When to start dating again?

bevan840

I just wanted to wish you lots of luck and happiness for whatever you decide to do next

I'm sure you've been an inspiration for people who have unfortunately gone through similar circumstances to yourself and are now coming to terms with it. You've been very strong to get as far as you have Well done.
*Hugs*

tattycath

quote taye [i hate the fact that he decided that i was too broken to fix, to damaged to bother with. ]

As far as I can see from your posts he hasn't actually said that.
Both you and Dave have had alot to think about over the past few days.
Whatever ever you decide to do-good luck taye, but as others have said-never say never.
You have come along way since you started this thread-please don't undo all your work and efforts by retreating back into your cocoon
Take care

marksandsparksgal

Just to echo everyone else, well done for giving it a chance. If anything else, you got a weekend away from it.

Best of luck for the future!

xxx

Money_maker

Ditto to what everyone else has said!!

Do give some thought to the social side such as gingerbread (here I go again) and scouts. There is no emotional risk and so much to gain.

All the very best, who knows what lies around the corner...

kate1976

Can't say much which hasn't already been said! Good luck with whatever you decide to do Taye and please do keep us updated with things! Be happy and take care!

Hotspur

Taye (if you're still reading this thread, and I hope you are),

If I was 'Dave' I'd be going 'woah' what have I walked into. I've been there and thought that AND, after some thinking, came out stronger and wiser and with a GF who has become a good friend. We all have baggage of some sort (generalising there somewhat) and learning to talk and share makes us better people. I hope 'Dave' gets back to you and you remain friends at least.

Having said that, I respect your decision as it's your life and you know where you want to be at this time. Just don't let this experience cloud your judgement in the future.

Take care Taye. Just loved this thread about the 'journey' which you shared with us. x

PS: Don't forget there's always chocolate! :rotfl:

rosepink1984

Dear Taye, thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us. I've really enjoyed reading this thread, and have found you to be a brave, courageous woman who really is an inspiration, and living proof that just because bad things happen doesn't mean that a person should just give up. You have been through terrible things and have got on with your life.
I really hope that things turn out well for you and your boys.

PS. as an agoraphobic I totally relate to your comments about not wanting to go out or make friends, I am the same myself. But this is not the best way to live, and even if you don't feel the need to socialise it's very important that your boys do. I fight my tendencies to hide away from the world as I know it's bad for me to be alone too much, and it won't help your kids if they never get to see their friends or make new ones or see Mummy with her friends. When they see you socialising they learn how adults interact with each other. This is by no means a criticism, I know you are a great mum, it's more a plea to stay out of that cocooon now you have broken free of it.

Cissi

Taye, please don't let this experience get you down. You have shown so much strength and wisdom on this thread, I for one am in awe (and I know I'm not the only one). I hope you can see what everyone of us who have followed this thread see: the loss is Dave's, not yours. You've come such a long way - yes, you've also been knocked back, but don't let this stop you from enjoying yourself again if/when you feel like it.

You absolutely don't owe any of us anything, and if you want to start afresh (perhaps with a wholly new identity) that's your right. Just know that we all respect you immensely and would love to see you around!

swiss69

1000 posts - Wow!

Steel_2

I once heard life is a triumph of hope over experience.

Never stop hoping taye....