When to start dating again?

sarymclary

Well done Taye, that sounds like a perfect evening in to me!

I think you handled the 'little Dave' situation in a truly adult way, which shows you're moving on from feeling like a panicky teenager, and Big Dave behaved in a very grown up way by considering your feelings, and taking steps to prevent you feeling threatened physically by pulling down your top, and also feeling embarrassed about his trouser moment.

If it's any consolation, my BF after more than 6yrs together still suffers from constant trouser moments, and blames me! It took me a fair while to realise that he was completely unable to control what was going on, and sometimes I only need be talking to him on the phone for it to happen! I can only relate it to that little tummy tickle feeling you get when you see the person you're attracted to.... it's just it doesn't stop at their tummy!

Well done on the kiss. It's got a huge obstacle out of the way for you, and makes perfect sense. The reason it just tumbled out of your mouth, is probably because part of you wanted to get that moment out of the way, but you probably want to have that part of the relationship for yourself too. You kiss your children all the time, I bet, so it's an expression of affection, and perfectly natural.

Looking forward to hearing more of the tale as it unfolds, but for today, you deserve to have a massive grin from ear to ear.

barnaby-bear

sarymclary wrote: »

Well done Taye, that sounds like a perfect evening in to me!

I think you handled the 'little Dave' situation in a truly adult way, which shows you're moving on from feeling like a panicky teenager, and Big Dave behaved in a very grown up way by considering your feelings, and taking steps to prevent you feeling threatened physically by pulling down your top, and also feeling embarrassed about his trouser moment.

:rolleyes: Not only has the bloke been named but so has his tackle.....

Taye

Horace wrote: »

Well done

You go girl - as the woman who hit your car, I hope you are claiming off her insurance?

Im trying *sigh* i was stopped in a que of traffic she came off the roundabout too fast in wet weather and bumped me from behind.

She got out was very sorry yadda yadda .. the visable damage is quite small to be fair so i told her not to worry i'd get it "checked" and as long as it was purely cosmetic there was nothing for her to worry about.

everything was fine, i took her details she refused to take mine (very odd) got to work rang the insurance everything was fine, told the guy that i only wanted an assessment made of the car and as long as there was no structural or "hidden" damage i was happy to drop the claim.

Rang her up told her it was all arranged it was going to the garage she went BALLISTIC ranted and raved at me for calling the insurance even though im legally obliged to tell them about an accident even though i told he i wouldn't make a claim unless the damage was worse than it looked. she just kept going on and on about how it was "just a dent"

she then told me that you can't claim unless the police are called to the accident (which i know is wrong but hey), i again tried to explain that i was only claiming IF the damage was more than cosmetic, and that tbh if it was a cheap fix i'd give her the option of just paying for the repairs.

Anyway she STILL refused to take my details, ranted and raved in the end i just finished the call....

Now im in a *SOD IT* frame of mind, im getting a new bumper and getting the back end of my car straightened regardless she can pay the snotty cow i tried to be nice.

Unfortunatly she's not yet reported the accident to her insurance and i have this horrid feeling its going to me messy... ugh... it really looks to be fairly minor damage but i carry my kids in that car and i feel i deserved to have it proffessionally checked to make sure it was still safe besides minor or not it was damage that wasn't there before she hit me.

blah anyway got today and tomorrow off work to get it all sorted.. so im sitting chillin drinking a cuppa haha.

Blink_Eden

Hi Taye - long time reader, but first time advice poster.

If you are happy saying you are a couple, say so. If not, don't worry about it. When I first met my better half, she was quite scared of "commitment", so after our first kiss we just carried on as we were going (which was for all intents and purposes a relationship), but didn't actually "formalise" it for about another 6 months.

If you are happy and know where you stand and if he is happy and knows where he stands (IE monogamy, togetherness, looking towards the future), you don't need to put any more pressure on yourself or the relationship.

Yes it is great to say you are a couple, but just because you don't say it, doesn't mean it isn't so.

Hope that helps

BrokeBrunette

good for you Taye. Why do people have to take such a horrible attitude to things - it serves her right, stupid woman :mad:

I've also got a day off today, got a nice cup of coffee and some jaffa cakes to munch, yummy.

BrokeBrunette

oooooh, I forgot to comment on the 'couple' thing!

well I think if the thought of being a couple makes you feel happy then consider it as a yes. It's still early days but I reckon that's Dave's way of showing some commitment to you, which is nice, so long as you feel the same way.

I think this relationship is ticking along nicely :D

Taye

BrokeBrunette wrote: »

good for you Taye. Why do people have to take such a horrible attitude to things - it serves her right, stupid woman :mad:

I've also got a day off today, got a nice cup of coffee and some jaffa cakes to munch, yummy.

*sob* i don't have any jaffacakes .... even if i did i can't eat them i've had THE WORST diet week this week i sware i've gained about 2lbs .. *sigh*

BrokeBrunette

Taye wrote: »

*sob* i don't have any jaffacakes .... even if i did i can't eat them i've had THE WORST diet week this week i sware i've gained about 2lbs .. *sigh*

no way, I don't believe you woman. You live up the gym. I bet you're a total stick.

I shouldn't be eating jaffa cakes either, but I've had a stressful week so I'm comfort eating

whitewing

Taye wrote: »

*sob* i don't have any jaffacakes .... even if i did i can't eat them i've had THE WORST diet week this week i sware i've gained about 2lbs .. *sigh*

At a guess, i think you've probably gained about 11 stone!

BrokeBrunette

whitewing wrote: »

At a guess, i think you've probably gained about 11 stone!

haha, that made me