Support for people with Depression

UnluckyT

Hi all, hope all is well, on the up or hopefully will head the right way soon.
Same old to a point for me, although the specific councelling seems to be helping. Although it seem to affect me a little in the sense of having the odd flashback or having the odd day where im just going to pot and struggling to trundle on.
Feeling a bit happier and upbeat, plus been able to interact better with people on the whole as well as plod on a bit better.
Still at a loss with so called friends though taking the biscuit as well as dealing with the crap i get with people in work (both custmoners and colleagues alike), but hopefully if im persistant, keep trying i will get their.
That is if what goes around doesnt come around sooner?

roadiegirl

Reading through this thread has helped me deal with my depression a lot. I was diagnosed with anxiety and paranoia at the tender age of 13 due to bullying (I'm only 19 now!), and through reading this thread it has helped me to come to terms with things. I am gradually getting better at being able to control my panic attacks and I'm not as paranoid as I once was, and I'm finally off my medication!
Seriously, good luck to you lot. From your posts you seem like a great bunch of people who are incredibly strong, and I wish i'd found this thread earlier!

Indie_Kid

Could do with a little bit of help please:

On Sunday, I was talking to a friend. Now, anyone who knows me, knows I don't talk much. He said that I sound depressed - I feel fine.

Anyway, we were talking tonight and he said he was feeling rubbish. I asked if him & his wife are ok and he said they're fine. He says that he can't talk to her (she's dealing with the baby) and he feels I'm the only person he can talk to.

Now, the problem I have is that physically I'm not well and haven't been for several months now (chronic pain issues) and he thinks that's it's unfair of him to add to his problems.

rubytuesday

Sh what exactly is it that's the problem for you?x

the_devil_made_me_do_it

Has anyone ever seen a professor of psychiatry for a formal diagnosis after consultant psychiatrist can't make a decision?

Mrs_Ryan

Hi everyone, I hope no-one minds me posting here - my heads a bit of a mess tbh.

I work full-time in a hospital looking after older people with mental health problems as well as looking after OH who has psychosis, and usually my life is pretty balanced. I had a mini-breakdown in 2006 when I made several suicide attempts, but since then my mental health hasnt been too bad. However, on Saturday when we were driving up to visit my Mum we were rammed off the motorway by another car (the guy shouldnt even have been driving)
I was a passenger in the car, and I was badly shaken up (I had 2 severe panic attacks at the scene and then I was taken to hospital as I was also physically injured) Im obviously off work and in quite a lot of pain, the doctor has put me on strong painkillers which have knocked me for six and suddenly I'm feeling like Ive hit rock bottom. I feel really, really low and have lost interest in everything - I've not cried yet but I'm sure it wont be long. Everyone has rallied round and my OH (who was driving) especially (Im actually really proud of how strong hes been, hes supposed to be the one with the mental illness but hes coped amazingly)

My SIL said its natural to feel a bit weepy but its just totally taken over my life - I keep having flashbacks and nightmares about it, it was a really nasty crash and it seems nothing can take my mind off it.. I have to go back to the doctor for a sick note for work but Im scared to mention it just in case anyone thinks Im trying to pull a fast one, Im supposed to be the one who holds it together for everyone else but I feel absolutely destroyed. (Sorry for the rant)

Heart_Shaped_Diamond

Hi Mrs_Ryan, sorry to hear about the crash and your pain. I hope you're feeling okay just now.:o

Depression often causes us to feel that we are not worthy, and to feel like we are undeserving. I do not think you should care about what anyone thinks regarding seeing a doctor to ask for a line. You have been in an accident and are in severe pain. If any body deserves time off work to mend, it's you. You need to get some rest in order to heal properly - or you could potentially end up worse.

I know you don't mention that you have any illnesses but the medication you're taking sounds to me like it is causing the low mood and tearyness. There is no harm in asking to switch onto a different medication - one that will cater for your needs and stability better.

You work full time and help to mentor your OH who suffers psychosis. As much as you may not believe it, people will be understanding and sympathetic towards you and the crash you have just been in. I'm sure nobody will really think that you're 'pulling a fast one'. It sounds as though you work really hard, and I'm sure that you do. It will be more obvious to others than you realise. And it's obvious to your OH who you have taken care of for a number of years, so please don't feel guilty.

It's OKAY to take time out for yourself - to heal physically and emotionally.
And it's OKAY to be good to yourself, and it's certainly OKAY to treat yourself from time to time too.

Have you thought about rewarding yourself for the work that you do, and maybe buying yourself something nice you've had your eye on? It will cheer you up, promise:D.

It's also more than okay to be selfish sometimes. Carrying other people's problems around on a plate leaves no room for your own.

Now go and pour yourself a nice cup of tea Mrs;). And don't hesitate to get in touch with the doctor to get that note. It will allow you the space you deserve and need. Don't forget to mention the meds, as I said they could be a factor.

All the best.

geminilady

Hi MRSRYAN, Welcome to the board everyone is welcome here.Sorry to hear about your accident i am not suprised you are feeling so bad.Do not be scared about telling your doctor exactly how you are feeling i am sure he will understand.Iam not trying to diagnose you but would not be suprised if you were suffering from post tramatic stress.Iwould also check with the doctor if the pain killers could be causing your low mood.

shazrobo

hit rock bottom again,
my teenage sons are getting out of control and the police are here often.
tonight they have been again, and arrested one of them, and are keeping him locked up tonight. my heart is breaking i love him so much.
plus he can be good, tommorrow he was suppoosed to be going on a visit to the lord mayor for tea and biscuits and to receive his award for the good work he has done in the community
now he has been arrested and detained he will miss that, and he was so looking forward to it, feel guilty at him missing out.
cant stop crying, what if they really punish him this time, it will probably affect his future, he leaves school next year and was hoping to get a place at college, and he has worked so hard to improve his grades. i fear that he may be locked up, for somet the police are blowing out of proportion.
my head is a mess, i want my son home, and this nightmare to end
been SHing tonight as a result.
probably my fault for phoning them if his future is ruined, i've told the police i dont want to press charges and refused to give a statement, but they say its still up to the cps if they want to prosecute him.
just want my lad back home, and to enjoy the day he did have planned for tommorrow, my head so mixed up
shaz xxx

miro, hope it goes well with the new lady friend
gemini, how are you hun?
everyone, sorry that you are having to suffer this illness too
hugs all
shaz xxx

Mrs_Ryan

thank you everyone.. Im going to the doctors today. I've rallied a bit - found out Im going to get the Christmas presents back today that I had to leave behind when the police took the car away - I was so worried about getting them to my family on time. I've also bought myself a lovely new dress which has cheered me up a little - I still feel drained and achy, I've made up my mind just to be straight with the doctor and tell him or her how Im feeling.

Work rang yesterday - apparantly my boss is demanding to know how much longer Im going to be off for!! But my colleague (who lives in my village, she saw me and the state I was in the day after the crash) has told her that I most probably wont be back any time soon, and she told me I should make sure Im 100% before I even think about going back to work.

thanks again everyone - shazrobo, I really hope things get better soon for you xx