Money wedding gift. How much to give

lavidaloca

Well if you aren't going to the wedding and aren't close I think a card would be enough

ceebeeby

It depends what you can afford tbh!

We've gifted anywhere from £500 (brother setting up new home with new wife) to £150 (sister on a second marriage with home already) to £30 for a cousin .....

As long as you're happy with the gift you're giving, I can't imagine for a second that they won't be happy to receive it!

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gosh this thread is turning around, I an surprised that some people wouldn`t appreciate £20

anyway, I have decided to send a cheque for £20 in a lovely hand made card

Timmne

kittie wrote: »

gosh this thread is turning around, I an surprised that some people wouldn`t appreciate £20

anyway, I have decided to send a cheque for £20 in a lovely hand made card

Well you're a very generous lady

Poppy9

kittie wrote: »

gosh this thread is turning around, I an surprised that some people wouldn`t appreciate £20

anyway, I have decided to send a cheque for £20 in a lovely hand made card

I would appreciate it very much especially the hand made card.

ceebeeby

I think that's lovely! The hand-made card is a great touch!

littleemmie

Timmne wrote: »

My brother was my best man and he was an absolute legend. He met up with me a good few times before the wedding, was there when my wife and I needed his help (usually wisdom!) with something and this is all not to mention the amount he spent over the whole do.

We never in a million years would have expected a present from him - he actually did give us something which was an amazing photobook of our wedding day plus the stag and hen do. It was fantastic to think him and his girlfriend had put so much effort into it.

I wouldn't worry about giving them anything TBH; and being frank, giving £20-30 (as best man) is not worth doing - if they're not expecting a gift then they'll feel bad that you've had to forgo the money and if they're a little more greedy than some, they may consider it too little - brides and grooms to be can become a little demanding! If you give nothing, they'll know it's because you don't need to, rather than didn't want to.

Thanks Timmne for your advice.

The problem we are having is that OH, although he is best man, is really having very little to do with the wedding. I think on the day that will change as tasks arise but he has been told very little about the arrangements and has been asked to do no duties other than hold the rings. Although officially a best man, I feel that we will essentially be guests the same as everyone else. The bride and groom will be expecting a gift from us, and I do feel that £20 - £30 from the groom's brother (and best man) is too little, although at the moment there really is not much more we can afford. And if we don't give them anything we will look mean as we are, incorrectly, seen as the 'rich ones'. I love the idea of the photobook that your bestman did for you though, maybe we could do something similar.

OP, I think your niece will really appreciate the effort and thought you have put in with the card as well as the money.

Dormouse

This thread has just confirmed what I have suspected. We sent a £50 gift card to DH's relative that he's not close to (not seen for 9 years!), and we couldn't go to the wedding because children were not invited. I told DH this is too much but he didn't listen (and I'm the one that paid for it!). :rolleyes:

Kandipandi

When we were married lots of people gave money and vouchers and it was all in £10 and £20 denominations, including from my close family and we were delighted with it.
It was great as we were able to buy someting substantial that we actually wanted.
You give what you can afford and not a penny more.

dieselhead

I wondered what the opinions are about these schemes where you can have gifts as money towards the honeymoon, I have noticed there are a few companies that offer this.

To me that sounds lovely as one thing I would really love is a holiday of a lifetime type honeymoon. I believe that it works in the same way as a wedding list and the company supplies you with a list of people who have contributed for you to thank.

How do people feel about this, is it better than just asking for money??