Pregnant

Glamazon

grace1990 wrote: »

Were not adopting, I have made that clear and the reasons for this. My SIL being our surrogate does not have any impact on my career. As for peole saying it is busy being a sahm, my best friend has two young children and claims she is bored stiff sat at home with them and can't understand why anyone thinks it is hard work.

Yes but why bother having a child when they are obviously such a burden?! So your SIL being surrogate won't affect your career? Is that because as soon as she has delivered your child she will hand it to you and you'll pass it onto the childminder and get back to work?

You have a real downer on us pregnant women and have grouped us all as money grabbing lazy stay at home scroungers!

I have a career which I will return to after 6-9 months, I will spend that time bringin my child up. Yes, there may be times when I will be bored but I will probably offer to do some work from home.

Some women are SAHM because they can't afford to work and put their child in a nursery others because they chose to be.

Please don't make judgements because ONE of your friends is bored and don't tar everyone with the same brush!

grace1990

Are you saying there is something wrong with employing a nanny? The majority of people I know were practically brought up by nannies, so their parents could give them a fantastic life.

Glamazon

Sorry, where did I say that?!

You are obviously fortunate enough to afford a nanny however that is not the norm these days! I just can't understand why someone could want a child so badly that they go through surrogacy only to palm that child off onto someone else straightaway.

You appear to just jump on threads related to pregnancy, post something totally unrelated and nasty and then wonder why people call you bitter and twisted! Why don't u just not say anything unless you've got some constructive or helpful advice to give?

Barging in with 'Why do people think they are entitled to things just because they are pregnant?' isn't helpful

I really hope your surrogacy is successful and hope that when you child comes along your heart is melted and that you want to spend as much time as you can with your child for your childs sake.

Damzel_In_Distress

grace1990 wrote: »

Why do some people think they are entitled to things just for being pregnant?!

Why do some horrible women like yourself feel the need to jump down peoples throats everytime they here the word pregnant or child ? :rolleyes:

Every thread your on you seek to seek out the children ones and say nothing that isnt negative!! Why~?! I know you have your problems but its time to get a grip and stop being so darn rude to those of us who do have children or are pregnant. Your situation is not our fault and your not helping yourself with this constant rudeness.

Im sorry grace but this is really pee-ing me off now! Its every chance you see you take it and grasp onto it.

Sami_Bee

grace1990 wrote: »

Were not adopting, I have made that clear and the reasons for this. My SIL being our surrogate does not have any impact on my career. As for peole saying it is busy being a sahm, my best friend has two young children and claims she is bored stiff sat at home with them and can't understand why anyone thinks it is hard work.

Your friend obviously isn't being a good SAHM then!
I'm rarely bored by my son, everyday he learns something new and makes me smile. If your friend is bored its because SHE is probably sat at home doing nothing.

Are you saying there is something wrong with employing a nanny? The majority of people I know were practically brought up by nannies, so their parents could give them a fantastic life.

I really don't understand how you claim to want a child but your not even going to bother looking after it
I have children to bring them up myself that is the whole point!!
The only people I know who had nannies hate their parents for it, Children aren't materialistic unless you make them that way all they want is to feel safe and loved by their parents NOT the hired help!
My parents looked after me and brought my sister and I up, paid for my sister to go to uni and would have done that same for me if I'd chosen to go, we didn't have fancy holidays or a shiny new car but I had the best childhood you could ever wish for - one full of love and time spent with my parents, something I doubt the poor child who ends up with you as it's mother will ever have

Why don't you hop into your flashy Porsche and p-off while we offer help and advice as the OP originally asked for!

shellsuit

grace1990 wrote: »

Were not adopting, I have made that clear and the reasons for this. My SIL being our surrogate does not have any impact on my career. As for peole saying it is busy being a sahm, my best friend has two young children and claims she is bored stiff sat at home with them and can't understand why anyone thinks it is hard work.

That's why she's bored - because she's sat at home making herself be bored!

She could go out, play at home, bake cakes, paint...the list is endless!!

Seeing as though she's your best friend ~ what does she think about you thinking she is a scrounger and a crap Mum for not running back to work 2 hours after the birth?

grace1990

She didn't take maternity leave, because she never worked, as her husband provides for her, therefore she is not a scrounger. She is sat by me now and is laughing at the fact you are all so obviously jealous that we can afford better things than you can.

shellsuit

grace1990 wrote: »

She didn't take maternity leave, because she never worked, as her husband provides for her, therefore she is not a scrounger. She is sat by me now and is laughing at the fact you are all so obviously jealous that we can afford better things than you can.

OMG LMFAO!!!!

Do you think all us Mums on this thread are single??? :rotfl::rotfl:

Most of us are either married, engaged or in a relationship, so have a partner who provides for us too!

Better still, most of us have got off our backsides and worked, as well as our partners working (as opposed to your friend who hasn't), THAT'S why we are entitled to Maternity leave/pay, you sad ignorant fool!! :rotfl::rotfl:

What a bloody pathetic blinkered view you have!





It's quite simple.

If someone is entitled to Maternity leave and pay - they have worked, which does NOT make them a scounger!


How would you and your friend know what we can afford anyway?????

Grow up !!!!!!!

Sami_Bee

grace1990 wrote: »

She didn't take maternity leave, because she never worked, as her husband provides for her, therefore she is not a scrounger. She is sat by me now and is laughing at the fact you are all so obviously jealous that we can afford better things than you can.

hmmm, she never worked because she scrounges off her husband then! At least I have contributed to the economy before taking the maternity leave I was entitled to because I'd been working and paying my taxes and I still do occasional self employed work now.
You have no idea what I can and can't afford, even if I was a millionaire I wouldn't palm my children off on a nanny I have a rather comfortable existence but I shan't tell you what I have because it only matters to petty people like you.

I have something you will never have, something money can't buy so you just sit there looking down and laughing at us "scroungers" while we all enjoy our lives.

Glamazon

grace1990 wrote: »

She didn't take maternity leave, because she never worked, as her husband provides for her, therefore she is not a scrounger. She is sat by me now and is laughing at the fact you are all so obviously jealous that we can afford better things than you can.

Interesting comment grace

So, if we work and take maternity leave we are scroungers but if we sit back and do sod all we aren't!!

I can understand that there are some people in this world who lie back and produce babies just to get the benefits but that is a small minority.

I can't understand why you post on a money-saving website when you have so much money. I am in no way jealous of you or your friend.
I live in an Acorn Type 1 area, my car is less than a year old, myself and my partner work around 50 hours a week in excellent jobs and enjoy spending the rest of our time together. I am$ looking forward to bringing a baby into the world, loving it, playing with it, watching it grow up into an adult. I could do this earning £11K a year or £100K a year - the money doesn't matter.
You want to go off and work while someone else brings up your child, that's your choice. But stop jumping in threads and posting that people are scroungers because they work and want to take a bit of time off with their family!

Just out of interest - does your friend claim Child Benefit?
If so, SCANDOLOUS! She obviously doesn't need it so why claim it?!