When to start dating again?

Artytarty

Taye! I have been following with interest. Now dont be daft! If he is suuch a nice and I am sure he is, he wont mind about you fence/,job etc go and enjoy yourself. i echo another poster here,Iwish my Mum had got her self more of a life. Ok she gardens and plays bridge ( heaps!)but its not the same.. she never dated again after divorce at 28! now in her 70's . I so wish she had.
Get out there girlfriend!

Taye

i don't have anything to wear anyway..i was hunting though me wardrobes last night and everything i own is really dated or was bought at a time when i was abit "bigger" than i am now.

Nothing fits, everything i do have looks awful and i really don't have the money to go out never mind buy something new. The night out alone could end up costing me a fortune. Im just not sure this is a good idea.

MrsTinks

If he wanted to pull someone of grand income he'd no doubt have done so at a country club and not the gym! He probably likes you because I guess he's aware that chances of you realising he has a car that "costs as much as your house" is slim and guess what? He probably quite likes the idea of being liked for being him, not for his money or car... So instead of fretting about your fence (...) then why not call your mate who said this was a good idea and see if she can't lend you something to wear? Failing that then something simple from Primark will do the job... plain skirt and plain top often looks better than expensive OTT designer gear anyway

More to the point... he might be driving the nice car but that doesn't mean he owns it
In fact DH had a VERY nice V6 Coupe when I met him... and frankly it took me a while to convince him that just because his ex and him had had all these nice cars and a new one every year did NOT mean he could afford it... infact a lot f his debts were down to her encouraging him to spend what he didn't have...
Now he has a 4/5 yr old Santa Fe which certainly doesn't have the same prestige

Horace

You need to stop being negative, you sound like a really nice person - don't get hung up about the guy's car it could be hired you never know anyway you're not going out with his car, you are going out with him as a person.

Anyway, you are bound to have a nice dress or even some trousers and a nice top tucked away in the wardrobe so don't even fret about it.

Don't you dare cancel - you need to have some fun and its only dinner, he hasnt proposed (its a bit too early for that).:D

Errata

Taye wrote: »

i don't have anything to wear anyway..i was hunting though me wardrobes last night and everything i own is really dated or was bought at a time when i was abit "bigger" than i am now.

Nothing fits, everything i do have looks awful and i really don't have the money to go out never mind buy something new. The night out alone could end up costing me a fortune. Im just not sure this is a good idea.

You're right. It's not a good idea. In fact it's a rubbish idea. You can't afford a plain white 99p vest top from Primark to wear with a skirt cinched in with a belt that you already have. Happy now ?

Juat forget that he's already seen you hot, sweaty, red in the face and wearing baggy gym clothes. He knows what the real you is like when you're not trying to impress and putting up a front and that's the one he's invited out.

Don't go out with him and instead you can slob out on the sofa in jammys watching rubbish television and your life passing you by.

You can post a load more excuses and I'll agree with every one of them and think of some new ones for you if you like

Go on, find out what he's like - he might be seriously grim but you can use him to practice on !

glossgal

Errata wrote: »

Go on, find out what he's like - he might be seriously grim but you can use him to practice on !

This is an excellent point! I think you're stressing too much over what he thinks of you. What about what you think? Apply the job interview principle ie you're there to assess him as much as the other way round! It will be good practice, nothing may come of it at all but it's a good way to dip your toe in the water--you must go

cue

You sound like a friend of mine - she panics over what colour flowers to buy for the house lol....

Seriously, think of it this way... would you regret it if you cancelled, he lost interest, then you never saw him again or worse started seeing someone else?

My guess is it would irk you. - what have you actually got to loose? you're worried about the unknown - until you know it you'll always be worried about it.... go for it - just don't order a Dr Pepper

kate1976

Am with the majority on here, go for it!! You have nothing to lose and you'll probably only regret it if you don't go wondering how it would've been etc etc!

Even if he's the richest man in the world it doesn't matter, he asked you out, which he'd probably been getting the courage up for ages to do, so even if you go in a bin bag he'll probably be pleased that you turned up!

Stop putting yourself down, positive mental attitude!! Please go for it, I'm begging you now otherwise you'll miss out on what could be a fantastic time! Just stay casual and don't focus on what the future holds, relax and enjoy it!

Good luck and DO NOT DARE CANCEL!!!!!

kate1976

cue wrote: »

go for it - just don't order a Dr Pepper

:rotfl::rotfl:

nomoneytoday

Go down town and get a new top - a £5 one is fine.
Then get on that date, and have fun. Done