Support for people with Depression

rubytuesday

Errata wrote: »

Risperedone is an antipsychotic or neuroleptice. Info on it, and other MH meds here

http://www.choiceandmedication.org.uk/norfolk-and-waveney/pages/drugslistedbyname/#R

Interesting link Errata. Thanks

rubytuesday

fuddle wrote: »

Hello

Do you mind if I say hello? hello

Erm, not sure what to say really, just wanted to post. I have down days, a lot of down days just now but trying to think positively about the future.

:hello: Hi Fuddle. Glad to hear you are trying to think positively! That is a good step but can be hard at times can't it. I have found great benefit from walking regularily in nature. It really does lift the spirits x

mummyofboys

Hi

I dont really know who else to talk to so here it goes, me and my partner have been having problems for the past 8 weeks. Really longer then that but 8 weeks have been severe to the point i seriously have questioned leaving with our two children.

We have been together 5 years and are supposed to be getting married in 15 weeks which is now going to be postponed. He has become untalkative, moody, irritated, we havent had sex in months, he has started to not wash on a daily basis. He snaps at me and has a temper. I think he is suffereing from depression as he seems to not really have any emotion in between the things i have just said. He wont kiss me, wont cuddle, wont talk . He came to me on sunday and cried ( i felt a breakthrough) and said he feels bored and down and like he doesnt know whats wrong, I have told him I will support him and i love him and we can go to the doctors. I have made an appointement for tomorrow night. I should also mention this last two weeks he has become very panicy in crowds which is unlike him, once in boots he nearly fainted last week, and on bonfire night he actually became so stressed he vomited. He is also getting irritatted if someone sits next to him ect..all of which is new not like him.
I spoke to his dad today who informed me his dad ( partners grandadad ) and also his brother (uncle) both commited sucide at young ages.. this has floored me as I did not know this, I feel ver scared that im not going to be able to help and even before going to the doctors i feel like i have some what accepted this is going to be the outcome which is ridiculous but how i feel!

I feel very stressed from dealing with it, I also feel mad that i have to accept all this behaviour he has put me through and now support him which i know sounds selfish. i dont know what to do and just feel like I have no one to talk to as I am trying to support him. I feel abit like im walking on eggshells

mummyofboys

I am 23, he is 24 and our kids are nearly 4 and 8 months

mummyofboys

any advice or help would be great. i feel lost

supersmith

Didn't want to read and run, I'm sure people will be along soon with some really helpful advice. For what it's worth it does sound like your partner is depressed, it can make you panicky as well as very flat and it can be hard to admit at first. I think you're doing absolutely the right thing by going to the doctor's with him. The doctor can discuss the options like counselling or antidepressants. Just becuase members of his family committed suicide does NOT mean that he is going to - he's come to you and talked about how he is feeling and that's one enormous step to becoming better and doing something about his illness, rather than bottling it all up and not speaking to anyone. Maybe in his father's time there was not the support around that there is now.

I think it's OK as well to feel irritated and scared yourself, as it's a big thing dealing with someone who has depression. Don't feel that you have to tiptoe around him, once he is on the mend part of that is regulating your own behaviour and he can't get away with behaving like a twit just because he has depression.

Hugs xx

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

It might be depression, it might be a serious condition. Both of which are treatable.

Suicide is not the inevitable consequence of any of these nor a history in the family of seeing it as the only solution. However, it does make it more likely, which makes seeking medical treatment all the more urgent.

Go with him and ensure he doesn't get fobbed off or he minimises the problems.

Treatment is the important thing.

Good luck.

Glad

jay_mi10 wrote: »

any advice or help would be great. i feel lost

Hi I've added your posts to the ongoing depression support thread
please check the useful links in the 1st post of this thread

the_devil_made_me_do_it

Have unfortunatly SH today

I just feel under pressure & completely confused about things. Don't know where to turn to be honest. I just seem to have assesment after assesment & little if no treatment or support.

I know I should go back the GP, but am scared they will just poo par my issues & I couldn't handle that.

rubytuesday

the_devil_made_me_do_it wrote: »

Have unfortunatly SH today

I just feel under pressure & completely confused about things. Don't know where to turn to be honest. I just seem to have assesment after assesment & little if no treatment or support.

I know I should go back the GP, but am scared they will just poo par my issues & I couldn't handle that.

Devil could you not get an advocate to assist you in your dealings with the MH system? Sorry things are still not going well x