When to start dating again?

barnaby-bear

Taye wrote: »

I'm fine, drinking coffee trying to decide if i can be arsed writing him this stupid email.

Feeling very "blah" (yes that is the technical term), sort of want to write an email, but part of me thinks "sod him" if he wants to marry me one week, then dump me the next, he clearly has NO CLUE what he really wants so maybe i should just stear clear.

bit harsh on him - you've both given each other some pretty mixed messages - but he was a decent guy who made an effort and had some potential, perhaps not the right sort at the right time, and you kind of remembered there's a world out there. It sounds overall a positive experience for you.

happyathome_2

Taye, I feel "blah" for you.

A nice chap pursues you, the first in some years. He meets your boys, and teases them about wanting to be your boyfriend. Wins your trust and kindles your emotions.

I still maintain that he is taking his time like you did at the start of your friendship, considering all the pros and cons (the cons will be a very small list) and he'll be back.

I do hope you contact him soon. Be gentle and considerate, he sounds like he needs your affection.

Taye

Ok firstly apology’s for the slightly “off” post to follow.

I’d like to thank everyone for their support, their help and their guidance i really appreciate everything everyone has tried to do for me. Your kindness have really overwhelmed me.

I know people really want me to try and see the positive in the experience, and i hope in time i will, but right now i can’t see it and if anything it’s just made me more determined to live my life the way i was without the input and interference of others. I dunno it just seems to me that even the best of intending men couldn’t handle the truth when it was all laid down cards on the table.

Maybe i was too hard on him, he was a gentleman and he did treat me well, but at the end of the day as well meaning as he was, the truth pretty much sent him running for the hills and i NEVER want to be in this position again, I would rather live alone as i old lonely spinster than do this again.

I agree mixed messages where sent i think that i pretty much laid it all out there, i let him know i liked him, let him into my life and let him know that i was willing to try and make things work if he was. Right now he knows what i want, i told him on the phone the other night and i don’t see that another email is going to clarify that any further. I hate feeling this vulnerable, i hate the fact that he decided that i was too broken to fix, to damaged to bother with.

The only thing another email will do is make me appear more pathetic than i already do. I swore after my ex that i was NEVER going to beg a man to stay with me again. I can’t count the number of times i begged and pleaded with my ex to stay, even when everything around me told me that i’d be better off without him. I’m simply not doing it again.

I’m grateful for the experience, it’s taught me a few things and reminded me of a few others. I know some of you will disagree but i don’t need a man to be happy, i was happy before. People might not believe me but i truly was, not everybody needs mass’s of friends and family to feel happy in their lives everyone is different and that what makes this world such an interesting place.

Anyway i’m going to wrap up this thread now, i don’t see the point in it continuing i got the answer’s i was looking for.

Thankyou again everyone “big hugs”

jinky67

Oi dont you be disappearing on us

I do know what you are saying and where you are coming from, but please dont fight your corner either, at some point (maybe not now) you will have to let yourself relax about all this, and you will find that someone for you.

I know right now you feel vulnerable because, as you see it, you let him and he has run off. But never say never:cool:

i am sure I speak for everyone when I say, keep us up to date with your goings on....cos we are nosy buggers:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

:grouphug::kisses3::kisses3:

littlemissmoney

You need to keep the thread going so you can tell us how you and the boys get on at your first Gingerbread event

u01jet4

I also want to know how your veggies are growing in your raised beds that you did together!

Heath84

And I'd like to know whether the boys enjoy scouts!:D I understand how you feel, but you may want to vent some anger about Dave and where better to do that than here? And we can all join in! Cos Im sure as hell :mad: at him!

Love to you and the boys Taye
Heath x

k2tog

I understand what you are saying Taye. Please look after yourself, particularly until you stop feeling rubbish.
I too would like to know how your veggies do!

NAR

Taye, I am sorry things didn't work out and am glad you have come to your own decision on how this all ends.

To all the other posters I think Taye's wishes should be respected and we just just let this thread slip off into MSE history.

Good luck for the future Taye xx

jinky67

You can never escape from us you know:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: