The Beautiful Paws Thread

Miroslav

epsilondraconis wrote: »

I was never really a cat person until we got married and got our cat. We've had her almost 7 years now and I don't know what I'd do without her. She has the run of the house. She gets under the covers when she's cold, we get up to feed her when she wants food, I run around the house after her when she wants to be chased and in turn she follows me around the house like my shadow. Even when she is asleep on the bed during the day and I attempt to make some lunch (I work from home), no matter how quiet I am, she is downstairs trying to get food off of me. Of course, she gets what she wants.

I think the loss I'd feel when she goes would be indescribable - and I'm a bloke.

Our thoughts are with you Miroslav - I hope you get some rest...

I'm a male too and if people went by stereotype, they'd look at me and think I was a blokey bloke with no feelings.

I too was never a cat person, then when I was 16, a stray decided to visit us often and I grew attached. I had to leave where I was, but I knew he was in good hands.

When I was 18 and moved in with flatmate, she wanted a cat. We got our male, aged 2 months and I adore him. We went to get him a friend 3 months later and the family that had the kittens just wanted shot of them, they had 4, we took the 4! I am so glad we did, as ever since then, I have adored all 5 of my babies.

Your cat sounds like Paws. No matter where she is, no matter how fast asleep she is and no matter if another cat is 2 metres from me, I open a pouch of food, and there she is, first in queue. Well at least on the occasions she wasn't coming up to you to remind you it was time for food. I'll miss her demanding ways. She didn't mean it badly, she just wanted what she wanted, like cats do.

Miroslav

MRSTITTLEMOUSE wrote: »

Just want to say sorry for your loss and I can understand how you feel.
I lost my last two cats to different cancers.They died on the same day.
That was over seven years ago and I just can't get another cat,the pain is still with me.
Your girl is very like one of my boy's that I lost back then.Cherish your memories of her and remember you gave her a very happy life.Allow yourself time to grieve.It's only natural.
I would'nt worry about your flatmate,some people just don't see the wonder and beauty in a cat as others do.
Take care.

The same day I worry now, that another is going to go soon. Another of mine was ill i November and vet said she didn't think she'd make it. With threatment, she got better and vet has no idea what was wrong. She's now like a kitten again, she runs so fast and so much, i'm scared she's going to injure herself.

My flatmate adores the cats. She said last night she was okay with the ashes around as long as I was here too. When I go out, or to bed, I should put them in my room, which I respect totally. She wants to remember Paws fully the way she was when she was happy, which she was just about every day of her life, until the bitter end, and even then she was happy she was with us.

Miroslav

Mutter wrote: »

Morning Miroslav, did you get some sleep?
Don't forget to eat some breakfast this morning.:A

I was in bed for 12 hours. I didn't sleep much of that, but I was there. My usual 2 suspects were cuddling in with me, the other 2 slightly more independent ones were in their usual places. I drifted, woke up, drifted etc etc.

Paws was up on the chest of drawers. I hope she felt safe.

Miroslav

beachbeth wrote: »

I hope you're feeling a little better this morning, Miro.

I know what you mean about feeling guilty about enjoying yourself but soon you will be able to listen to music and laugh again without this guilt and, in a way, its more of a celebration of your cat's life that you can enjoy yourself and yet still think of your memories of her. You have had a lot of heartbreak in your life so stay strong and know that there are people here who totally understand.

(I feel sorry for people who don't understand 'animal' people and say "its only a cat/dog". They are the ones missing out.)

I'm glad I don't have to go out. I'm not ready yet. Give myself the weekend. I have what I need and what everyone else needs. I may go out if I feel the need to get some fresh air or something clicks in my mind to buy, in honour of Paws. I'm spending alot of time with the other cats at the moment. Even more than usual, if that's possible.

I hope I laugh again one day. I've never got over previous deaths, although I manage to smile sometimes. I've never been the same since my first experience of death and I never will be.

Miroslav

YorkiePud wrote: »

Morning ... *S*

Yes, but by seeing you carry on and eventually being able to cope with your sadness is the best thing you can do for her .. that comes with time though and you are nowhere near that, which is why I said give yourself as much time as you need .. *S*

I think we all have to find our own way .. I mean, we can all tell you what we do, but you have to do what feels right and most appropriate. I do like the idea of keeping her collar and fur in a special little box though ... I think I might do that for some of mine (perhaps it's time for those collars to come off my bedhead now!) ... a little memory box with their collar, bit of fur clipping and a photo ... I think that feels the right way to go for me and my collars now ...

But you see, being sad doesn't show Paws you love her ... if she is someplace where she is aware of what is still happening here, then don't you think she would be terribly sad to see you hurting?

I'm not saying don't grieve ... gawd, I would NEVER say that!!
What I am saying is don't deprive yourself of living because you think it is, in some way, betraying her ... and I am not saying that in a preachy way .. I'm saying it cos I have been there 12 times now, felt the same and, in time, realised it helps nobody!!

You grieve and cry for the first few miles, then in time you get to remember with smiles ...

You are right, I need time. I hope i'm given it. I have a few things I neeed to sort, but right now, it's a bit too much.

I'm focusing right now on what to do to honour Paws, look after my cats and flatmate. She needs support too. She grieves in her own way.

Paws would want me to carry on, but she'll also understand that will take time. Cats understand and gradually i'll do more. She'll also be purring because I haven't forgotten her.

My cats are so close that i've used their personalities to give them things like the music they !!!!! their ears too and TV Programs they watch. I put music on that Paws liked and imagine her enjoying it.

dirtyfist

just buy a new cat at thesun.co.uk hope that helps

:j

Miroslav

15:36 - 24 hours since ashes returned.

I checked timings on everything. Don't know why.

bank_of_slate

Where are you going to scatter the ashes Miroslav?
...Linda xx

Miroslav

They are going to stay in the sleeping cat.

All our cats are indoor cats, as when they were young, some neighbours threw water over them.

She will remain with us indoors, where she would want to be.

bank_of_slate

My darling cats are both 19 years old, still fit and well and I will be devastated beyond belief when they die.
Remember your cat when he was healthy and happy.
...Linda xx