The Beautiful Paws Thread

Miroslav

foreign_correspondent wrote: »

do post a picture miroslav, we all like showing off our lovely pets on here

the little wooden cat is very sweet too, and a nice way to commemorate your girl!

Could you please tell me how to post a picture. I haven't posted one for years on here.

Do I need to upload to an online file manager or something, first?

The wooden cat is very nice.

Mutter_2

Miroslav, you say.
"The ashes will be on her favourite chest of drawers in my bedroom. One of her favourite places and none of the others liked that area."

Miroslav, why not take the ashes to your room, that is where you may grieve in peace and place them on your chest of drawers. Her favourite place.

That way you can grieve in private for her, away from your flatmate.
It seems at present you have Kitty's ashes in full view of your flatmate, who does'nt quite share your views?

To lose a pet is sadness enough. Losing a lifetime, flat sharing companion would be tragic.

Miroslav

MrsE wrote: »

Thats exactly what I have Ted in (Oct 08).

Having a private cremation & having his ashes was a fitting & respectful way to say see ya later to a beloved family member.

I have some fur in a bag too.

I wonder if we used the same cremation service, mine was in Surrey near Godstone.

They did a lovely dignified service.

I know you don't feel it now, but in time the good feelings are remembered more than the pain of last night.

I too am grateful I was with Ted, that was lovely that you were there, with them.

We used these people in Dorset. About 30-40 mins from my home: http://www.pcsonline.org.uk/acatalog/index.php?page=useful_info

It felt weird being at a cremation. My partner, daughter and mother were all buried, so a cremation was very strange.

I'm thinking of the good times too. I just don't know how to go on. I feel so weak and have lost a lot of fight.

Miroslav

Tulip wrote: »

*hugs* Miroslav just remember the good times you shared with her and keep them in your heart.

thinking of you at this sad time


Katie

Thanks Katie.

Miroslav

Mutter wrote: »

Miroslav, you say.
"The ashes will be on her favourite chest of drawers in my bedroom. One of her favourite places and none of the others liked that area."

Miroslav, why not take the ashes to your room, that is where you may grieve in peace and place them on your chest of drawers. Her favourite place.

That way you can grieve in private for her, away from your flatmate.
It seems at present you have Kitty's ashes in full view of your flatmate, who does'nt quite share your views?

To lose a pet is sadness enough. Losing a lifetime, flat sharing companion would be tragic.

She seems to be okay with the ashes. She says it's not as bad as she thought it was going to be.

She knows I will carry the ashes around with me and will have them in my room overnight.

The fur and collar are upstairs now, on the chest of drawers. She wanted me to take them away, as that did spook her.

We are different. I'm wearing my heart on my sleeve, she's laughing and watching murder programs as always, which I don't like. It doesn't mean she doesn't care, she just deals with it differently. She loved Paws as much as I did. She loves all the cats, but one of them is her favourite. She adores 4, double adores the 5th. she treats them all very well and lovingly. The one she spends most time with, is the most clingy. All 5 are my equal favourites, I love them all just as much. They all have different characters, but they are all loving and well behaved.

Miroslav

I'm sorry if people think i'm silly for posting so much. It's not even been 24 hours. I just have no-one to talk to about her. Flatmate doesn't mind odd bits, but she's going to get annoyed with me.

Miroslav

marshallka

Miroslav wrote: »

I'm sorry if people think i'm silly for posting so much. It's not even been 24 hours. I just have no-one to talk to about her. Flatmate doesn't mind odd bits, but she's going to get annoyed with me.

I don't find you silly. Its good to talk and also normal to grieve a loved one.


And what a bobby dazzler too.:A

YorkiePud_3

Miroslav wrote: »

Thanks spookeylukey. Another nice piece of writing. I'm missing her, but am thinking of the good times too, bringing tears to my eyes.

Yorkie - yes, the day was about my little girl. It was all about her.

I have the cat casket next to me. Flatmate seems to be okay with having it around. She said it feels fine for now. She did ask me to take the box, including collar and fur upstairs as she felt spooked out. She never looked at Paws after she died, she couldn't. I understand. I kept looking in the box, just incase she was looking down and felt unloved or she started breathing again.

It's a good idea to try and get an engraved strip and stick it on myself. Plenty of room, especially underneath. Can I just get a strip without taking the 'sleeping cat' in? I don't want to take her out of the house again.

Holly's place is Holly's place. Who cares what anyone thinks, like you say. If she would be happy there, that is all that matters.

I still feel bad. I don't cry, then I start crying etc. When I got the ashes, I was returning my girl home. Not in the same guise as before, but she's here. A small crumb of comfort.

It wasn't even a service. Tiny room for 3 of us (me, flatmate, cat) and whilst we were there, had to fill in forms. The crematorium guy then opened the hatch thinking we'd gone, but when realised, he held up his hands and said sorry. I had to leave her at some point, that was the worst bit. Getting her back in this lovely sleeping cat, meant she was only gone for an hour.

Flatmate has just cooked some chips to go with some cold chicken. I thought on the way back about not eating meat ever again and will think about it again. I'll try and east some of it now, then hopefully sleep a little later, with Paws in my room.

She isn't ill anymore and she'll never be forgotten.

Am I allowed to post a picture? I understand if i'm not allowed. I don't know the rules on that.

Hiyah ... *S*

I am sure you can get a little brass strip engraved without having to take your little girl with you ... you know the type of shop I mean? It's a heel bar who does trophy engraving .. that kind of thing.
When I go in town, I will have a look at the name of the shop incase they are a chain and you might have one local to you.

I can understand your flatmate to an extent ... but omg, I did all the watching and checking Holly for breathing JUST incase ... so I can identify more with you. Some folks hide their grief and others just have to let it out ... which, I reckon is better in the long run!

I was looking in my drawers earlier and I found a clipping of hair I took from my Yorkie. Just in a little envelope, but funnily enough, I found a lovely photo of him too recently and I think I might just frame the photo and put the hair in a little cellophane packet on the back of the photo. Not so it is on show, but I know it's there and it's safe ... *S*

I am so glad you feel the way I do ... that to bring the casket home, you feel your little girl is still with you ... it helps me every time to be able to bring them back home. And of course, having a casket like yours, it looks just like an ornament really so you can have it on the hearth by the fire, or someplace in the room without it being totally obvious what it is.

If you're not happy with the service, why don't you go someplace nice and peaceful, or just when you're on your own, and say a few words yourself? Maybe if you have the place to yourself, light a little candle of remembrance and just say some words out loud or in your head ... I know friends who release a balloon when they lose any pets, just to signify their spirits being free now .. I haven't done that but I think it's a lovely thing to do ... *S*

Yes, you have to look after yourself now ... you have done everything you possibly could have done for Paws and now you have to make sure you are ok so you can look after the rest of your kitty gang!

Today will fade and the pain will ease a little bit in time, but the good memories will become stronger as days go by ... and yes, it would be lovely to see a piccy!!

YorkiePud_3

*L* you posted your piccy just as I was posting my post!

Awwww, what a cuteypie! She has such a kind face if you know what I mean! ... that's a lovely photo ... her eyes are so expressive *S*