Support for people with Depression

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

*hugs* to those struggling with health at the moment,Hi Sazzy,hope you and Gilly are ok.

Shaz sorry to hear about your son,at least hes in the right place at hospital.Good luck with the move.

love and light,

Katie xxx

determined_new_ms

Hi everyone - I hope you are all ok out there. Shaz I hope the move went went and you are feeling settled in ur new home.

Feeling very anxious today its so annoying isn't it? Yesterday I was feeling a lot better and today I'm not! Need to go back to the dr and get my sick note adjusted and go back to work but now today the thought of it is :eek:

Have been reading a book "Taming the black dog" my friend bought me for my birthday. Am trying out the techniques I have also ordered a couple of books that were recommended a few pages ago. one is called "The worry cure" and the other is "self help for your nerves" both have got good reviews so I hope they will be helpful.

Must go for a run this morning. Must also try to feel a little more relaxed!

Love to you all. I will aim to look for something beautiful today and do something nice for my oh & ds - its not easy for them x

Horasio

Hi guys

Long time no see - been too depressed or busy to post

Been hassle after hassle which has now left me depleted. I am wondering if I am having a nervous breakdown as a result of the constant aggro, as I am finding everything very difficult, closing down, being clumsy and tired all the time.

The latest is my mum playing up because we invited my mother in law for Christmas, not spent Christmas with her for years and seen my mum for Christmas for 6 years now. We have invited her but she is claiming she wants to spend it with someone else but think she is lying and would rather be alone than be with all of us.

She is about to have surgery in the new year but feel she would be acting like this anyway.

I am really upset my mother would go to these lengths to upset me.

UnluckyT

Hope things pick up ccstar, and hugs to everyone else who needs it.
plodding on at the moment but feeling lowish after such a good holiday.
plus got a feeling i might be in for a rough time with work as have a new under manager starting soon and my dealings with her have been not good as she's come across as rather rude to say the least. so fingers crossed i can plod on and not take any crap from her and start to finally stand up for myself etc.

determined_new_ms

welcome poltergeist. Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. I'm very new on this thread too. What exactly are you finding hard to cope with at the moment, can I help in anyway? It might help to talk things through? Has your situation changed recently and that is difficult? Hope that you can find a way to cope with this. Its a cliche but true, life won't send you more than you can cope with even if it feels like it at times x

I'm reading "The cure for your nerves" finding it interesting - and I think the main point the author is trying to get across is not to fight your feelings, accept that you are feeling things so amplified because you are exhausted emotionally. I'm trying to put it into place and do the things she is suggesting but its quite old school & I may have to read it again!

Lots of love to you all xxx

determined_new_ms

I know the feeling poltergeist (well in my own way) am beating myself up continually as I just can't face anything at the moment. Went to the supermarket with my ds (19yrs) and I was so panicky the whole time, then I hate myself for feeling like this, want to return to work but have a huge feeling of apprehension over it, have arrange to go to Bruge with a friend on Saturday but now am wrestling with myself & not wanting to go. So annoying! I hate feeling like this, and feel incredibly pathetic! Of course I realise I'm not but its part of the beast isn't it? Vicious circle of feeling inadequate and beating myself up.

I guess I try to find something I find beautiful each day, am trying to replace negative thoughts with more rational ones when I realise I'm being really hard on myself (for example the other day I started thinking why is my lovely oh with me, he must think I'm pathetic etc etc. I then made myself stop and think no he loves me, he doesn't think I'm pathetic, he thinks I'm beautiful etc etc), try to get some exercise most days even if its just a walk and if possible early on in the day as the endorphins from that do seem to help me through the day. I know its easier said than done but it does help a little.

Have you read any books that are helpful? It might be an idea to get some out of the library while you are wiating for CBT. I do searches on the library catalogue and then go to amazon and read the reviews, if a high amount of reviewers say it was helpful to them then I think there's a chance it'll be helpful for me!

These are just things that I try. I think I'm worth feeling better for as I know when I'm not like this then I'm a different person. I wish you lots of love for today and congratulations on getting up! Do something kind for yourself today & everyday, if your mum was feeling really poorly you would look after her, do nice things to cheer her up and be extra kind, that's what we all need to do for ourselves. come on here and talk whenever you need to x

Oh and ages ago I got these cartoon books called "living with the black dog" they were very simple but explained the whole things & how people get when they're depressed and gave them to my oh it really helped him with understanding how it is when I'm depressed x

Miroslav

Just a quickie as i'm off voluntary jobbing shortly. :eek:

Hi to all. Hoping today is better for most of you. Decemeber starting usually sets me in panic mode, although tomorrow is Britney's 30th!!! A couple of programmes on TV for me to enjoy whilst putting the GF and flatmate through it all

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,

I am fine and well,I just won myself a 7.1 Galaxy tab 2 weeks ago and it arrived 21st November,love it loads

Sorry to hear you are feeling down Miro and that recovery from your op is slow,sending you wishes for a speedy recovery,it will take time,just take it easy and soon you will be back to full strength.

