oh no help please

icouldcry

i normally post under anouther name but changed it for this question hope you dont mind.

i need advice cause i think i have messed up big style.

currently have a little girl and i am in reciept of income support. at new year i had a "little" accident and have now found out that im pregnant again. the babys father is the same as my first child.

what do i have to do from her regarding income support, when do i tell them and are they going to belive that this WAS a one off. yes i know it was stupid and before anyone says anything i did use protection but it split , he has already made it quiet clear that its my choice and he does not want to be with me (he will be being named on birth certificate if he will come with me )

so now im scared that my benifits are going to be stopped and im going to end up homeless any help or advice will be appricated.

whitty999

that is unfortante but mistakes can't be helped,if he keeps the baby & pays maintenance then the income support people cant tell you who to sleep with,you will not lose your benefits or you shouldn't lose them over this.
Does he keep your daughter?

icouldcry

thanks whitty

no i keep my daughter and i will be keeping this one with me as well, he pays me the miniumum £5 a week and i hardly see him as it is. once in a blue moon infact when he does collect his daughter for the day.

im scared that if i name him (or even dont) on the birth cirtificate that its going to cause all sorts of problems

jennie09

icouldcry wrote: »

i normally post under anouther name but changed it for this question hope you dont mind.

i need advice cause i think i have messed up big style.

currently have a little girl and i am in reciept of income support. at new year i had a "little" accident and have now found out that im pregnant again. the babys father is the same as my first child.

what do i have to do from her regarding income support, when do i tell them and are they going to belive that this WAS a one off. yes i know it was stupid and before anyone says anything i did use protection but it split , he has already made it quiet clear that its my choice and he does not want to be with me (he will be being named on birth certificate if he will come with me )

so now im scared that my benifits are going to be stopped and im going to end up homeless any help or advice will be appricated.

Sorry to hear about your situation, there is no reason why your benefits should stop at all in this situation, these things happen.

icouldcry

thank you for the reasurrance jenny, do you think they will pull me in and interview me? also when should i tell them does anyone know, i tried looking and couldnt find it

jennie09

icouldcry wrote: »

thank you for the reasurrance jenny, do you think they will pull me in and interview me? also when should i tell them does anyone know, i tried looking and couldnt find it

Do you mean the DWP ? these are who pay your income support, they have no reason too pull you in, there are lots of people in similar situations to yourself, try not too worry as hard as it is for you at the moment, if anything you should recieve more benefits if anything, for instance child tax credits and extra child benefit.

icouldcry

thanks again jennie i didnt even think about the extra if im hohnest, i just worried about the fact that it was my ex partner and that they are not going to belive me

yeah i was on about the DWP, i dont know when to tell them and what to tell them, i mean do i just tell them im pregnant or will there be lots of questions?

jennie09

icouldcry wrote: »

thanks again jennie i didnt even think about the extra if im hohnest, i just worried about the fact that it was my ex partner and that they are not going to belive me

yeah i was on about the DWP, i dont know when to tell them and what to tell them, i mean do i just tell them im pregnant or will there be lots of questions?

Please do not worry, it has nothing too do with the DWP if you decide too have another child, the support is available, you do not have to explain yourself to them, as for telling them that is up to you when you decide to do that, they will help you with anything else you should be entitled too, do you recieve child tax credits for your child at the moment?

seven-day-weekend

I think maybe the OP is worried that the DWP will say thatn they lived together (as she is pregnant by the same person) and that therefore wasn't entitled to her past benefits.

Icouldcry I would just be honest and say it was a one-off accident over the new year. If you were not living with him then they have no reason to think you were.

Do try not to worry (easier said than done, I know), but my advice is to just tell them the truth asap and then you will not have to worry about it.

Good luck!

carlita

when you have the baby and start claiming for the new baby they will send you a form <used to be CSA> and on this form it asks the days name. fill it in end off.

They can not punish you for having sex with your ex lots of people do it, it none of their business who you sleep with as long as he is not living with you and you are claiming single parent benefits.

You are allowed to have relationships and they don't take them into account.

if they ask <which I don't think they will> just tell them the address he pays council tax at and its up to them to prove otherwise, and you say you don't live together so they can't.

try and not worry ~ seriously this really is one of those things you build into a huge drama and it's not

btw congrats on the baby if that applicible

xx

Francesanne

He really doesn't sound the ideal father material to me. We all make mistakes but are your circumstances ideal to have another child?