When to start dating again?

paddy's_mum

Any man who is willing to tread gently (because he understands from your friend that you are feeling frightened) has got to be a gem! I'm so pleased that you have agreed to spend some time with him. As others have said, concentrate on becoming friends - any and all else will follow if it is right that it should.

You might also care to reflect that in terms of natural justice, it would be one in the eye for the waste-of-space ex-husband if in due course, you net one of life's treasures for yourself. Good luck to both you and this smashing, sympathetic chap.

MrsTinks

I met my now DH for lunch - well actually I arranged to meet him in town in a book shop as we were both due to fly out next day or two through work and needed to buy a few bits before going - then he suggested lunch and as I thought he was quite nice I agreed
I ironically ended up wearing half my lunch and not even realising till I got home :rotfl: it was about a year later he admitted he hadn't noticed either (he'd apparently been too busy chatting to me and laughing with me bless )
Next date was a dinner date
I think so long as you are happy you have a "get out" route if you feel too uncomfy then you probably won't need it
Lunch could be either short or long, dinner is a little longer usually but I guess it depends on what you feel comfy with really... And spoil yourself a little Go have your nails done, get a haircut etc enjoy it!
Just look at it as dinner out with a friend (or lunch) and take it from there

libbyc3

best way to get over one man is under another!!![IMG]file:///C:/Users/Libby/AppData/Local/Temp/moz-screenshot.jpg[/IMG]:rotfl:

sorry couldn't resist!
seriously though, it took me alot to get the courage to think about men after my so called marriage, but dating is so much fun!!
I made a couple of really good mates with men I went on dates with, who have become family friends now I am settled with a wonderful man and they have their own wives/partners.
go for it!

libbyc3

sorry don't know why that text has appeared in my message - first time i'v used the smiley thing!!

Taye

Ok im seriously out of my league here, went to the gym the same as i always do on my lunch break from work.

Only to see the guy in question driving off in a very nice car... i have no clue what type other than it was very shiny and very very very expensive looking. (didn't recognise the badge)

i know it sounds insanely dumb, but i wouldn't be suprised if his car wasn't worth more than my house. He blatently has money to drive a car like that, i didn't realise it before because in the gym everyone pretty much looks the same i mean trainers, joggers and a t-shirt don't really tell you much about a guy.

Now i know money really shouldn't come into these things but seriously ... i work in a sucky job, just about to be made reduntant, living on pretty much fresh air and i whole bunch of good intentions and have more debt than a sane person should ever accumilate.

What the hell am i supposed the wear on Satuday?? anything i have is going to make me look like a hobo.. and what if we get along??

Things progress at some point he's going to see my house with it's no existant fence, ripped carpets and the hole in my living room celing where my boiler burst and leaked though 5 years ago but havn't been able to afford to fix. Never mind my small shed on wheel's that i call a car which in fairness is more rust than metal.

i think im going to cancel.

jinky67

dont you dare!!!!

You are looking too far into the future. If things work out he is not gonna suddenly look down his nose at you because you have less money than him. And if he does he was not worth your time anyway.

Taye

I don't have less money i have negative money..... im in more debt than im worth, divorced and 2 kids in toe...

what the hell was i thinking?!

jinky67

Taye wrote: »

I don't have less money i have negative money..... im in more debt than im worth, divorced and 2 kids in toe...

what the hell was i thinking?!

you have a pm:D

NAR

Taye wrote: »

I don't have less money i have negative money..... im in more debt than im worth, divorced and 2 kids in toe...
what the hell was i thinking?!

First of all stop being so negative about yourself and running yourself down. Secondly it is a night out, which by the sounds of things, is well overdue to enable you to have a good time for a change. :dance:
Don't you dare cancel! :mad:

jm2926

Don't you dare cancel! He likes YOU, not all the stuff/money you have or don't have. He already knows you are divorced and have kids. If it puts him off he wasn't worth having anyway. I was living in a bedsit when I met my DH, had a rubbish job and almost no money. He didn't care.

Just be yourself and enjoy a nice night out with a new friend. Anything else that happens is a bonus.