broody

myothercarisaferrari

Hi Roxalana. I've just turned 26, OH is almost 24 (but a very mature 24!)

he does want kids, he doesnt say when, just in the future. Its so so hard cos a lot of friends are having/had kids and are getting married (Obv I dont want kids cos my friends are!).

I kind of feel in limbo that my life is on hold until OH decides when he wants a baby/marriage etc.

Evansangel

Maybe you should point out the con's of waiting to have children?
Eg, risk of low sperm count etc.

Not that having children when your older is bad, i just read it somewhere lol x

Dinah93

And having more energy to play with them! A lot of people want them but 'not quite yet' and then something either happens to make them suddenly want them, or as can all to often happen an accident happens (apparently over half of babies weren't planned!).

You are both young, a lot of women get broody in their twenties, I was awful when I was 22-23, it's calmed down a lot now. As regards money, what do you consider 'enough'? Can you work towards getting more qualifications/promoted to be earning this?

And as for your MIL, stuff her! What business is it of hers when you have kids? My MiL2B told me that I would be a complete failure and dissapointment if I saddled her son with a child before he was 35 - the very first time I met her! Her son has his own ideas though, and wants the first before 30, so she's never gonna be happy with me!

myothercarisaferrari

Well tried to talk to him last night and he's 'not ready' for children and he's 'not ready' to get engaged. I asked within a few years, five years and he said 'he doesn't know'.

Feeling really sh*tty this morning after that. Please don't think I am trying to pressure him or anything but I just feel stuck in limbo and we have nothing too plan or look forward to.

sillylittlejill

Oh hun my OH is the same. I'm going to start having serious talks with him soon because he told me two years ago that he wanted to marry me but since then he has just got lazy, he says he can't afford to get me a ring (the one I liked a lot was £300) but he has gone and ordered some rayban sunglasses and is looking for a cheapish PS3 to buy. I just think he doesn't want to spend the money on a ring. It's not the ring that matters, I want to be married to the guy I love.

grr. Men are pooey sometimes
xxx

myothercarisaferrari

I dont want to get engaged or anything now, but saying he isnt ready isnt really filling me with confidence.

Writing this over the last few weeks and chatting to MSErs has got me thinking about other aspects of the relationship and I dont think I'm happy :-(

myrnahaz

I've deleted my post because I think your issue is more to do with you being fed up with your OH's lack of commitment than anything (I don't think you needed to read someone elses baby story!).
Good luck, anyway.

myothercarisaferrari

I've just realised that too x

sillylittlejill

hey

I am in the same position, I don't necessarily want to get married tomorrow, I just need to know that we both want the same things in the future and that I won't be wasting years with him then he turns round and says "I don't want kids or marriage, maybe we should split up" or something. Just need to know we are on the same page!!

Not very helpful, but I know how you feel!
xxx

myothercarisaferrari

thats exactly it Jill x