Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I had my post and my Amazon orders got delivered.I got a nice case for my ipod Nano to go into and its lovely and a travel charger as well and I am happy with that,dont know if it is working yet as I have just charged it this morning via Pc

I am off out now,Have a lovely day and I will chat later this afternoon.

Saz hope you and Gilly are well and happy.Hands Saz the cupboard keys to get some smarties out,help yourself everyone but make sure its locked afterwards and post in the catflap for me to collect

Thanks


love and light,

Katie xxx

beachbeth

Having a much better day today. OH rang the head office of daughter's firm and we've got it all sorted. The bloke in question isn't allowed in the branch where she works so she is much happier now knowing that he won't come in there again. They tried to make out that this had always been the case - so why was her manager told that he was allowed in then? We are getting it in writing too. My daughter has a lovely night out planned for tomorrow night and has just bought herself a new top and can now go along, forget about all the upset and just enjoy herself.:T

I don't care what you say, Tiff, I would like to see your new hairdo - Im not squeamish or anything!:p And as Sazbo says, we would like more details please about the hot date (you can't say something like that and leave it hanging!:p )

Hope you have a lovely lunch, Tulip, and that your friend is ok.

rosepink1984

Beachbeth, I'm so glad things are sorted out for your daughter, that must be a big relief. Is the man going to be prosecuted for what he did?

I've just got back from my course on stroke and arthritus. I was so tired whn I got up this morning after all the emotion yesterday. I was really in a bad way, just kept busting into tears all day and evening. I spent the morning trying to keep myself together and at least I didn't cry in public.
I feel really awful now. I just want to drift away really and not wake up. My emotions feel so intense and raw.
I'm going to try to sleep this afternoon. I can't cry, if I start I may never stop.

mezer3000

rosepink, I know how you feel. Sometimes I find a little nap is enough to let the raw emotions subdue a little bit, so that when you get up later, you're not feeling so much like the world is going to end. Am about this afternoon if you want to chat.:o

Went to doctors yesterday - pretty much everything wrong with me at the minute - ie lots haha - is.....wait for it.......stress related.....wooooo hahahahaha:rolleyes:. So yeah not a lot he can do. He understood why I stopped my tablets and was cool with that, I explained that I am reluctant to go on medication again. We discussed a few different things and he is looking into some options for me. Also having read what other people have said, I asked him about a gym referral, he looked up that it definitely was possible, but didnt know many of the ins and outs of being referred due to mental health, so again is looking into that for me

Had a counselling session this morning. Finally managed to talk about some of the stuff I had been avoiding - it wasnt as emotional as I was expecting it to be, but she did quite a bit of exploring, and basically it comes out that a lot of the way I am now is due to certain events in my past that I hadn't even realised had affected me in this way. So that is good to know, and now allows me to take a step forward.:T

I signed up to a mystery shopping agency, thinking it would get me out of the house a bit more. My first one is at midnight tonight :rotfl:- not exactly what I was thinking, but hey its a little bit of money, and sounds kinda fun teehee

I really need to get to the tax office, but I don't know where my local one is. I looked up on the hmrc website and it gives a postal address of a local one, but I don't know if that means I can go in there and talk to someone? And the phone number is just some awful automated thing. Might have to wait until I get home, as I know there is definitely somewhere there I can go in and speak to someone.

So now, my afternoon consists of not a lot, except its blinking cold, so I'm not going out! Am about if anyone else needs to talk........xx

Sazbo

beachbeth wrote: »

I don't care what you say, Tiff, I would like to see your new hairdo - Im not squeamish or anything!:p And as Sazbo says, we would like more details please about the hot date (you can't say something like that and leave it hanging!:p )

:T:T:T What Beth said!

Tulip wrote: »

Saz hope you and Gilly are well and happy. Hands Saz the cupboard keys to get some smarties out,help yourself everyone but make sure its locked afterwards and post in the catflap for me to collect

We're good thanks Katie hun:) Just work's been a bit stressful for both of us, so we're looking forward to the weekend:) And thanks for the smarties - I'm just not too sure about posting the key through catflap - Tiffy will see it!! :eek:

Hope everyone's doing ok this afternoon. Extra big Friday hugs to all who need them - especially rosepink and RBK, whose birthday I missed, and to all you wonderful folk on here.

