The Beautiful Paws Thread

bank_of_slate

Miroslav wrote: »

19 is impressive. I hope some of mine reach that.

Are they indoor or outdoor cats?

They are very much outdoor cats
...Linda xx

laurauk

what lovely person you are, and your posts made me cry, i have been reading them all the time and following your sad story. i have a little yorkie who is three and a big kitty who is 12. they are my fur babies, my daughter says im silly but i dont care, hubby and daughter love them as much as i do and i dont and cant imagine not having them here with me.
i think my heart would break as they bring our family so much joy,
we are not nutters or strange but do appreciate and love animals, they are a pure soul and dont know the meaning of hurt.
my babies seem to know when we feel ill or down and always snuggle up for a cuddle and look at us with their loving eyes.
i do know what your going through and i know and hope the pain will ease for you soon,
your buddy has gone to a lovely place but will always visit you, i believe that they do come back and visit and once you feel alot better she will probably come back, you might sense or feel her, i know alot of people who have felt their departed friends come back, but right now its too raw and she has just passed, but you do need to heal and look after yourself for your other little friends who need and rely on you,
sending you lots of love and hope it gets easier soon lauraxx

Miroslav

bank_of_slate - Even more impressive.

Laura - Thank you.Animals are extremely intelligent and alot of us are animal lovers. We may be considered nuts by non animal lovers, but it's they who are missing out.

I keep thinking I see something out the corner of my eye, but she's never there. When I hear something outside of the room i'm in, I listen carefully to hear if it's a Paws meow or scuffing, but it never is. I know she's here, I just know it.

I'm a little annoyed right now. Flatmate is moving on as if she never existed. Won't even respond whenever I mention her, won't even mention her herself. Is dacning, singing, laughing as if nothing has happened.

I know it may be her way of coping, but she's in my face with it, being loud and talking about things that really don't matter. I just want to be left to mourn without being wound up.

laurauk

hi there, how are you feeling this morning? did you sleep better? i hope you did. maybe your flat mate is acting like this as its her way of dealing with your loss?
i know its strange but alot of people deal with it in different ways, have you asked her how shes feeling?
sometimes it takes awhile for people to show their true feelings, whilst others do it straight away.
it sounds like maybe your furry buddy has been comming back and telling you thats shes fine and made it, and she wants you to be happy now?
believe me, it will take alot of time and i dont think you really ever get over it? but it gets easier and you will remember the happy times.
hopes this helps alittle?
love laura

YorkiePud_3

Hi again ... you know, I was going to come on here and say "what a heartless flatmate ... blah blah blah" ... but you know, perhaps she doesn't really know how badly this is affecting you and she might think that to try and jig you up and cheer you up is the best thing to do.

She probably doesn't realise it is having the opposite effect and thinks it is what she should do to help you at the moment ...

Why not have a quiet word and say, "I really appreciate you being upbeat and cheery at the mo ... it is lovely you are trying to cheer me up by acting as tho things are back to normal, but I think it is going to take me some time to get my head round this, so it's ok ... don't worry about me, just let me deal with it my way and I promise I will be ok!"

Funny you saying you are listening out for noises ... when I lost my Holly, she had been the only cat indoors ... so all the cat noises I heard after she passed just HAD to be her coming back to make her presence known .. I tell you .. when I heard noises on the landing, I was out there, stomping up and down to try and recreate them .. but nope .. they were the noises she used to make ... I heard them so much ... even heard a scratch at my bedroom door one afternoon (so I wasn't in bed at night, dreaming it!) my own fault for leaving the door shut!
Probably a protestation because she loved every door to be open!

I lost her 29 Dec last year so it is still very raw, but the last month I have felt a bit more "at ease" and the noises have been less ... just now and then I will be sat at my pc in my bedroom and hear the sound she made jumping down off the bed ... a soft thud on the floor as she landed ... or a little scratch at the door ... but they are few and far between now .. *S*

geri1965_2

Miroslav, I'm so sorry for your loss. My cat has recently been diagnosed with a "growth" in her abdomen, which I am assuming means cancer. The vet says he can't tell me how long she has, and it's breaking my heart.

Hope you feel better soon.

Miroslav

Laura - sleep is very patchy. It helps I have 4 other cats, 2 that sleep with me, as I cuddle into them.

Flatmate is strange. Paws wasn't her favourite. She loved her and cared for her, but another one is her favourite. I don't know how she feels, but she's carrying on as if Paws never existed.

I keep thinking I hear her, but she's not there. Probably more out of hope than reality.

Yorkie - She knows how badly i'm affected. I just think she has other priorities. I've always been the one that has spent more time with the cats. She cares about them, but in her world, flatmate comes first, second , third, then it's her favourite, then the other 4, then me.

I was in the bathroom earlier and the door opened on it's own (it wasn't fully closed) It was likely the wind, but Paws liked to come running in the bathroom and investigate the area.

I'm aware of that thud off the bed upstairs. You know they are seconds away from popping their head into your living room. Paws never was a bedroom cat though, other than at night and her beloved chest of drawers. She spent most of her time downstairs under the PC table, near me, or on the sofa.

geri - I hope your cat lives for a good while yet. Hopefully the growth will stabilise and not cause kitty any problems for a long long time.

Miroslav

I'm acting like the only one that is remembering Paws in my house.

Flatmate was talking to a friend on the phone earlier and was laughing away as normal, as if nothing has happened.

The cats seem to be doing okay. I think a couple are a bit funny, but may be my imagination.

Myself on the other hand, have lost interest in everything. I'm only eating my main meal, which is something. The rest of the time, i'm laying around with the other cats or online, trying to find something to do, but my concentration won't let me.

I just keep thinking it's unfair. We are a 7, not a 6. It doesn't feel right, something is missing and she was a big part of our home.

I know she is here, but I don't know if she is okay, and I can't touch her, see her or give her any of her favourite things.

foreign_correspondent

Life goes on, even after you have had a bereavement, animal or human - and it's always odd and feels alienating, because your head seems to be in such a different place to the rest of the world.

I remember travelling to a friends funeral last year, and it was a bright sunny day, and people were out shopping, kids were playing on bikes, people sitting outside pubs and laughing, and it all feels so odd, so foreign, because you feel so dark and grief stricken at the time, and so far removed from all that.

You can't expect your flatmate to experience grief in the same way that you are - maybe it hasnt touched her so deeply, maybe she is not grieving so much, maybe she just deals with it differently.

A friend of mine lost her much loved and sprightly old grandad, and it was just as if nothing had happened - she didnt know why, but for some reason she just didnt grieve in any real shape or form - she said it just didnt really hit her... who knows how the human brain works, try to appreciate that your flatmate has the right to feel however she does, just as much as you have the right to feel however you do, neither is wrong, just different.

Maybe you need a little space from each other, to allow you to both feel as you feel without affecting each other too much - even a nice long walk once a day may give you a bit of breathing space from her!

Miroslav

I appreciate she has to deal with it in her way, but it's more the fact she's in my face.

You kow when you feel low, if someone is constantly in your face, talking about things you don't want to talk about, laughing and being loud, and even when you ask them to calm it down a bit as you aren't in the mood, they carry on. That's what gets to me the most.

She thinks things are going to carry on as normal, gets funny with me if I don't want to do this or that and doesn't understand why I have lost interest in things.

Basically, I just want to be left alone for a while, with as little hassle as possible, as i'm an explosion waiting to happen.