The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

Pippilongstocking

Welcome cardboard chewer from a fellow non newbie

Hope you are all good today

- another AF for me Budgie and tonight will be AF too - hugs me dear xx

ps I might even have lost another 1lb - but lets not speak about it until I am sure...........or we scare it and it comes back

nudging towards <9st (mind on a micron should weigh less than that)

Ta for the lovely posts and keep safe out there when the bells are a ding donging.

PRICE_IS_RIGHT_2

Evening all :j

Another AFD for me tonight - Wednesday and there's no way I'm giving in tonight and feeling really guilty tomorrow. So I'm at 15 for this month now ...

Must dash, loads to do .... feels weird that so many people are reading this ... we should start up a cooperative ...

Bi for now, and good luck to everybody tonight on remaining AF or moderate ....

fluffyb

Hope everyone has a good evening

Pease mark me down for 11 AFD's Budgie - I'm def going to be AF tonight :j

[Deleted User]

Loving this thread and delighted to see new people joining. I think this is a good reminder to everyone who has stopped for a bit as to what it was like then and what it is like now. Do we really want to go back to what it was?

I can relate to the depression/anxiety when I stopped drinking. I wouldn't say that in my case it was enough to need clinical intervention, but I certainly felt the challenge of living without the daily alcohol blackout

I think my "feeling down" came about when I realised what my behaviour had been (self-pitying, egotistical etc.) and what my character faults were - shame and fear, but also pride (it REALLY bothered me what people thought of me). Once I accepted these faults, forgave myself for my past errors and began to think more about what I can do for other people rather what they can do for me, the anxiety/stress/depression lifted.

One BIG thing I need to remember daily is not to get frustrated if people do things differently to how I would :rolleyes: Can you see why I'm self-employed? :rotfl:

All this is summed up as "Live and Let Live!" (but I'm a simple person who likes to complicate things)!

KEEP IT SIMPLE and if it all gets a bit difficult, remember "this too shall pass"....keeping surfing everyone, in every sense.

Thanks again for keeping me sober :T

Pippilongstocking

PIR, Fluffy and Hiphouse, well done on your AFD's - and to the rest of you

My Supervisor came into my office today and he reeked of drink! He had obviously had a night out yesterday or at least a few beers

fedupandskint

London_guy wrote: »

One thing I have found since stopping the booze is in addition to extreme tiredness I've actually been feeling quite down, frustrated and generally fed up. This has been a difficult side of it to deal with as on the other side of it I'm really pleased with myself for doing over a month AF now.

I think I may know what it is - I'm missing the escapism alcohol brought me from the stresses of everyday life - and the biggest escapism I think was from myself! It's not that I dislike myself intensly or anything, just that I often annoy myself with how I sometimes deal with life. I guess I have to use this alcohol free time to address these issues as what I've previously been doing is blotting it out - albeit for a few hours. Now I'm choosing not to do this with booze the frustrations are building up.

Has anyone else found this and had a bit of depression after giving up? Thinking it may help to have some counselling. I should probably start listening to all those meditation type CDs I've amassed over the years too!

I guess it's like having a mirror held up to me - just that the mirror used to be be a fogged up one with the alcohol and now it's a full HD close up one it's all a bit scary!
Would be interesting to hear from anyone who's knocked booze on the head for a while as to whether they had similar feelings and if anyone has found something to help

This is exactly how I found I was when I cut down to drinking on 18 days a month then 12 days a month then less and this month 5 days a month.

When I cut down in the first month I found my sleep pattern affected more than ever before. Interrupted sleep and took ages to get off to sleep. 2nd month I found my mood affected lots downwardly. 3rd month the same but sleep improved a lot to current state which is good. Mood improved a lot in the 3rd and 4th month just feel it affected by the full moon now!

All in all I do feel better and clearer, however I like the idea of meditation to help me cope with how I deal with life as this is what does my head in most of all.

Anyone have any recommendations to good meditation cd's

dotstar24

hi all soz its been a while since my last post. my quest to be af isnt going well. i have cut down though...think u can pretty much right me off for my target : (

have lost weight though!!!! xxxxx

Kellylea

Hello everyone

Hope your all ok.

Sorry trying to read through the posts i've missed. Fell off the waggon on the night out got drunk and felt rubbish the next day however i didn't do anything bad which is a good thing. Still had lots of anxiety and beer guilt the next day which is exactly what i wanted to avoid so back on the waggon now.

So that's 19 AF days for me in may and i still have the challenge of learning to go on nights out without booze.

x x x

eselt

Hi all- just checking in- welcome Cardboard and other newbies.

London- I felt very depressed when I gave up drinking, it seemed like the alcohol had allowed me to hold in my real emotions and not deal with stuff, and all of a sudden I was sober ans the floodgates really opened. I was very tearful and irritable and felt a bit lost to tell you the truth- but over the weeks my mood really lifted, especially when the sun came out, and I really started to appreciate thinking clearly, being calm, not overreacting to little things etc. Took a bit of getting used to, but its worth it.

Hope you are OK Stroppy (hugs) and get well soon.

Jo- you've gone a bit quiet again, you OK?

Hi to everyone, good luck tonight- get planning interesting things to do at the weekend, apparently its going to be our worst nightmare-its a bank holiday and its going to be sunny- danger danger.

budget_babe

I HAVE JUST LOST THE LONGEST POST :mad:

DOES ANYONE KNOW HOW I CAN PLEASE GET IT BACK?

I HAVE TRAWLED THROUGH HISTORY AND HAVE NOT MANAGED TO FIND IT :mad:

TO BE HONEST I FEEL REALLY UPSET, I JUST WON'T HAVE THE TIME TO DO IT AGAIN :mad:

AAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHH:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: