The Beautiful Paws Thread

Miroslav

MrsE wrote: »

I know exactly what you mean.

Trust me, the pain will be less as the happy memories come to the front of your thoughts.

I hope so. She just means so much and I have to go through this 4 more times with the others yet.

I'm going to lay with some of my cats for a bit. I shall be back before bed incase anyone else has posted.

YorkiePud_3

Miroslav wrote: »

I'm staying! They need me. I need them.

I just feel weak. I can't enjoy myself, I don't want to enjoy myself. It's disrespectful to Paws.

Each day, one by one. I just wish I had an empathetic person here that wants to talk with me about her.

I keep thinking of where she is right now. Hopefully with new friends and leaving a few seats for the rest of us when we are ready to join her.

It's wherever the caskets feel safe and appropriate. Flatmate has said she's okay with the 'sleeping cat', but not the collar or fur. That's fair enough and better than what I expected. I respect her wishes.

People have no choice. They understand or I don't listen. It's my cat, my room, my way.

You are so right there ... every day, one by one .. just take each day as it comes ... and wherever your little cat is right now, you can be sure of one thing ... she is free from pain and discomfort ... her passing wasn't a bad one and she seemed settled just prior to it. That must be reassuring for you ... it is awful when we lose a pet who is in extreme pain and distress ... as much as it doesn't make it any easier, it must make you feel slightly better to know she had such a peaceful passing.

Well, you take that fur and her collar in your room with you ... why not get a really nice little box to keep them in, like the poster who spoke about her daughter's pet ... *S* ... you could keep it in your room and it is there when you feel the need to keep it close by you .. you can get some really lovely little carved boxes, or perhaps even a little box with a cat on!

My bed head is a fan type shape, all spokelike, and I have a few collars fastened to that .. they've been there years. No one else sees them, so no one's getting upset, and they are close by me ... *S*

No, you won't want to enjoy yourself right now ... but in time, you need to start living your life again the way you were prior to losing your friend ... it would only have upset her to have seen you upset ... and you have to be fair to your other cats too .. they need you upbeat and happy *S* ...

lexilex

Miroslav wrote: »

Sorry to hear of your cats and the way they passed. Did you ever get Lexi's ashes or anything?

We do these things with our cats/animals that non animal people don't understand. Mine are all like humans. We play silly games and they respond to different music and things on TV.

I talk outloud to her already. Just incase she's there. She is still included.

I don't think you are going on. I'd never say that about anyone. We all lose and we all like to talk about our loved ones. People have never let me talk about my lost loved ones. I know what it's like to have your feelings rejected. A pet is as important to us as a human. They are family.

I'll keep posting. I'm worried about outstaying my welcome.

She is indeed a beauty. As beautiful a personality as she looks.

Don't worry about outstaying your welcome, everyone is lovely on here, and talking about things helps. If you want you can PM me too.

In the end, after a few phone calls, I got Lexi back, in a disposal bag from the council, but don't get me started on that one.

I know exactly what you mean about feeling like you're disrespecting your cat by enjoying yourself. For the first few weeks, I would notice myself smiling at something, or laughing, and I would feel awful, like I shouldn't be doing it. It's silly when you think about it. Then that awful sinking feeling would return.

Try and get a good nights sleep tonight hun xx

Miroslav

YorkiePud wrote: »

You are so right there ... every day, one by one .. just take each day as it comes ... and wherever your little cat is right now, you can be sure of one thing ... she is free from pain and discomfort ... her passing wasn't a bad one and she seemed settled just prior to it. That must be reassuring for you ... it is awful when we lose a pet who is in extreme pain and distress ... as much as it doesn't make it any easier, it must make you feel slightly better to know she had such a peaceful passing.

Well, you take that fur and her collar in your room with you ... why not get a really nice little box to keep them in, like the poster who spoke about her daughter's pet ... *S* ... you could keep it in your room and it is there when you feel the need to keep it close by you .. you can get some really lovely little carved boxes, or perhaps even a little box with a cat on!

My bed head is a fan type shape, all spokelike, and I have a few collars fastened to that .. they've been there years. No one else sees them, so no one's getting upset, and they are close by me ... *S*

No, you won't want to enjoy yourself right now ... but in time, you need to start living your life again the way you were prior to losing your friend ... it would only have upset her to have seen you upset ... and you have to be fair to your other cats too .. they need you upbeat and happy *S* ...

She wasn't 100% in her final days, but she was getting by. She appreciated the stroking as she purred when I stroked her. I'm glad she no longer feels less than 100%

I will get a nice box for the collar, fur and other bits. I'll have more than one, just incase something happens to one of them.

