The Beautiful Paws Thread

Miroslav

Thank you for all of your posts.

I have her ashes in a wooden 'sleeping cat', similar to this one: http://www.cpccares.com/images/general/caskets-urns/large/sleeping-cat.jpg

only a bit lighter coloured, to reflect her gingerness.

I also have her collar and 3 small clear polytheney bags with some fur in them.

She stayed in the towel I wrapped around her and a pink blanket.

The ashes will be on her favourite chest of drawers in my bedroom. One of her favourite places and none of the others liked that area. It was hers. When flatmate is not around, she will come downstairs and watch TV and just be in the living room. Flatmate feels a little strange with the ashes around. I understand and won't force her to be around them, but she said she may be okay one day with them.

The bloke who took us, was okay with us. He was more practical than empathetic (is that a word?). He barely said anything and seemed in a rush. He arrived late picking us up and then in the chapel, said he was ready to go to a cafe as he'd not had any lunch. It felt a bit clinical at times. The chap at the crematorium spoke softly, but didn't know what to say. The vet and the receptionist I spoke too earlier today were a bit clinical too, although the receptionist did say 'sorry to hear of the bad news'

I guess I just needed a bit of affection. I've had a text saying how someone was sorry and so has flatmate. Flatmate deals with things differently to me, and that's okay, but sometimes it seems like she doesn't care. It's her way of dealing with it, whereas manly me.....just cries 99% of the time, i'm a bloke, then the other 1% talking about the people i've lost, i'm a wreck.

I'm glad people on here have been so kind. It's what I really needed today. I wish at least one of you could have been with me, but we got through. Flatmate and I even told each other we cared about each other, and we never do that. We just are friends, with no real emotion usually. We tend to help each other practically, rather than emotionally.

My baby is home and here to stay. One day, her brother and sisters, myself and flatmate will go join her and our other lost loved ones. In the meantime, she is here in spirit. I can feel her here. I can't describe it, but she is here.

lorweld

A Simple Message From Your Pet

by Ken D. Conover
To have loved and then said farewell is better than to have never loved at all.
For all of the times that you stooped and touched my head, fed me my favorite treat and
returned the love that I so unconditionally gave to you. For the care that you gave to me
so unselfishly. For all of these things I am grateful and thankful. I ask that you grieve
not for the loss but rejoice in the fact that we lived, loved and touched each other's lives.
My life was fuller because you were there, not as owner, but as my friend. Today, I am
as I was in my youth. The grass is always green, butterflies flit among fthe flowers and
the sun shines gently down upon all of God's creatures. I can run, jump and play
and do all of the things that I did in my youth. There is no sickness, no aching joints
and no regrets and no aging. We await the arrival of our lifelong companions and know
that togetherness is forever. You live in our hearts as we do in yours. Companions such
as you are very rare and unique. Don't hold the love that you have within yourself.
Give it to another like me and then I will live forever. For love never really dies,
and you are loved and missed as surely as we are.
Your pet in heaven.

Miroslav

YorkiePud wrote: »

Hi again ...

That's a lovely idea about the towel .. as you say it will have all the familiar smells of home on it that she recognises. One of my dogs was taken there in one of my old jumpers that he used to pilfer off the clothes airer to sleep on!!

I have always let my pets go to the one that has passed away to say their goodbye too ... they go up, have a sniff then walk away as though they don't care, but it shows you they realise their pal isn't there any more and I have never had an animal who has pined for one gone, so it seems to have been the right thing to do in my case *S*

I have an area in my bedroom where I have photos of all the pets I have had ... (a proper little gallery!) and it is so comforting to see their pics there, and I talk to them too! A quick hello ... or if I give a toy to my dog I say what would you have thought of this?
It sounds mad, but it isn't ... *S*

That is a really good price ... whew! I paid just over £110 last time (December 2008) and drove myself ... so that is a good price you have been quoted.

I'm sure you will have the little plaque for the top of the casket .. they will probably ask you what you would like inscribed on it and they'll do that for you while you are waiting.

Sometimes they put a few artificial flowers on the top of the casket too (but if you don't like them, you can always pull em off later!) ...

You might be surprised though with your other cats ... they may give you more love, realising how saddened you are ... *S* ... it is amazing how they realise when we are down and upset and they try their best to give us the comfort we need ...

I don't think the clipping of fur is my cup of tea really .. and by the sounds of it, if you have her collar and some photos and videos, it sounds like you are going to have a lovely box of memories ... *S* some people print off a small photo of their pet and stick it on the casket. Personally, I print out big pics and frame em on the wall!!

I truly believe that our animals stay close to us and that sometimes, just sometimes, we get to feel them around us for a fleeting moment ... just as though they are saying, "I'm ok ... I love you and I'll see you again one day."

Got to zoom now, I hope everything goes as you would hope it to and I'll be sending thoughts your way ... take care ...

