Support for people with Depression

beachbeth

Sorry you feel bad, sh1305. Perhaps you should make that appointment with the doctor?

Sazbo

Morning everyone :hello:

I'm with you re the weather Beth - it makes everything a bit harder, I think. When I get up in the morning it still feels like the middle of the night. And then I don't feel like I ever really wake up fully, it's just varying degrees of partial awakeness!:o

I've had better and worse phases of pmt over the years. I've tried so many things and I was never quite sure what's worked and what hasn't. But for me I did feel that adopting a low carb diet eased my symptoms - something to do helping keep hormones in balance.

Katie enjoy your day in Exeter.

Hugs to everyone :wave:

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxxxxx

Indie_Kid

beachbeth wrote: »

Sorry you feel bad, sh1305. Perhaps you should make that appointment with the doctor?

Yeah, I will do. I need to go back there anyway; as I need to get them change my eye drops.

sandy71

Morning everyone. It's rainy and miserable here:(

sh1305 get that appointment made or we won't speak you till you do:p

Tulip Have a lovely day.

Hello to everyone else that my memory has deleted as soon as I read the posts :mad:

Indie_Kid

I will do!

I haven't seen the people I live (well, the ones who are bullying me) since Wednesday. I couldn't care less if I don't see them ever again.

pipkin71

Morning all

My sore throat seems worse this morning so not a very happy bunny today.

Our busy day yesterday has left me feeling out of sorts. It usually happens that way, where a day of activity leaves me with little energy after that. I should pace better but I wanted to get things done.

Glad to hear you're going to make the appointment sh. Hopefully the Dr will be able to offer something to help with how you're feeling right now.

With regards PMT, I'm fortunate that I never really suffered anything each month. My mum had it bad though and then went through an awful time during the menopause. Not a nice thing to go through

shazrobo

morning all, i'm with you all, wishing the weather would brighten up, wet and rainy here too
regards pmt, i suffered bad with it too, found the contraceptive pill the best thing that works for me, had to try a few before finding the right one tho
hugs all
shaz x

beachbeth

I use the pill too, Shaz. It eases my symptoms a little but doesn't remove them. The main advantage to the pill is that I can make sure Im not due during holidays or at Christmas. It would totally spoil it otherwise. I do wonder if there is a link between pmt and depression too.

I am currently under investigation for a condition and will see a consultant next week (don't really want to talk about what it is). A blood test has shown that I do have this condition but further tests will prove conclusively that I do. If it is confirmed that I do, then this condition is known to cause depression and I can see that it would cause my pmt too. Im cautiously hoping that there may be a light at the end of the tunnel and, once I get myself sorted, I could see my depression improving. This could also be why therapy wouldn't work in my case to get rid of my depression.:cool:

pipkin71

How are you doing today, Sandy?

Hope you're ok

Horasio

Beachbeth, you have triggered a lot for me in discussing PMT

PMT/PMDD/Troublesome periods - irregular and draining

All things I am very familiar with

Ever since I started puberty, I became depressed and introverted. I felt like a freak as I was so young and got teased at school about it. I didn't get teased after age 14 as most girls would have had them at that age. I was irregular every single month till I took the pill.

The Pill made me aggressive but did make me regular and not get pregnant. I also got migraines.

ADs were OK to a point but still had PMDD. I felt I was being targeted by men (picked on, not picked up) during my PMDD. I felt I had a sign saying I've got PMDD, challenge me. I didn't feel I was being aggressive at the time and found them to be really annoying and it made me anxious.

Had a hysterectomy but still had PMDD. It was nice to get rid of periods and pregnancy fears.

Had my ovaries out because I have endometriosis and the surgeon said I was a mess inside. The excess oestrogen was sending me off the scale at times which is why the pill was screwing me up.

I feel less swingy but in the last 5 years I have had circumstantial things bring me down. My OH's less reliable employment, house trauma - was infested with rodents, septic tank back ups and nasty noisy neighbours, a couple of so called friends abandoning me, selling the house, 3 house moves (and about to move again in May) and relocation to the south from Scotland, our son being an idiot and still one, a health scare (mine), a death, a near death to deal with (not mine), my OH hassles, fleas in the house and my mother being swingy/moody.

Women were not supportive even the ones who had depression on top. NAPS were dreadful and had these type of women which made me feel even worse. Dr Dalton should come with a health warning - she is an old school man in drag.

Men don't understand it but some are sympathetic. Some of the doctors I have seen are from another time and it took 30 years to get sorted.

I had counselling and had good and bad ones. The good ones helped me immensely, the bad ones obviously useless and some made it worse. The 'tough love' method NEVER works with me and I tend to either withdraw/feel sorry for myself or take my anger out on some other poor soul. My mother is dismissive and denies anything I have wrong, so I spent my life in denial but it keeps rearing up.

The best counsellors are the ones who understand and reassure you you are OK really and suggest useful things but the main benefit is the feeling of being understood.

Cognitive therapy seems very male to me. I can see what they are saying but it doesn't address the emotional aspect of why you feel scared or anxious. They are trying to cure with logic but we can say all those things to ourselves but it doesn't always help. It has an element of 'don't be so silly' about it. I'm not knocking it and it has helped others but it didn't do much for me.

I liken ADs to dyeing a piece of fabric that has a pattern in it. You change the colour but the pattern still lurks.

Pregnancy was the only time I felt OK but it isn't practical to be in that state all the time nor is it guaranteed the other pregnancies would be OK as well.

A very strange change of subject. Does anyone find supermarkets in the south very different to ones up north? In Scotland, you did your shopping and that was it, you would sometimes chat but it wasn't obligatory. Down here they seem to want a conversation and get offended if you feel tired or not up to it. I don't want to be too open about why I don't want to, I just want to shop and go. Also, if I make an effort, I usually get the grunty ones, so I just don't want the aggro. When I lived in the south before, I would have a phobia of the places when I had PMDD as people seemed nastier at that time. I could not go alone or would send my OH or dad.

In the States, they are chatty and they seem to want to chat, whereas it doesn't seem natural here when they try to. I sometimes wish I could go there more often as they seem much more on my wavelength in general.

Also, I find the English are far more inclined to tell you off more than in Scotland, and seem to be looking out for people doing something minor. Women over 50 seem to be the worst culprits - especially ones in supermarkets.

So I ask does where you live and who you live with influence depression?