When to start dating again?

k2tog

Re the date: Perfect :j
Re the garden: I think he is trying to help out and impress you. And let's not forget Dave likes toys - he gets to play with a mini digger thingy

Think I'd like to nominate this thread as the most over-emoticonned thread on the forum - full of jumpy, happy, grinning ones! :cool:

Keep us posted.

Heath84

k2tog wrote: »

Re the date: Perfect :j
Re the garden: I think he is trying to help out and impress you. And let's not forget Dave likes toys - he gets to play with a mini digger thingy totally agree - its a man thing - they always feel the need to buy/hire an unnecessary tool! But it will probably get the job done quicker and easier so I say let him. But do make him dig where you want so he doesnt take over too much!

Think I'd like to nominate this thread as the most over-emoticonned thread on the forum - full of jumpy, happy, grinning ones! :cool:

Keep us posted.

If he does end up taking over then next time you are at his house you CAN just rearrange the kitchen and put things in the larder!

rach29

Maybe it's just me but in all my past relationships there's always been an element of over eagerness from both sides.

I clearly remember my house being it's tidiest ever the first time my OH saw it, I also remember having beautiful new matching undies on the first time we got "up close & personal":o

It's all about trying to give a good impression.

k2tog

rach29 wrote: »

Maybe it's just me but in all my past relationships there's always been an element of over eagerness from both sides.

I clearly remember my house being it's tidiest ever the first time my OH saw it, I also remember having beautiful new matching undies on the first time we got "up close & personal":o

It's all about trying to give a good impression.

Nope, it's not just you. Me too. When you like someone it's nice to make an effort and want to do nice things for them and with them.

Horace

Taye - let your insurance sort out the miserable cow, she should have taken more care plus she cannot claim it was your fault because she hit you in the rear:rolleyes:

As for the garden - let Dave help, he has hired a mini digger and turf cutter because they are toys and all boys love toys no matter how big the boy is:rotfl: Let him help you, you can do the planting and keep him supplied with tea and bacon butties.

When you have finished with him can you send him in my direction please - I could do with a handy man:rotfl: Only joking:D

Enjoy:j:T

kate1976

Taye I think you should just tell him what you want where in the garden and let him play! If you're not comfortable with anything then don't do it! Just make sure he knows that just cos he's playing with his toys in the garden it doesn't mean you're going to be playing with his toy to thank him!

Just bake him a cake and give him a brew!!

rach29 wrote: »

It's all about trying to give a good impression.

That's why I always shave my legs when with a new fella, can't have him seeing my yeti legs!!!! :D

Lunar_Eclipse

Errata wrote: »

A couple ! Hang on, put the boot on the other foot. If a woman asked a bloke if they were an official couple after a couple of dates everyone would be shrieking "Hide the bunny " ! And the bloke would be legging it at a million miles an hour !

I thought it was sweet, normal and traditional that he 'asked her out'. They've been on a few dates and he's checked that she's happy to consider them going out, ie a couple, as opposed to still being "just friends". I'm sure men usually do the asking as well, mainly because that's the way most women like it.

Lunar_Eclipse

Taye wrote: »

tell me it's ok right??

I dunno i feel funny kinda defencive? is it normal? or am i just being all "independent" and not used to having someone try and look after me?

I would LOVE someone to take over all the boring crappy jobs that you need/want to get done but have little time, money or energy to do. This would most definitely include raised beds in the garden. In fact anything to do with the garden; I hate gardening.

So personally I would relax and enjoy the indulgence. It doesn't mean he's an utter control freak or anything. But we're all different. There is no right and wrong, but to me it sounds like you were made for each other.

The boys will love getting dirty with him, during which he'll be thinking of you!

BrokeBrunette

Taye, there is nothing wrong whatsoever with letting Dave help you with your garden. I think he's really keen on you and wants to help you in whatever way he can, plus he gives him an excuse to spend more time with you. You can soon tell him what you want done in the garden if you feel he is 'bulldozering' his opinions on to you.

You are both very aware of the differences in your finances and Dave is obviously the type of guy who is happy to spend his money - particularly on helping someone he likes very much.

It's not like you're using him for his money, so don't feel bad about it. There is no way it puts you in major debt to him. Like some of the others have already said, I'd count food and drink and perhaps a cooked dinner at the end of it as his 'payment' if you want to think of it like that - no more.

If everyone felt the need to repay a good deed like-for-like in this world we'd be in a sorry old mess!

What a guy he is

Bebsie

Errata wrote: »

OK - have you wondered why he seems to be a little overeager to make a good impression ? Maybe it's because he really, really likes her