She had the towel and a pink blanket, along with all the love and affection anyone could handle.

My others know she has gone. They saw her go. They are okay. A little sad I think, but they will get by as they have us 2 adults and each other.

I'm already speaking to little Paws. Speaking to the air, the casket, stroking the casket. I'll never stop doing that.

No plaque, but a certificate. I aim to decorate the casket somehow. Maybe a picture of Paws, or something. Not sure.

My cats are very loving anyway. All of them come up and give affection. We brought them up with lots of affection and they give back.

I'm going to do lots for Paws. She won't be allowed to be forgotten!

I know she is here, I can feel her. She shall patiently wait for us. In the meantime, she has new friends who treat her well.

Mutter_2

Your grief is palpable Miroslav. I could hardly read your post through.
Sorry that the crematorium service was below par, but it's the life your cat lived that matters and it was a very good life.

What a horrible day for you, hope tomorrow is a little easier.
Come on here if you feel low, there'll always be someone here that understands.

Miroslav

marshallka wrote: »

So sorry for you miroslav. You sound such a lovely caring person. Your cat would only want you to carry on caring regardless of having what you have. There is always room and needs in this world for someone like yourself so take your time to grieve. You gave her the best of everything and you should feel comfort in that in time.

My daughters hammy (I know it was only a hammy but to her the world) died recently and she made a jewellery box at Christmas time (a present from someone) and she bedded it out and painted all over it and buried the little darling in it with also a guardian angel which she had bought for me some time ago. We have her buried in the garden with a little handmade cross where my daughter can see outside her bedroom. SHe still cries now. Its so sad.

I know I gave her so much. She gave so much to me too and her memory will keep giving me that.

Sorry to hear your daughter is still sad. It's nice she made the jewellery box for her hamster.

Miroslav

hethmar wrote: »

I think you are doing the right thing going to day for the service, you cant find peace in your heart til their body has truly been settled.

Keep her collar and if you are worried about the photos and vids have them copied.

Once the cremation is over - grieve, but you must move on. She is no longer in pain, celebrate her long and happy life, dont mourn those last days forever.

You mustnt sacrifice your life, health and peace of mind - that would be wrong and worthless and not appreciating the happiness she gave you.

Please let us know how things go today. xxx

I'm pleased she is no longer ill. She was SO brave and she purred right up to the last breath.

I have a few vids of her. All about a minute long, but better than none, plus loads of photos.

I will move on slowly. She'll always be a part of me and i'm not ready to let her go just yet.

Miroslav

missstropy wrote: »

Didnt want to read and run as everyone on here was so nice to me when my 14yr old lab died just after christmas.

Im so sorry for you and sending you hugs.

We have bessies ashes in the living room, I still put the box on the sofa somethimes at night when I miss her she sits in the middle of us daft I know but it makes me feel like shes still here. Am only just getting around to thinking where to put her ashes she loved so many places, it seems mean keeping her couped up in the house all day whe she loved outside. Maybe just keep a bit in the house and take he rest to the places she loved.

Sorry about your lab

Paws' ashes will stay here. They are indoor cats and they didn't like outside after a couple threw water over them when they were young. She has 2 or 3 favourite places around the place and they will move around, when the times see right.

Miroslav

lorweld wrote: »

A Simple Message From Your Pet

by Ken D. Conover
To have loved and then said farewell is better than to have never loved at all.
For all of the times that you stooped and touched my head, fed me my favorite treat and
returned the love that I so unconditionally gave to you. For the care that you gave to me
so unselfishly. For all of these things I am grateful and thankful. I ask that you grieve
not for the loss but rejoice in the fact that we lived, loved and touched each other's lives.
My life was fuller because you were there, not as owner, but as my friend. Today, I am
as I was in my youth. The grass is always green, butterflies flit among fthe flowers and
the sun shines gently down upon all of God's creatures. I can run, jump and play
and do all of the things that I did in my youth. There is no sickness, no aching joints
and no regrets and no aging. We await the arrival of our lifelong companions and know
that togetherness is forever. You live in our hearts as we do in yours. Companions such
as you are very rare and unique. Don't hold the love that you have within yourself.
Give it to another like me and then I will live forever. For love never really dies,
and you are loved and missed as surely as we are.
Your pet in heaven.

Very nice. Thanks

hayley11

Awww Miro just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about your cat. Sending you lots of hugs. Take care of yourself xx

Miroslav

Mutter wrote: »

Your grief is palpable Miroslav. I could hardly read your post through.
Sorry that the crematorium service was below par, but it's the life your cat lived that matters and it was a very good life.

What a horrible day for you, hope tomorrow is a little easier.
Come on here if you feel low, there'll always be someone here that understands.

Flatmate and I agreed. We gave her the respect she deserved and that's all she will have wanted and needed. She went with her head held high.

I may need to come on. I just can't stop thinking of her.