oh no help please

krisskross

astonsmummy wrote: »

Sorry, but does it really matter now

Yes I actually think it does. Whether anyone likes it or not no one should be deliberately bringing children into the world that they themselves cannot provide for.

astonsmummy

akin_drum wrote: »

Yes of course it matters. The OP has no way of supporting this 'little accident'.

I am baffled as to how she could even consider having sex with the father of her child when he has absolutely no interest in the result of their 'love'. Where on earth is the attraction?

What I meant was, what's done is done, why do people have to keep coming onto threads with their opinions on OP's situation.
As for the latter part of your post, it's none of your business so why are you baffled? Do people question your sex life?

atomicsheep

krisskross makes a valid point i feel

astonsmummy

krisskross wrote: »

Yes I actually think it does. Whether anyone likes it or not no one should be deliberately bringing children into the world that they themselves cannot provide for.

Well maybe a new thread in DT would be more appropriate, it's the same old same old on here.
:rolleyes:

bunny999

Where / what is DT ?

krisskross

Well I am sure that the OP is now completely reassured that her income will increase considerably with her new addition so you have done your bit. Heaven forbid someone suggests that children actually need 2 parents, not a mother and the taxpayers.

astonsmummy

krisskross wrote: »

Well I am sure that the OP is now completely reassured that her income will increase considerably with her new addition so you have done your bit. Heaven forbid someone suggests that children actually need 2 parents, not a mother and the taxpayers.

I'm sure the OP doesnt need telling that 2 parents can sometimes be better than one.
What else is she supposed to do? abort her baby i suspect you lot would suggest.

astonsmummy

bunny999 wrote: »

Where / what is DT ?

Discussion time, a board right at the bottom of the forum.

feelinggood_2

krisskross wrote: »

Well I am sure that the OP is now completely reassured that her income will increase considerably with her new addition so you have done your bit. Heaven forbid someone suggests that children actually need 2 parents, not a mother and the taxpayers.

I think perhaps its time we all took a step back and had a re-read of Martins post:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=365935

"This board is here for help and support for those on or looking to claim benefits, not for judgement."

Please can we stick to facts and advice here, not judgement or discussion.

akin_drum

Personally, I think there is more to this than the OP is telling us.

A 'mate' that she only sees occassionally, who refuses to pay for the child he already has and therefore has no interest in, yet the OP sleeps with him, then neglects to go and get the morning after pill.......Yeah, right. Either the OP needs a few life lessons or there is more to this than meets the eye.