Support for people with Depression

Raksha

‎10 rounds with Chav Mother of 2 in the Dr surgery this morning who didn't like it when I suggested her pre schooler was learning to smack other children from his mother. It took me AND Dave both saying 'no' to get her to realise what he was doing - her response was the raise her hand to him, and then the little 'darling' smacked another woman so when he did it to me, I eyeballed him, held his shouldars and said 'No' firmly in his face, turned him around and pointed him at his mother - at which point he fell over his own feet! Apparently I pushed him.... Not a good start to the day - but it got better after a visit from 'the Outlaws'

sock-knitter

morning all, how is everyone. at the moment i am so happy, i have been given a council flat, in an assisted living scheme, lovely 2 bedroom flat, with support when ever i need it.
despite being so excited, i get the keys monday, i am aware that my moods change very quickly, and i know moving is going to be stressful, and there the gas, electric, virgin media etc to sort out too, does anyone know if there is a list anywhere of all the people who need contacting when you move
thanks
shaz xxx

GeeBee38

sock-knitter wrote: »

morning all, how is everyone. at the moment i am so happy, i have been given a council flat, in an assisted living scheme, lovely 2 bedroom flat, with support when ever i need it.
despite being so excited, i get the keys monday, i am aware that my moods change very quickly, and i know moving is going to be stressful, and there the gas, electric, virgin media etc to sort out too, does anyone know if there is a list anywhere of all the people who need contacting when you move
thanks
shaz xxx

This may be useful ?

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/HomeAndCommunity/BuyingAndSellingYourHome/SellingYourHome/DG_10018035

And wishing you lots of luck and happiness in your new home.

sock-knitter

thankyou goblin 36, that is very useful
thanks for taking the time to post
shaz x

UnluckyT

hi all, hope all okay and hugs to everyone, esp to everyone in need.

not bad at the moment just tired from holiday, trying to get back into the sleep pattern again here but i think im still away on the other side of the world and have got a bit of a cold, had a fantastic holiday though and pushed to keep myself going and enjoying it. got on really well with everyone so that a boon.
dreading going back to work though as i feel ive made some headway with my confidence and things that have bothered me etc. mainly because of peoples attitudes to me, but i guess that their loss if they want to be like that. keep positive i guess?

determined_new_ms

hey shaz thats great news! Good to hear that things are continuing to get better for you.

UnluckyT ooooo lovely wish I'd been on a holiday (I know I went away for 2 days but its not the same as a proper holiday! Always lifts the spirits!)

Well I went to see my doctor on Thurs and as suspected he put me on some medication and signed me off work for 3 weeks :eek: I don't think I'm going to need 3 weeks. Will call my boss on Monday & talk about returning probably a week Monday. Just not being at work for a week has helped me get my head together a bit & had 2nd counseling session yesterday.

Planning to exercise & spend QT with oh today - don't know why he puts up with me but he does so won't question it

Lots of love to all of you. Be kind to yourselves today - no matter what has happened we all deserve to be looked after and forgiven x

Raksha

Great news Sock Knitter - hope it all goes well - make a list!!!

Does anyone know how to stop lashing out at loved ones? All I seem to be doing lately is moaning at OH when he doesn't do things

determined_new_ms

Raksha wrote: »

Great news Sock Knitter - hope it all goes well - make a list!!!

Does anyone know how to stop lashing out at loved ones? All I seem to be doing lately is moaning at OH when he doesn't do things

sorry Raksha I wish I knew the key to that. I guess I try to be as loving to oh as I can be & that helps as he then is very understanding and supportive. He does tell me its really hard for him and makes his life harder when I'm very low, so I try to put some good times in as well.

I also try to think about what's important, him feeling happy, me getting well again or the washing up being done.

Sorry no real answer just what I *try* to do x

lovethymini

Raksha wrote: »

Great news Sock Knitter - hope it all goes well - make a list!!!

Does anyone know how to stop lashing out at loved ones? All I seem to be doing lately is moaning at OH when he doesn't do things

Hi Raksha, according to my Beat Depression book lashing out is the "front edge of pain";
Letting out this pain could involve taking time out to yourself and allowing yourself time to think about what you have lost or what it is that you want.
It also suggests suspending self-judgement for the moment. (easier said than done, I know)

If you lash out when OH doesn't do something you expect him to do maybe it is because it means you have less time out to yourself as a consequence?

Anyway - hth

x

Butterflymind

Hello all

I'm another newbie to this thread. Hope you don't mind me introducing myself? Just been diagnosed with depression & have my first a-d's and feeling really worried about taking them but know I need the help... I've read some of your posts, and you are a really supportive bunch, so I hope we can all support each other?

A bit about what's happened to us: hellish year, 4 bereavements, brother had heart attack, mum has chest pains (ok now both of them), OH under investigation for cancer, dad's had broken ribs, care of relative with terminal cancer (one of our bereavements this year), work stress (doing the jobs of 2 people - equivelant to 2 full-time posts in my part-time job), fears about OH losing his job, and other stuff going on which isn't so major. I've been putting on a brave face and trying to carry on through it all, which is why I am struggling to accept I need help now.... Am hoping it's just a bad phase and I'll be ok..... Don't know how some of you have carried on through your own bad times, but, it gives me hope to carry on.... : )