the overall target has been reached. Most people don't make their targets, which is a cause for concern. It would be great if people were exceeding the targets.

I'm afraid I disagree with you this time, I think that out of all these people we have managed 450 AFD days in June.. I think that's pretty impressive even if we don't all hit our targets at least we are doing something to improve our health/finances etc. etc.. :T

definition of a target - something to aim for....

1 – Miss Piggy Target af days for June: 30, Actual 14
2 – 115K Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 9
3 - WBF Target af days for June is: 14, Actual 12
4 – Jo1972 Target af days for June: 0 Actual 28:j
50 - YM Target af days for June is: 0, Actual 6:j
6 - Bhb Target of af days for June is: 30, Actual 21
7 -netttie Target af days for June is: 26, Actual 22
8 - Different Corner af days for June is: 30, Actual 21
9 - Eselt Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 30:j
10 -Fayjmck Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 27
11 - Fedupski Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 18
12 - Fluffyb Target af days for June is: 10 Actual 18:j:j
13 - Maman Target af day is for June is: 10 Actual 10:j
14 - Orchid Target af days June is: 24, Actual 18
15 – PIR af days for June is: 26 Actual 25
16 – Sparky0107 af days June is: 10, Actual af days 7
17 - Lurkio Target af days for June is: 20, Actual 19
18 - Lillibet D Target af days for June is: 10 Actual: ?
19 - Winebox Target af for June is: 10 Actual 6
20 - Mackeroo Target af days for June is: 15 Actual ?
21 - 40SM Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 11
22 - Maz123 Target af days for June is: ?, Actual 19
23 – Ageing biker Target af days June is 22, Actual ?
24 - MollyPolly Target af days for June is: 30 Actual 30:j
25 - Glasgowgirl Target af days for June is: 16 Actual 9
26 - Nelski Target af days for June is:? Actual ?
27 - Ntc Target af days for June is:?, Actual ?
28 - Noynoy Target af days for June is: ?, Actual 0
29 - Badger Target af days for June is: 20 Actual ?
30 - Openscreen Target af days for June is: ? Actual 0
31 - Pariskate Target af days for June is: 20, Actual 2
32 – Annie_d Target af days for June is: 0 Actual 8
33 - BB Target af days for June is: 23, Actual 20
34 - Stroppy Target af days for June is: 8 Actual 1
35 - Sleepyjo Target af days for June is: ?, Actual 0
36 - Escapism Target af days for June is 8, Actual ?
37 – Time2growup Target af days for June 16, Actual 19:j:j
38 – Hopeful34 Target af days for June 20, Actual 13
39 – Biglass target af days For June 15, Actual 3
40- ForeverHopeful Target af for June 2. Actual 4:j

graemecarter

TIME2GROWUP wrote: »

I'm afraid I disagree with you this time, I think that out of all these people we have managed 450 AFD days in June.. I think that's pretty impressive even if we don't all hit our targets at least we are doing something to improve our health/finances etc. etc.. ,

Very true - it is great what people are doing. More AF days than there would have been which is fantastic.
My worry is that perhaps people are not taking their targets seriously, and don't mind if they don't meet them.
That's the power of alcohol.
I know for me and some people with alcohol issues I know, we used to change our goals to suit our behaviours. Normal people change their behaviours to reach their goals.

The other powerful thing about alcohol is that if target not reached, so people will just think 'fook it, not gonna make it this month so may as well drink'
instead of cracking on. Not everyone, just some people

Miss_Piggy_2

I must admit, I can see where GC is coming from on this. I was at the top of that example list and I only managed 14 days . This means I was incapable (at that time) of going one month without a drink. Quite scary!

Targets DO have to be realistic but I'd rather have a higher target and have something to strive for than have a very low target and give up once I'm past it. All by the by with me anyway as am going for the giving up rather than the cutting down :rolleyes:. So I'll just stop my ramblings and wander off.......:rotfl:

Miss P
xx

mollypolly

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I must admit, I can see where GC is coming from on this. I was at the top of that example list and I only managed 14 days . This means I was incapable (at that time) of going one month without a drink. Quite scary!

Targets DO have to be realistic but I'd rather have a higher target and have something to strive for than have a very low target and give up once I'm past it. All by the by with me anyway as am going for the giving up rather than the cutting down :rolleyes:. So I'll just stop my ramblings and wander off.......:rotfl:

Miss P
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I really hope you can do it Miss Piggy....you will find life so much better without alcohol making you angry with OH.I am sure he appreciates what you are doing for him and little piglet.
Well done so far....

Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

fluffyb

I think everyone has to do what works the best for them really & try different ways to see which is best. For me it is setting a low and realistic target [10 days] because that is achievable and in my head my aim is to surpass my target. So far I have aways done that - I haven't got to 10 and then thought 'great now I can drink for the rest of the month' :rotfl: - last month my total was 18 even though my target was 10. For me personally, if I had set it at 18 and I didn't achieve that I would be really de motivated and give up feeling disappointed with myself so it is best to find what works the best for you - for me it is setting a lower target and trying to go over it and feeling chuffed with myself, for others it is setting themselves a harder goal. It is a bit of trial and error really - so if one way doesn't work for you - try the other way and see if that works

Anyway, please put me down for 7 AFDs Jo for today. Many thanks

Have a good evening all xx

Miss_Piggy_2

mollypolly wrote: »

I really hope you can do it Miss Piggy....you will find life so much better without alcohol making you angry with OH.I am sure he appreciates what you are doing for him and little piglet.
Well done so far....

Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Thanks Mollypolly. You are such a great example to the rest of us. I can feel the benefits in my personal life already - just got to keep it going!

Miss P
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