Interesting place to put collars. Nice place for them to be, like they are with you at night.

I will start living again, when ready. The other cats are getting alot of attention. I don't want Paws looking down on me thinking i've moved on. Yes she doesn't want me sad, but she needs to see that I still love her and she is still part of my life, forever.

Miroslav

lexilex wrote: »

Don't worry about outstaying your welcome, everyone is lovely on here, and talking about things helps. If you want you can PM me too.

In the end, after a few phone calls, I got Lexi back, in a disposal bag from the council, but don't get me started on that one.

I know exactly what you mean about feeling like you're disrespecting your cat by enjoying yourself. For the first few weeks, I would notice myself smiling at something, or laughing, and I would feel awful, like I shouldn't be doing it. It's silly when you think about it. Then that awful sinking feeling would return.

Try and get a good nights sleep tonight hun xx

I've been made to feel welcome. I hope it lasts.

Glad you got Lexi back. I won't get you started. I detest councils and similar authorities myself, so I can only imagine.

I've done small things already. Talking about eating, then thinking it's wrong to enjoy food. Talking about moving a CD that was in the wrong place and thinking I shouldn't even think about music, which i'm not, but just moving the CD. Even going to sleep makes me feel guilty.

I am going to bed shortly. Paws day 2 is over. I have her ashes with me for the 1st time tonight. It's going to be strange. I hope I get some sleep.

epsilondraconis

I was never really a cat person until we got married and got our cat. We've had her almost 7 years now and I don't know what I'd do without her. She has the run of the house. She gets under the covers when she's cold, we get up to feed her when she wants food, I run around the house after her when she wants to be chased and in turn she follows me around the house like my shadow. Even when she is asleep on the bed during the day and I attempt to make some lunch (I work from home), no matter how quiet I am, she is downstairs trying to get food off of me. Of course, she gets what she wants.

I think the loss I'd feel when she goes would be indescribable - and I'm a bloke.

Our thoughts are with you Miroslav - I hope you get some rest...

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

Just want to say sorry for your loss and I can understand how you feel.
I lost my last two cats to different cancers.They died on the same day.
That was over seven years ago and I just can't get another cat,the pain is still with me.
Your girl is very like one of my boy's that I lost back then.Cherish your memories of her and remember you gave her a very happy life.Allow yourself time to grieve.It's only natural.
I would'nt worry about your flatmate,some people just don't see the wonder and beauty in a cat as others do.
Take care.

Mutter_2

Morning Miroslav, did you get some sleep?
Don't forget to eat some breakfast this morning.:A

beachbeth

I hope you're feeling a little better this morning, Miro.

I know what you mean about feeling guilty about enjoying yourself but soon you will be able to listen to music and laugh again without this guilt and, in a way, its more of a celebration of your cat's life that you can enjoy yourself and yet still think of your memories of her. You have had a lot of heartbreak in your life so stay strong and know that there are people here who totally understand.

(I feel sorry for people who don't understand 'animal' people and say "its only a cat/dog". They are the ones missing out.)

YorkiePud_3

Miroslav wrote: »

She wasn't 100% in her final days, but she was getting by. She appreciated the stroking as she purred when I stroked her. I'm glad she no longer feels less than 100%

I will get a nice box for the collar, fur and other bits. I'll have more than one, just incase something happens to one of them.

Interesting place to put collars. Nice place for them to be, like they are with you at night.

I will start living again, when ready. The other cats are getting alot of attention. I don't want Paws looking down on me thinking i've moved on. Yes she doesn't want me sad, but she needs to see that I still love her and she is still part of my life, forever.

Morning ... *S*

Yes, but by seeing you carry on and eventually being able to cope with your sadness is the best thing you can do for her .. that comes with time though and you are nowhere near that, which is why I said give yourself as much time as you need .. *S*

I think we all have to find our own way .. I mean, we can all tell you what we do, but you have to do what feels right and most appropriate. I do like the idea of keeping her collar and fur in a special little box though ... I think I might do that for some of mine (perhaps it's time for those collars to come off my bedhead now!) ... a little memory box with their collar, bit of fur clipping and a photo ... I think that feels the right way to go for me and my collars now ...

But you see, being sad doesn't show Paws you love her ... if she is someplace where she is aware of what is still happening here, then don't you think she would be terribly sad to see you hurting?

I'm not saying don't grieve ... gawd, I would NEVER say that!!
What I am saying is don't deprive yourself of living because you think it is, in some way, betraying her ... and I am not saying that in a preachy way .. I'm saying it cos I have been there 12 times now, felt the same and, in time, realised it helps nobody!!

You grieve and cry for the first few miles, then in time you get to remember with smiles ...