Debts in the City. A Modern Girls Guide to Life in 2009. My story.

rosered1963

Swinstie73 wrote: »

That's a difficult one, I've always worked in offices i.e. secretarial, but did end up in HR (temping), which I hated but made loads of great friends and now work in an Engineering dept with loads of mad men (no mad cats for me I'm afraid). Is the campaign management, copywriting anything to do with newspapers/magazines?!? Im thinking Ugly Betty here - the endearing secretary with longings to be a journalist - I live in a fantasy world sometimes...... Honestly you'd be good at journalism

I agree - Blondie - to do temp secretarial/clerical work would be career suicide for a marketing professional - you need to stay in your general field. I was a press officer - very similar to what you do, as we talked about a while ago - maybe you could think of this - all orgs need them - even more so now. If you can write a press release, keep your cool and talk to national papers and tv, you can do it.

Cinny91

mynameiscatherine wrote: »

But then without these strange habits we wouldn't be "crazy" cat ladies. Just cat ladies. Which doesn't have the same ring to it

One of my cats (lovingly called Sh*tface) has an odd talent of answering back. It's known as 'Sh*tface agrees' now, just one mew answers, quite entertaining if you can keep it going for long enough.

You must be feeling uber low if Enrique Iglesias music is creeping in! I suggest a tub of ice cream, maybe some malteasers, and the cheesiest movie you can lay your hands on to cheer yourself up.

Oh, and I've been told if you put the icecream in a bowl before eating the calories actually fall out, neat huh?

lindens

whispers, Ben & Jerrys are 2 for £5 in Sainsburys......

laura2481

Cinny91 wrote: »

Oh, and I've been told if you put the icecream in a bowl before eating the calories actually fall out, neat huh?

Woah, no-one ever told me that. Quick pass the ice-cream...and a bowl!

On cat positions: Halold favours 'flumped'. That is going from vertical to horizontal in the fastest time possible and seeing what random position he ends up in! Although my personal favourite is lying on his back with all four feet in the air. We don't have a name for this, we just generally say 'Look at the stupid cat now!'

Kirstie1985

mrscmr wrote: »

hi, just adding my tuppence worth...
snoring... OH snores so much some times i get the phone, dial his mobile no and record him snoring. then the next morning he has a voice mail message which is his own snoring. then he gets some idea of what i go through.
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I LOVE this idea, def going to have to try this next time I stay at OHs.

Don't forget to pass that ice-cream over this way girls, especially if it's Ben & Jerry's (Mmmmmm Phish Food)

blondiedebtfree

i think i might have to have a quick :grouphug: with a mr ben and mr jerry later.

Ive been having a think about things and i really am going to talk to sparky tonight about us. Im really not sure anymore if i want it to carry on. I know i am more stressed now because of not having a job and the timing couldnt be worse but i dont want to be treated like this anymore.

For those you that dont know i Sparky walked out on me in september last year after 9 years. We had been arguing (a bit not much) then i found a text message on his phone saying 'miss you x' from an unknown number.

I threw his phone at his head (he was sitting on the loo at the time - very comical looking back) and walked out. He rang his mate and was trying to cover his tracks but I knew deep inside he was texting someone.

Forward to a big row and he walks out. I was shattered. I didnt eat for 5 days. Promptly lost 2 stone and fell apart.

He kept coming back to our flat and refused to take all his clothes to move back in with his mum. So he kept coming in the flat. was very upsetting.

He then decided to make a go of things, but he still hasnt moved his things back in the flat, needless to say both our engagement rings are still in the cupboard, his phone is always on silent and he is always working 'away'.
Classic signs of a cheater if i ever saw one.

Im at the stage where i think, 'f@uk it, ive been through the worst when he first left me'.

Sorry to disrupt the thread but i need to write this down to make it make more sense in my head. Im not upset as i write this im very (crazily) calm.

I have been through very very low patches lately and his on-off behaviour has been making me much worse. I dont know. This is the worst possible time. I have NO money at all. Nowhere i could stay. No job. EKKKK:eek:

So makes me more determined to get a job, as once i have that i can make some decisions. ARHHHHH

Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

dozy-debtor

you are right to write things down, things can seem much clearer.

Sparky should be supporting you emotionally through such a difficult time rather than you having to turn to a forum although I know everyone here cares a lot for you.

If he cant be there for you when times are really bad then what happens the next and next time you are on one of lifes rollercoaster. partners should share the good times as well as the bad. i know not having a job isnt helping but you will only end up making yourself ill if you let him make you fell sad so much of the time.

perhaps like you say having a talk to him may work but he needs to prove you can trust him to be there for you and not make you feel like its your fault.

You sound like a really lovely person and I am the same age as you with similar relationship/money problems. Sometimes I think that you should really put your needs first as he certainly has been putting his own needs before yours. xxxxx

xxx
btw love the image of a phone bouncing off hgis head whilst sat on the loo!!

rosered1963

Hi Blondie.

Thanks for telling us that. I was in just that position after a relationship that lasted 7 years (a very long time ago in my late twenties). Its just awful not knowing where you are. have you planned to get engaged again, and have youtalked about it? You can't go backwards, only forwards and it sounds to me that the next step if you worked it out between you would be to get engaged and married. He needs to show his commitment. As for having nowhere to go - I left my then boyfriend and our place with £20 and a clean dress in a carrierbag. I never saw him again. You will be amazed at how many people will help you if you decide to leave and start afresh. You care always welcome to Come and bunk down in our farmhouse!

blondiedebtfree

rosered1963 wrote: »

Hi Blondie.

Thanks for telling us that. I was in just that position after a relationship that lasted 7 years (a very long time ago in my late twenties). Its just awful not knowing where you are. have you planned to get engaged again, and have youtalked about it? You can't go backwards, only forwards and it sounds to me that the next step if you worked it out between you would be to get engaged and married. He needs to show his commitment. As for having nowhere to go - I left my then boyfriend and our place with £20 and a clean dress in a carrierbag. I never saw him again. You will be amazed at how many people will help you if you decide to leave and start afresh. You care always welcome to Come and bunk down in our farmhouse!

Having you on here (and the lovely poster before you dozy-debtor) really help.
You are so right about the commitment thing, we wont talk about the future so it makes me more confused and angry. I havent even got £20..lol. Its that sad. LOL
Im thinking about my lovely, scatty mum who is a mere dinner lady, very shy and dozy. she left my evil bully of a father after 31 years of marriage and she had nothing. At the time she left to live with my nan, i used my CC (funny eh??) to buy her clothes, i remember spending £125 in Primark for her and we were standing in the queue laughing as we got an entire wardrobe for that! LOL. My mum was so strong and i just dont want to end up after 31 years going through what she did. LOVE YOU MUM !! (EVEN THOUGH SHE WONT READ THIS)

I think my plan is to try to be strong and really try so hard to get a job to be able out move out for a while. That way i dont have to see him when i dont want to. I have my holiday soon *come on you clacton fans!!* :rotfl: so i can do some thinking then too.

Hows your friend??

Cinny91

I'm a chicken, so if I was in your position I'd put Marmite in a cat carrier and camp at my mums!

You really should have a word with him, reading this thread you sound like a lovely lady and you deserve better! Sparky sounds like a bit of a poohead, like hanging up on your the other day, like someone else said he should be giving you support now instead of that! And don't say sorry for moaning on your own thread, that's what it's here for
When times get hard, sit back, relax.. and think of Clacton (bring us some rock back!)


Still giggling over the image of throwing a phone at someones head in the bathroom though..