Pregnant and Hubby doesnt love me

pebbles88

fitzilian19 wrote: »

got a little t-shirt that says 'my mummy rocks!' ...

you most certainly do. you will be a wonderful Mum. :-) xx

fitzilian19

right i'm getting out of bed and showered.. this is the laziest i've been all my life!

got a letter from Moat Housing Association... i'm eligable for shared equity, new build homebuy and discounted rent/ rent to homebuy...
weight off my shoulders as now i can look at all my options properly and really think about things!

think i might head out to mum's in a bit and take her doggie for a walk... have a few mins to myself before i see his parents tonight - going for dinner...

angelicmary85

You're thread has nearly brought tears to my eyes! Good luck with all that's too come and as for baby clothes etc, don't worry about the cost too much cause you can get stuff for really cheap...it's the £30 first pair of shoes you have to worry about

fitzilian19

thanks! :-)

he will be contributing to things like that - if not i'll tell his mummy who will come down on him like a tonne of bricks!

loving the bump today... now there's a constant reminder to me and everyone around that the baby comes first...

lindsey_toffee_girl

fitzilian19 wrote: »

he cant consider himself a christian after what he has done. i suspected anyway, but his bro in law agreed... he's just been going to church out of habit...

the baby will have his name. we are on friendly enough terms at the mo to sort out visitation rights etc. just the actual divorce and financial side of things that need to be done.

My heart goes out to you.

you are a very strong lady.

I noticed here you said you would give the baby his name, please re think this as this is what my cousin also did then when she divorced and re married she was not able to change the childs name over as her ex would not agree, she then had another child and felt her first child was left out as of the odd name to the rest of the family. Just something for you to consider xx

Dinah93

I agree as regards the babys name. He has shown himself to be a father who cares about himself before his child, and you already think there could be a struggle getting any financial support for the baby, so why should it have his name?

A friend of mine from school had her birth fathers name, a man who she gradually grew to call weak and who she hated having to see as he walked out on her mum and went through a progression of women. She used her step fathers name whenever she could, legally she couldn't change her name until she was 18 and so all official matters had to be in her birth dads name (she also got herself adopted by her stepfather then who she saw as her 'real' dad).

You clearly love your baby, and are putting the baby's well being first, please think of the long term implications if your ex chooses not to be involved in the babys life, the baby does not respect your ex for the decisions he made as it gets older, and the fact that in time it is quite likely as a result the baby will have a different name to you either if you remarry or go back to your maiden name.

Hope you've had a relaxing weekend, are you going to find out if it is a girl or boy baby or are you keeping it as a suprise?

aliasojo

I agree on the name thing. Please think very carefully about all that's involved now AND in the future. It's such a seemingly simple thing but it can cause untold problems for years on end. (Been there...badge and t-shirt. :rolleyes:)

Nicki

I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news (again!) but its not as simple as saying that you won't give the baby the same surname as his father, if your decree absolute hasn't come through by the time you have to register the birth (and to be honest its very unlikely it will have done).

You need to speak to your solicitor about this (I know I keep telling you this) because when you are still married at the time the birth is registered, both parents must consent to the name (first name and surname) the baby is registered in.

http://www.lawandparents.co.uk/changing-a-childs-surname.html

Broken_hearted

Its normal for the baby to have its fathers name when married. He will still be the father anyway giving it her name just makes her look like someone who got knocked up without a partner.

sandford6016

Gone through a similar thing babe. Won't post all the gory details on here, but feel free to message me for any support you may need!