Support for people with Depression

Horasio

This has got to be the most depressing January ever!

My thoughts are with the people of Haiti - how awful for them:(

Horasio

It is gloomy and wet, not even got pretty snow

My mother is being a bully

My OH is depressed and not being very helpful, feels like we are at dead end.

There is a pile of boring jobs we can't be arsked to do.

When you go out - we went out for my OH birthday, the places aren't serving or they are rubbish. We went to a nice place but they said they weren't serving, then the next place we tried stank of sick. So we went home and had fish and chips. My mum was totally vile and added to the worst birthday my OH could wish for.

I'm being kept awake by fleas in my bed, not slept properly for two weeks.

We have to move in 4 months and thinking of getting away from all the negative people who are sapping me.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I too havent been myself at all,had to go to mums overnight Monday and came back to my flat yesterday afternoon,feel ok now.Had problems but sorted things out with my boyfriend and I am happy again.

I have now got a headcold and not venturing out too much as I dont feel up to it but going to relax and watch tv later and put feet up.

Sorry to hear about your cat Miro.

Hope everyone will be happier soon


Have a lovely day!

love and light,

Katie xxxx

Horasio

I'm not sure what to do about my mum.

It was only 3 weeks ago since her scare but since then she has been intolerable and been a bully. Add that to the 3 months of her not talking to us after turning on us and hitting my OH, we don't know what to do.

We are making some allowances as she hasn't been well, lost her husband in July and had her anaesthetic react very badly but we cannot tolerate her bullying, disrespect and nastiness.

shazrobo

afternoon all, another one here not feeling great, ended up SHing pretty badly yesterday, and bitterly regret it now. so cold and icy here, kids only just back to school.
katie, glad you sorted things with your bf, and are happy again.
miro, glad the cremation went ok
ccstar, dont know what to suggest re your mum, maybe see her less ofter, and just keep in phone contact with her
beachbeth, i'm finding everyday things overwhelming right now too, just carry on taking things one step at a time, and only do necessary tasks, for me thats keeping kids fed, kitchen and bathroom clean, and keeping up with laundry everything else can wait

hugs all
shaz xx

beachbeth

Ive been a bit better today and luckily haven't had to go out anywhere. My DD2's bus didn't turn up so she didn't go to college. Theres no way I was going out driving with the snow falling down on us today. Ive heard about no end of accidents happening round and about.

The doctor's receptionist rang me today very apologetic saying that my stool sample had been damaged and spilt out in transit and they therefore were unable to analyise it. I have to take another one in and wait again for the result.:mad: I took this sample in last week on Thursday. How come its taken until today for them to tell me this??? I was nice to the receptionist though - its not her fault.

Sorry for people who are having trouble. I think you must be a saint, CCStar. If it were me I would spend a lot less time with my mum if she was behaving like this. Tell her you can't deal with her when she's like that and will go back another time. Easier said than done though, I know. Sorry you have been SHing Shaz. I hope you are feeling better soon.

feelinggood_2

Evening all. I'm having a bad day, anxiety makes it hard enough to go out in normal conditions, but because of the snow I really am not able to get out. It is so hard being reliant on online shopping and post, I'm out of sugar/salt and various things I need are somewhere in the ether.

Shaz, sorry to hear about the SH.

CCstar, I hope things work out with your Mum. Relationships can be difficult. Are there certain situations or places that set your Mum off? Would short, regular visits in a coffee shop or something work better? I can sympathise with your depressed OH too, my OH is having a tough time so I've got to try and be the strong one for once.

Horasio

feelinggood wrote: »

Evening all. I'm having a bad day, anxiety makes it hard enough to go out in normal conditions, but because of the snow I really am not able to get out. It is so hard being reliant on online shopping and post, I'm out of sugar/salt and various things I need are somewhere in the ether.

Shaz, sorry to hear about the SH.

CCstar, I hope things work out with your Mum. Relationships can be difficult. Are there certain situations or places that set your Mum off? Would short, regular visits in a coffee shop or something work better? I can sympathise with your depressed OH too, my OH is having a tough time so I've got to try and be the strong one for once.

How are you coping being snowed in? Our snow has gone and being on the coast, we are likely to get less snow.

My mum has always had a bullying tendency but she has been so negative and nasty. She did have a side that was charming and is very glamorous.

What annoys me is it was OH birthday yesterday, she was so negative and inconsiderate and it spoilt it for him. She is obsessed with her ex neighbour who blows hot and cold, yet if I need any sympathy, so says I am ungrateful and have everything, so have no right to complain. Then I get the bullying. So I feel bad, then I have her bullying on top. I feel so devalued by her. I am wondering why I came back and lived near her to get abused. I sometimes wish I was still in Scotland.

I have always felt to be in her shadow. Whenever I put myself out for people, I was ignored or put down, so get to the stage I can't be bothered, so withdraw.

Going to a coffee shop is out of the question as she wont pay over the odds for a coffee, she is mean about things like that and would moan about it being overpriced.

My OH deflates me when I make an effort, and I am not strong enough to cope with it.

We have to be out of our house by June and seriously thinking of going it alone and leaving them all!

Miroslav

Hi all.

Sorry, don't feel strong enough to reply much, but just to say I hope all your situations get better soon.

I like to think all 3 cats that have gone are still with me and I just can't see them, but they are still here in spirit.

jenniewb

Miroslav wrote: »

Hi all.

Sorry, don't feel strong enough to reply much, but just to say I hope all your situations get better soon.

I like to think all 3 cats that have gone are still with me and I just can't see them, but they are still here in spirit.

I think thats how it is- they will always be with you. An old Indain saying reads that we are only alive as long as the last person we know remembers us.

I think it will get easier though, you just gotta ride out the storm, keep holding on, give yourself space and time. Hope your getting by OK- know it must be v.hard.