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Horasio

Miro

You are understandably low as you are grieving. You have had three losses in one year and your cats are your friends. You have two others but you know they will go too. When you have had some time to grieve, maybe you could get another younger cat or two so you don't feel so lost when the other two die.

Your flatmate sounds like a chocolate teapot and wonder why you don't find your own place or another flatmate. Living with people who bring you down isn't good for you.

You sound to be a lovely and sensitive man. Why do you not feel nice? I know life has dealt you some knocks that have been out of your control but you need to write down all the nice points about yourself and repeat them. Even read the nice things we write about you, as other people's praise always seems more valid than your own.

(((big hugs)))

PS. That Rainbow Bridge piece always makes me cry (and think my old cat in my current avatar) and makes me hug my son's cat very tightly

shazrobo

i'm not coping, son just shouted at me and swore, just because i asked him to nip to the shop for some milk. i would go, but i cant leave both kids in house alone, other one is upstairs in bath, and i've got the cooker on for dinner. told him he'd have to drink water, if he couldnt be bothered going, and then i get accused of never feeding him lol, he is 6 foot tall, and weighs 14 stone, he overpowers me with his strength

shaz x

beachbeth

CCStar wrote: »

PS. That Rainbow Bridge piece always makes me cry (and think my old cat in my current avatar) and makes me hug my son's cat very tightly

Me too! It always makes me cry too - although I don't hug your son's cat!!!:p

It is lovely to think of our lost pets in a place like that waiting for us.

Horasio

shazrobo wrote: »

i'm not coping, son just shouted at me and swore, just because i asked him to nip to the shop for some milk. i would go, but i cant leave both kids in house alone, other one is upstairs in bath, and i've got the cooker on for dinner. told him he'd have to drink water, if he couldnt be bothered going, and then i get accused of never feeding him lol, he is 6 foot tall, and weighs 14 stone, he overpowers me with his strength

shaz x

I don't like the sound of this

No-one, child or other person who lives with you, has the right to disrespect you in this way in your home.

I would calmly say to your son that you will not tolerate this behaviour and will NOT get his milk if he isn't prepared to be reasonable or assist you. Then go quiet. I would give him the silent treatment till he got the message you don't disrespect your mother. You could do to be a bit like my OH and mother and create an atmosphere. No-one would dare mess with my mother in this way, shame she does this with me for having feelings that are not on her approved list.

I know they have problems but you have to set boundaries. Do you know any burly males who can tell him off on your behalf. Sometimes you need a male figure to deal with boys.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok *hugs*

Miro you sound a lovely person,we like you for you.Always post here so we know you are ok.I have had a nasty cold this week and havent seen my boyfriend at all this weekend or last friday which is when I would have normally gone to see him.

Its been lovely but soon I will be ready to see him again.I havent been at all well today but I went to my parents for lunch and a change of scene and it did me good and was nice to see my mum and have lunch cooked for me and on the table etc.Dad ran me home in the car as I wasnt well then I got comfy and watched Eastenders all afternoon

Have a nice evening!

love and light,

Katie xxxx

shazrobo

CCStar wrote: »

I don't like the sound of this

No-one, child or other person who lives with you, has the right to disrespect you in this way in your home.

I would calmly say to your son that you will not tolerate this behaviour and will NOT get his milk if he isn't prepared to be reasonable or assist you. Then go quiet. I would give him the silent treatment till he got the message you don't disrespect your mother. You could do to be a bit like my OH and mother and create an atmosphere. No-one would dare mess with my mother in this way, shame she does this with me for having feelings that are not on her approved list.

I know they have problems but you have to set boundaries. Do you know any burly males who can tell him off on your behalf. Sometimes you need a male figure to deal with boys.

my son has adhd, and does anything to get attention, good or bad. on friday, i tried talking to him calmly, then went quiet, his response was to smash the new gate in the garden with his temper, then went upstairs and started to throw things around. ok, so some things got broken, but i stood my ground til he went back outside, and laid down in the middle of the road. a lot of cars speed up and down our road, and he was risking his life, so i had to step in, in his eyes he won, he got the attention. feel like i am fighting a losing battle with him at mo. luckily he has a psychiatrist appointment at the hospital tommorrow, hope he gets prescribed the same meds as his twin takes, as they seemed to calm daniel down. my boyfriend, is a big bloke, ex rugby player, my son just says, you cant make me do anything, touch me, and i'll report you for child abuse. kids think they know everything these days.
shaz x

shazrobo

katie, sorry to hear you've not been feeling well, its good you have your mum and dad to look after you., get well soon.
hugs
shaz xxx

Horasio

shazrobo wrote: »

my son has adhd, and does anything to get attention, good or bad. on friday, i tried talking to him calmly, then went quiet, his response was to smash the new gate in the garden with his temper, then went upstairs and started to throw things around. ok, so some things got broken, but i stood my ground til he went back outside, and laid down in the middle of the road. a lot of cars speed up and down our road, and he was risking his life, so i had to step in, in his eyes he won, he got the attention. feel like i am fighting a losing battle with him at mo. luckily he has a psychiatrist appointment at the hospital tommorrow, hope he gets prescribed the same meds as his twin takes, as they seemed to calm daniel down. my boyfriend, is a big bloke, ex rugby player, my son just says, you cant make me do anything, touch me, and i'll report you for child abuse. kids think they know everything these days.
shaz x

I hope they do prescribe some decent meds. Hopefully they will work as they do on your other son. Tell the psychiatrist what you have said here and hopefully they will do something to help. Your son is in serious danger if he lies on a busy road.

I don't suggest physical contact or any other force from your bf but a good pep talk can work wonders.

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
How is everyone? Just a quickie for the moment folks. I've got my cpn due at around 8.25a.m. to take me to see the vet! Don't worry, I'm ready for him - teeth and claws have been honed with precision!

Meanwhile, some thoughts to start off your Moanday...

Things You'd Like to Say Out Loud at Work - Part III

1 Sarcasm is just one more service we offer.

2 If I throw a stick, will you leave?

3 Errors have been made. Others will be blamed.

4 Whatever kind of look you were going for, you missed.

5 I'm trying to imagine you with a personality.

6 A cubicle is just a padded cell without a door.

7 Can I trade this job for what's behind door #1?

8 Nice perfume. Must you marinate in it?

9 Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done.

10 How do I set a laser printer to stun?

11 I thought I wanted a career. Turns out I just wanted a salary.

12 Oh I get it... like humour... but different.

Back later, guys. Be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
Nearly forgot...



Much Love,
Tiff xxx