MSE Pregnancy Club IX

SugarSpun

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Not sure what to ask him but I would be telling him I will NOT be having a screen up and my baby will be delivered on to MY chest and I shall be in which ever position I feel like at the time!

I would have assumed that Germans would be all for being naked in a birthing pool shows how much I know

That's pretty much how this meeting is going to go. I'll also be explaining to them that any pubic horticulture from them will be soundly refused (no midwife is going to be shaving me, thank you so much) and there'll be no enema. Germany's so progressive in a lot of ways, the clinic offers homeopathic and acupuncture as pain relief if required, but have the birthing beds and insist on the screen. Weird.

My OH is quite excited to get his mitts on the Bellyfrog first, though. His reasoning is that I've had her for six months already and it's his turn. I'll compromise on that one because it means a lot to him, so long as he passes her over soonest. There will however be no screen, no shaving and no enema.

There is a birthing pool, but you're not allowed to actually deliver in it, it's just for pain relief beforehand. Apparently there's a risk of infection if the pool is full of whatever horrors are preceding the baby out of you. I don't see how, since the baby's living in that all the way up to the birth, but we'll see.

Sami_Bee

suckers2008 wrote: »

Right I started work on June 30th - so up until the date I left it was exactly 26 weeks!!!
Only thing is my last day of work was the 24th - Xmas Eve but work agreed to pay me Jan and Feb but on my last pay check and P45 they put PILON and that I worked til 31st December
DO you think I am eligible>

Due 4th September

I don't know what 'PILON' means??
Just to be safe you can 'cheat' the system and register as self employed with a small earning certificate to ensure you are 'employed' for enough weeks though (thats what I have done but I AM actually doing self employed work) I'm not sure if they will check that you have actually completed some SE work.
As I said before you really need to download the form to get your exact test period tho

PS Claire the 13 weeks can be ANY not consecutive

Sami_Bee

SugarSpun wrote: »

That's pretty much how this meeting is going to go. I'll also be explaining to them that any pubic horticulture from them will be soundly refused (no midwife is going to be shaving me, thank you so much) and there'll be no enema. Germany's so progressive in a lot of ways, the clinic offers homeopathic and acupuncture as pain relief if required, but have the birthing beds and insist on the screen. Weird.

My OH is quite excited to get his mitts on the Bellyfrog first, though. His reasoning is that I've had her for six months already and it's his turn. I'll compromise on that one because it means a lot to him, so long as he passes her over soonest. There will however be no screen, no shaving and no enema.

There is a birthing pool, but you're not allowed to actually deliver in it, it's just for pain relief beforehand. Apparently there's a risk of infection if the pool is full of whatever horrors are preceding the baby out of you. I don't see how, since the baby's living in that all the way up to the birth, but we'll see.

That is so random we've not had enemas and shaving for over 20yrs in england because its completely unnecessary (although the way I feel right now an enema might be quite nice :rotfl:)
If its soo bad to give birth in a pool why is it fine in the UK, USA etc.
I look forward to you reporting his reactions back

Ps. I wonder if the passing to dad is some kind of old fashioned chauvinistic thing? :think:

MrsTinks

Pilon is pay in leiu of notice Sami

candice56

Hi all,

Sparkle, Lexi is just yummy - cant wait for mine.

Greent, Im sooo sorry just reading your post made me feel sick so I cant even begin to empathise with you. I suppose I can only offer one saving grace; it sounds just like s*x rather than anything more....I KNOW that wont help but I think blokes see it in a completely different way. Eat what you can and have it out again with him, prob only ebb away at you otherwise.

Hugs and sympathetic vibes to you (((((xxx)))))

suckers2008

PILON is Pay In Lieu Of Notice

mrsapple_2

"Pilon is not a severance payment but gardeneing leave and is a full PAYE transaction" does that help?

I would suggest Citzens Advice

jennynoo

Glamazon wrote: »

Jenny - noggle is very original! Where did that come from?

No idea but OH calls me noo or noogle so I passed it on to the baby.

mrsapple wrote: »

When is it normal for your breasts to get bigger?

Only ask as mine already feel heavier and fill my bra better ... sorry for tmi

Mine went up one cup size in the first few weeks then I've had nothing since, AA - A

bargain_carly wrote: »

and the worst thing is none of that extra weight is on my boobs - which have virtually stayed the same (36A )

Thank goodness someone else is the same as me but very disappointed that I might not get bigger boobs, always wanted some.

Greent - so sorry to hear what you are going through, I just can't imagine why anyone would do that the their pregnant partner. I don't really know what to say but if you need any support from us on here I'm sure we will do our best to help.

Sami_Bee

MrsTine wrote: »

Pilon is pay in leiu of notice Sami

ahhh I should have known that!
I did well out of my redundancy when I was on Mat leave with Chris I was gonna just resign but thought I'd give it a go first but it turned out they didn't need/want me so I got nearly £2k which paid off my car loan nicely :T

suckers2008

Okay have worked out that my test period in the 66 weeks is from May 2008 to August 2009 of which I was employed so just need to give them my employers details and choose 13 weeks of which I earnt the most amount of money - I got threee good bonuses month on month so will use that and then I will find out but looks like I will get maternity pay of £123 a week which is cool