Congrats on the win. You seem to win alot

Yes, it's going to take time. I have some new gel for the 'wound' which is nice and soothing

sock-knitter wrote: »

hello miro and katie:wave::wave:good to see you both
miro, hope the recovery from the op goes better than it has so far. hows the relationship with the gf, hope it is going well, you deserve some happiness

after saturday morning i will no longer have internet access, for a few weeks, or months, til it is installed in the new flat, so i wish u all well., and i'll be back online as soon as i can

It's not so bad. Being off from the gym for 8 weeks nearly has done my head in :rotfl: Hopefully back next week doing some light work, but have to be careful as going to be a while before i'm 100%.

GF and I are doing well, thanks. She's lovely and very sweet and has looked after me well.

Hope you get back online soon. Why is it going to take so long to get installed? Is there a phone line in the flat? I guess i'll find out when you finally get back to us Hope to see you soon.

flis21 wrote: »

Hi to Katie, Miro, Shaz, Miro I hope your recovery goes well.

Love to you all,
Flis
xx

I hope you are feeling a little better than when you last posted?

I'm not doing too bad thanks.

determined_new_ms

poltergeist wrote: »

I get panic attacks so severe i CANNOT MOVE, I have been asked by GP to rate them out of 10, often they stop me from going out, do not like to be out on my own, not so bad if I have somoeone with me, it is just the thought of having to go out, I like being here as it is safe, the outside seems push and loud, scary and brings on an attack, I can go out rather not though.

I have read all sorts of books but none of them seen to help, I struggle to change, to better it to make it go away but it is not that easy, I feel sorry for my family who cannot help but want to, I feel like I am dragging them down and stopping them from having a good life, I often tell them to leave me alone and they would be better off without me and have more happiness and smile more and be happier.

I keep writing things down, that helps, it is all so hard to read back though.

I just try to see it as an achievement a little one step by step if I manage to do something, I do loads but all thoughts race through my head and I end up not completing many, getting stressed out before I have finished them, forgetting I have started something and not bothering with it, if it is too hard or too time consuming or takes thought I don't bother with it.

If I was left alone I would just sit and wait for it all to go by but it won't, it hasn't it is deeper than that, pacifying words of 'it'll be alright' or 'go get yourself a bath' 'look at what you do have' all those things don't help, everything is sucha struggle, I am either trying to do 50 things at once on an adrenalin high thinking this is a good day and failing at them or doing absolutely nothing and feeling guilty and ashamed of myself for letting another day just wash over me.

my warmest thoughts go out to you x easier said than done but try to have hope that it will get better. Lots of people suffer from horrendous
mental health issues and get better. Anxiety attacks are curable - and hopefully your CBT therapist will be good, although it will take hard work on ur part to go past the anxiety. Ok I'm just a lay person but I work in MH and went to a lecture recently about anxiety and avoidance. What happens is when we go into an anxious state its horrible so we do things to avoid it and the anxiety reduces and then our brain makes the link that the avoidance is what has reduced anxiety so the habit begins. BUT we cannot stay in a state of anxiety for longer than a couple of hours so the anxiety will reduce anyway. Once people realise this they then can make a new habit of believing that the anxiety will reduce and then it becomes a positive cycle. Sorry as I say I'm just a lay person...

Please remember when you are thinking that your family would be happier without you that that is the black dog talking and isn't rational. Your family would have a gapping hole in their lives if you weren't in it, once you have children/brothers/sisters then nothing would be happy without them, the only increased happiness they will feel is when you start to feel better.

Having a really good day today, did all the things I needed to do and no anxiety throughout the day. Hope everyone out there is ok x

Mrs_Ryan

Hi everyone :hello:

You lovely lot helped me through a very dark time last year after my accident and I've kept an eye on this thread since.

I eventually got over the anxiety the accident caused although it took a long time. The insurance paid out £2.5k in July this year but I had counselling until about September. Still slightly nervous in cars but not as bad as I was.

Unfortunately at the moment I'm on antidepressants due to several factors - I've been off work sick since about the end of October with severe uncontrollable menstrual bleeding which has made me very poorly. I have bad days most days where I feel so low I can barely move and when I do I get so tired I have to give up whatever I'm doing I also had something horrendously nasty happen to me last week which has really distressed me and so my mood has been even lower... not been sleeping or eating and my hair has fallen out with the stress.

Everyone was so lovely to me last time... could do with some more support right now

Raksha

Oh Mrs Ryan, you have been through it haven't you sweetheart? I can't give you any advice, except for be kind to yourself. {{{Hugs}}}