Much love as always,
Sazzy xxxxxxxxx

shazrobo

desperatly in need of a hug, been dreading daniel coming home all week, i know that sounds awful, but after all the things i found in his room on monday, that dont belong to him, i knew i would have to discuss it with him, just couldnt let it go un-noticed. anyway daniel dosent take well to being found out, and is such an absolute liar lately, anyways he swore at me, threatened me, and walked out slamming door behind him.
am so cross, and at the same time, so worried about him. have been driving around looking for him but not seen him at all, he could be anywhere, just hope he comes home soon, safe and unharmed, he is so vulnerable, and has no awareness of real danger, and if someone has spoken to him while he has been in a mood, i fear he could have threatened that person, and that person wouildnt understand, and could give him a good smack or whatever.
scared and in tears

shaz xxx

mezer3000

shazrobo, i don't know what you found in daniels room, or any of your history, but i know what its like to come on here in tears, just hoping that someone will reply. i'm here if you need to talk. just pm me, or i have msn or whatever. xxx

shazrobo

mezer3000 wrote: »

shazrobo, i don't know what you found in daniels room, or any of your history, but i know what its like to come on here in tears, just hoping that someone will reply. i'm here if you need to talk. just pm me, or i have msn or whatever. xxx

thanks mezer, daniel is one of twins aged 13 both have severe adhd, other behaviour difficulties, learning disabilities, and possibly autism too. daniel is away at resedential school all week, as his problems are so much harder thatn his brother who also goes to a special school, but just during the day. it dosent help that the boys are so competitive anyway, and often dont get along, so weekends and school hols can be a complete nightmare at times. especially if daniel gets violent as he is a big lad, and very strong. the items in his room didnot belong to him, and this needed challenging, as if it was just left alone it would carry on. been found out upset him and led to his latest outburst

thanks for listening
shaz xxx

absolutebounder

shazrobo wrote: »

desperatly in need of a hug, been dreading daniel coming home all week, i know that sounds awful, but after all the things i found in his room on monday, that dont belong to him, i knew i would have to discuss it with him, just couldnt let it go un-noticed. anyway daniel dosent take well to being found out, and is such an absolute liar lately, anyways he swore at me, threatened me, and walked out slamming door behind him.
am so cross, and at the same time, so worried about him. have been driving around looking for him but not seen him at all, he could be anywhere, just hope he comes home soon, safe and unharmed, he is so vulnerable, and has no awareness of real danger, and if someone has spoken to him while he has been in a mood, i fear he could have threatened that person, and that person wouildnt understand, and could give him a good smack or whatever.
scared and in tears

shaz xxx

hopefully he will come home when he is hungry. then I think you have to sit him down and tell him you are going to have a discussion, not a row but a discussion and try and find out what he thinks he is lacking that he needs to steal and lie. then one by one take him round the people he has stolen from and make him give the things back to the owners with an apology. That will probably be bad enough punishment for him.
as you say he could threaten the wrong person and whilst he may learn a lesson its not a nice way to learn it.
I know this is difficult for you but the only way you will win is by being stronger than him mentally.

mezer3000

shazrobo wrote: »

thanks mezer, daniel is one of twins aged 13 both have severe adhd, other behaviour difficulties, learning disabilities, and possibly autism too. daniel is away at resedential school all week, as his problems are so much harder thatn his brother who also goes to a special school, but just during the day. it dosent help that the boys are so competitive anyway, and often dont get along, so weekends and school hols can be a complete nightmare at times. especially if daniel gets violent as he is a big lad, and very strong. the items in his room didnot belong to him, and this needed challenging, as if it was just left alone it would carry on. been found out upset him and led to his latest outburst

thanks for listening
shaz xxx

Hi shaz

I worked in a special needs school for a while, wiht kids with anything from downs syndrome, autism, adhd etc, so I can understand what you mean about when they get angry, unfortunately they do tend to just lash out.
Having pulled disappearing acts like this myself, he will come home. He'll most probably walk around angry for a bit, go find somewhere to calm down, wait til it gets dark, get scared and then come home - well at least thats what I used to do.

As ab says, when he comes home, sit him down and try and talk, does he have a favourite meal, or drink that you could give him while he's talking - just as a pacifying tool so that he doesnt lash out at you.

Ask him why he's angry first before you ask about the other stuff.

I don't know if I am barking totally up the wrong tree with my advice

xxxx