The Beautiful Paws Thread

shoppingnoodles

I really am so terribly sorry for your loss.

She was a beautiful little cat. They are part of your family and I hope you find some comfort with your other cats around you. Thinking of you this week Miroslav. Big hug.

Miroslav

MrsE wrote: »

Thats a lovely photo.

She has a really open friendly interested face.

Very inquisitive is Paws.

When she first arrived, as part of a 4 sister team, she was the first one who went to my male cat and started to play with him. He's not their official brother, and he's 2 months older than the girls, but they have been together for nearly 14.5 years and they are brother and sisters in our minds.

She's demanding, she's independent compared to the others and unlike the other 4, isn't a lap cat, although she likes to sit beside you and on other occasions, bite my nose and chin gently. She likes sitting with me on a chair.

I keep talking past tense and changing it to current. I can't do it yet.

Miroslav

Mutter wrote: »

That little face, bet you had something treaty for her.

Sometimes a treat, sometimes she just wanted attention. A bundle of fun.

And my flatmate really doesn't mind the ashes. It's not as bad as she thought. She's happy to have them around, although I can take them to my room at bedtime.

YorkiePud_3

Miroslav wrote: »

I know. It just stunned me. A proper diva was Paws, but as soon as she gets what she demands, she is appreciative.

You can really see it in her face ... *S* ...

And oi ... yer going nowhere, mate! It wouldn't be fair to leave the rest of your cats and as great as your flat mate is, I reckon they'd prefer to have you there too ... so as much as you feel like it, STAY PUT or else we'll all come beat you up, so there!

Seriously, I know how you feel ... give yourself time ... that is what you've got to do now .. it is going to take a lot of adapting to, so be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel however you want.

We all find different ways of coping and while people can give you lots of advice, we find our own way ... *S* ... so until then, you have to tread water a bit and just get through tonight ... then just get through tomorrow ... see what I mean?

Stop looking ahead and thinking how you cannot bear to be without her ... think of her tonight, and feel blessed that she came to you and you shared this time with her ... then tomorrow, you put her casket where you want it and just smile and know she's not far away ... *S*

As for the caskets ... well, Holly's is on the pocket dragon shelf surrounded by pocket dragons .. the casket for my #2 chihuahua is actually on the shelf above that ... but the other caskets I had out for some time but then it suddenly felt right to put them out of view.
They are in cupboards in my shelving unit but for some time, I had them out and about.

Something tells me Todd and Holly's will stay on my shelves though .. it just feels right for them to be there, especially Holly .. *S*

If anyone says anything to me, I explain and say what it is, and I say it just makes me feel better to have them close by like this. People understand .. *S* ...

YorkiePud_3

Mutter wrote: »

I've told you. take the ashes to your room and do not infiltrate on your flatmate.

I think if the flatmate cannot be sympathetic and understanding just for a few days, they're not worth owt ... sorry, just my opinion!!

MrsE_2

Miroslav wrote: »

I keep talking past tense and changing it to current. I can't do it yet.

I know exactly what you mean.

Trust me, the pain will be less as the happy memories come to the front of your thoughts.

Miroslav

lexilex wrote: »

I just wrote out a long post but my internet is playing up.

Just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear about your little cat.

It's 6 months on Sunday since my Lexi died. My first two cats were run over and I swore when I got her I wouldn't let the same happen again. When I found out she had been run over I can't describe the guilt I felt. What was even worse was that her body was found and she was taken away by the council.

When she first died I was inconsolable. I honestly thought I was losing it. I couldn't bare her not been around, not been at the end of the bed, not waking me up at stupid o'clock every morning to play. She was my baby. I treated her like a child, I talked to her like a child.

Things have got easier, I don't cry all the time like when it first happened. I still talk to her in my head before I go to bed every night. I get very lonely without her, especially when my boyfriend is on nights. You just learn to get on with it don't you? I aren't quite at that stage people talk about though where you are able to smile when you think of the daft things they did, I just get upset because she isn't here to do them anymore.

Sorry I'm going on. I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you. I felt like you, that people where getting annoyed with me for going on. It's totally natural though. I know I felt like people would be thinking 'it's only a cat', but people that think that obviously don't have pets, and don't understand how attached we become. It is just like losing a member of the family and hits you just as hard.

Keep posting on here hun if you think it's helping, that is exactly what I did.

Oh, and just seen the picture, she was beautiful xx

Sorry to hear of your cats and the way they passed. Did you ever get Lexi's ashes or anything?

We do these things with our cats/animals that non animal people don't understand. Mine are all like humans. We play silly games and they respond to different music and things on TV.

I talk outloud to her already. Just incase she's there. She is still included.

I don't think you are going on. I'd never say that about anyone. We all lose and we all like to talk about our loved ones. People have never let me talk about my lost loved ones. I know what it's like to have your feelings rejected. A pet is as important to us as a human. They are family.

I'll keep posting. I'm worried about outstaying my welcome.

She is indeed a beauty. As beautiful a personality as she looks.

Mutter_2

marshallka wrote: »

Perhaps you can use it as your avitar

Great idea marshallka.

Miroslav

shoppingnoodles wrote: »

I really am so terribly sorry for your loss.

She was a beautiful little cat. They are part of your family and I hope you find some comfort with your other cats around you. Thinking of you this week Miroslav. Big hug.

Thank you.

I'm loving my cats extra right now. They all deserve it.

Miroslav

YorkiePud wrote: »

You can really see it in her face ... *S* ...

And oi ... yer going nowhere, mate! It wouldn't be fair to leave the rest of your cats and as great as your flat mate is, I reckon they'd prefer to have you there too ... so as much as you feel like it, STAY PUT or else we'll all come beat you up, so there!

Seriously, I know how you feel ... give yourself time ... that is what you've got to do now .. it is going to take a lot of adapting to, so be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel however you want.

We all find different ways of coping and while people can give you lots of advice, we find our own way ... *S* ... so until then, you have to tread water a bit and just get through tonight ... then just get through tomorrow ... see what I mean?

Stop looking ahead and thinking how you cannot bear to be without her ... think of her tonight, and feel blessed that she came to you and you shared this time with her ... then tomorrow, you put her casket where you want it and just smile and know she's not far away ... *S*

As for the caskets ... well, Holly's is on the pocket dragon shelf surrounded by pocket dragons .. the casket for my #2 chihuahua is actually on the shelf above that ... but the other caskets I had out for some time but then it suddenly felt right to put them out of view.
They are in cupboards in my shelving unit but for some time, I had them out and about.

Something tells me Todd and Holly's will stay on my shelves though .. it just feels right for them to be there, especially Holly .. *S*

If anyone says anything to me, I explain and say what it is, and I say it just makes me feel better to have them close by like this. People understand .. *S* ...

I'm staying! They need me. I need them.

I just feel weak. I can't enjoy myself, I don't want to enjoy myself. It's disrespectful to Paws.

Each day, one by one. I just wish I had an empathetic person here that wants to talk with me about her.

I keep thinking of where she is right now. Hopefully with new friends and leaving a few seats for the rest of us when we are ready to join her.

It's wherever the caskets feel safe and appropriate. Flatmate has said she's okay with the 'sleeping cat', but not the collar or fur. That's fair enough and better than what I expected. I respect her wishes.

People have no choice. They understand or I don't listen. It's my cat, my room, my way.