Support for people with Depression

pipkin71

shazrobo wrote: »

off to bed with bottle off water, thanks willa for reminding me
goodnight all
shaz xxx

Hope you don's have a headache this morning shaz. I won't SHOUT!!!!!!! though, just in case :)

Horasio

Hi guys

Not been sleeping well this week and feel really tired as a result.

Have a few life changing decisions to make in March as we are likely to move out in May. There are things I am not happy about and not sure of how to deal with them. So going round in circles trying to work out the best solution.

Can we keep the board supportive. We all have our problems and I'm sure we would all rather deal with them in a supportive way. I know there are other areas of this forum that are not so polite and friendly which is a shame because having money worries can bring on depression and people on there should be understanding of it's effects.

Horasio

shazrobo wrote: »

i had to stop drinking caffeine too, as i had racing thoughts, and increased heart rate through drinking too much caffeine. now i only buy de caff.
want to say a massive thanks to you all, for supporting me through my recent breakup, and your support regards SH'ing. thanks beachbeth for your pm's means so much to have friends like you.
had to turn my phone off, cos ian been texting me again tonight, saying he still has feelings for me. my head is telling me to keep away, and that he isnt the one for me, and im better off alone. my heart keeps telling me how much i love him and miss him. been naughty tonight and drank loads cider, will prob regret it in the morning, when i have headache, but at the moment, its helping me to forget my problems

shaz xxx

Aw big hugs

You don't need anyone who is going to mess you about. You have made your feelings clear to him and it sounds like he's not interested in meeting you halfway.

He feels threatened as he has lost his 'F Buddy' (rhymes with duck:D). A FB he doesn't have to make a lot of effort for and gets what he wants, so he's gonna cling on to it. Sorry it sounds insulting calling you a FB. I know you are not one but I can't see a change to your advantage in the long term, even if you do sometimes feel lonely. You deserve better,

beachbeth

I have to agree with CCStar. I think that is how he feels and you are worth more than that, Shaz.

willa

It's so hard when you are in the middle of something like that isn't it? I think it's a facet a lot of women have, putting up with ****y behaviour from men and accepting less than we deserve because we love them/want what they bring. I know I did it more than once before I got married and it's confusing and horrible.

jewelly

Hi. I have a long history of anxiety and depression. But I have (mainly) been the best ever in my life for the last two years. But, every now and again, something happens and I become overwhelmed with anxiety and just end up crying all the time.

The trigger this time is that I said something at work that I shouldn't have. It was a stupid thing to say and looked as if I was trying to get a colleague into trouble. But I wasn't. It was done innocently - but not very wisely. Sometimes I do tend to say what I think without thinking it through first. This is exactly what happened. I can't go into details as it's about work.

So now I'm in a constant state of anxiety and tears. I haven't got dressed or washed this morning. Not that it matters much, but it's unusual for me. I feel painfully aware that I have no-one to talk to who can support me. I don't have the kind of friends that could fulfil that role.

I feel so bad about myself and so very alone. (and sorry for myself!)

rubytuesday

Hello Jewelly sometimes when you play things over and over in your head they can end up seeming worse than they really are. It may well be that your collegues have forgotten your remark or didn't make too much of it in the first place. Sorry that you are feeling anxious but try and get yourself washed and dresssed if you can and you will probably feel a bit better x

willa

I have had a lot of the same jewelly. The beating up and self chastisement are a killer.
It's because we are not in the habit of being kind to ourselves.
Try to think of the situation as if it involved other people and not you (if you see what I mean).
How would you feel towards/about the person who said the 'stupid' thing and how would others feel?
I usually find that the more time passes between me and the event that I am beating myself up about, the more I stop with the self-flagellation and it all recedes in my mind.
I had one a couple of days ago when I got into conversation with someone who I literally could not get away from - they don't seem to understand social signals of 'I have to go' or 'I can't cope with this'. I even said I had to go a few times but they still kept talking and I didn't want to be rude and just walk off (or blow up!).
I ended up feeling patronised, chastised - cheeky b******, telling me I should be glad of their (irrelevant but it's a long story, some advice they had given me before was really helpful though) advice, and annoyed with myself for staying too long and not sticking up for myself and saying far too much more than I wanted to say about myself!
I went to bed feeling really low and had a crying fit that night about just everything but especially that incident making me feel so small and stupid and c.rap.
The next day it had started to recede though and now I have made a (learning to be hardfaced or maybe just sensible) resolution to avoid that person in future. They may mean well but being in their company is not good for my health, so it is a positive decision for me, not a negative one against them!
I know your incident at the moment is a work one though and that can make things extra horrid and persistent. Things will change in some way but I know that's not how it feels.
Anyway, have a pervy hug and a brew!
:grouphug::coffee:
xxx

shazrobo

hi everyone, didnt feel too bad this morning, kept sipping water every time i woke during the night, and i think that helped. there is no way i would become ian's f*** buddy. when he seen me on friday he has tried to grope me, and i've had to brush him off. to me sex is part of a loving relationship, and i havent felt loved by ian since before xmas really.
he is still texting asking to be friends and wants to meet me on tues for a coffee. might go and if i get upset like last friday, then i'll tell him straight that being friends isnt working.
he keeps asking for my staff bus pass back, and when i asked why he said its for when he gets another girlfriend, and then in next breath he'll say we'll try again, after a period of being friends.
one thing i am certain on, is i do not want another relationship with him, i love him, but he dosent treat me or my kids in a way i feel we deserve, and that hurts.
hi jewellery and welcome to the thread, try not to feel bad, hope things work out at work.
hugs all
shaz xxx

beachbeth

shazrobo wrote: »

when he seen me on friday he has tried to grope me, and i've had to brush him off. to me sex is part of a loving relationship, and i havent felt loved by ian since before xmas really.

I think thats awful. He shouldn't behave like that. You are right about sex being part of a loving relationship. You are not there for him to grope!

As for the staff bus pass, I would just keep saying that yes, I will give it you back and then conveniently keep forgetting! You could always say you've lost it too! What a cheek, saying he wants it for his next girlfriend! Has he got a queue waiting? (I doubt it!).

I can understand you missing his company but hang in there and be strong. Hugs for you. ((()))