Fibromyalgia (part 2)

raeh

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

Good to know :j
Anyone is welcome, particularly those who look at the daft side of life and illness.

is there another side to life??

that's fantastic news seaside thanks for letting us know and I'm pleased you will be 'hanging' around with us i will never need counselling whilst i have this lot.

Been to john lewis with my sister and ordered her P&T pram, will be here wednesday and going to mums as she doesnt need it til may
i saw the most GORGEOUS red Radley bag that was reduced to £100 perfect size for work but i decided it was extravagant :rotfl: i dont need yet another bag lol. I would be better trying to flog some of my other ones on ebay but then you just dont get that much for them! Gosh dont i digress from what i start off saying

i hope its a lovely sunny day for you all, its lovely out there but awfully windy and cold.

i must get myself organised for early starts again tomorrow pe kits need ironing and lunch boxes making, so i put brisket, carrots, shallots and potatoes in the slow cooker so i can ignore it all day and get on with other things i WILL be ringing the gp tomorrow s/e

somebody_else

raeh wrote: »

i WILL be ringing the gp tomorrow s/e

Gooooooood. I shall be asking questions later tomorrow.

raeh

wow its been quiet this afternoon and evening

a comfortable and peaceful night to everyone xx

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Hello again
Sorry haven't been around, Great news that the op went well Sue hope you're back to yourself ASAP, thanks seadied for keeping us up to date
Sorry for short post, just not up to much else today
Hugs all round everyone

suep

Thats great news about Sharon, and Im so pleased you are staying with us Seaside.

I actually didnt get on here yesterday :eek: did anyone notice It wasn't that I was busy but I was reading this really good book and couldn't put it down I finished it last night and am now having withdrawal symptoms, Im off to Amazon for the next installment in a minute. Has anyone read Twilight by Stephanie Meyer ? or seen the film ? I wasnt sure at first as it's a teenage vampire book but it was so gripping I couldn't put it down, even to eat

Bushbaby its nice to hear from you again, but it was Sharon that had the op, not me Dont worry about it, its that damned Fibrofog again

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suep wrote: »

Bushbaby its nice to hear from you again, but it was Sharon that had the op, not me Dont worry about it, its that damned Fibrofog again

Oh dear there I go again, will send you a hug anyway Sue...am all flustered cos have to go for benefit medical think I'll go back to bed....and get up when my brain's in gear....sometime next Tuesaday maybe :rotfl:

Careful_with_that_Axe

sue, I am so pleased that you have got that scooter - how wonderful to be able to get out with the dog on your own. Must be a new lease of life for you. I've read all the Stephanie Myers books - they're not challenging, but are enjoyable. Looking forward to seeing the film. I'm not sure if I've still got the other ones in the series, but if I find them, I'll quite happily send them to you if you want to read them.

Raeh, you are totally letting the side down. You ALWAYS need a new handbag. You're such a lightweight *grin*.

s/e nice to see you back on the thread again. I'll only think about moving back to SE when the inevitable happens to Dad. And you needn't think we're losing contact now - you don't get rid of me that easily *grin*
I started the ball rolling with gently telling Raeh off, and if we keep up the impetus ..... lol

sharon, sweetheart - looking forward to seeing you back and hope that you're comfortable and will take things as easy as you need to.

Dad's wife goes to Thailand tomorrow, so I am then tasked with looking after him and trying to stop him drinking himself to death or at least keep him safe if he's gonna drink. I am dreading it.
Plus, he even said to me yesterday "you can help me by digging over the raised beds" What bit about me being unwell does he not get??!
Thank gawd Sis is coming down at the weekend to give me a bit of a break. I'll either end up killing myself or him otherwise - bleedin family.

somebody_else

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

Dad's wife goes to Thailand tomorrow, so I am then tasked with looking after him and trying to stop him drinking himself to death or at least keep him safe if he's gonna drink. I am dreading it.
Plus, he even said to me yesterday "you can help me by digging over the raised beds" What bit about me being unwell does he not get??!
Thank gawd Sis is coming down at the weekend to give me a bit of a break. I'll either end up killing myself or him otherwise - bleedin family.

I'll respond to the other posts (and the rest of this one) in a bit, but Auntie Axe please remember the 3 Cs.

You Did not cause it.
You Cannot control it.
You Cannot cure it.

I'm afraid that if your father decides to drink himself to death - that is his choice. Uncomfortable as that may read, it is sadly true.

There is also the thing of 'withdrawing with love' - it's not your responsibility to keep your father safe. It's not your responsibility to protect your father from the consequences of his actions. If you do, then you are enabling your father to continue to drink to excess without experiencing the fall out from it.

{Hugs}

somebody_else

Oh, and I'm with you regarding 'bleedin' families'.

Careful_with_that_Axe

Thank you s/e. I know you understand and I appreciate your support. It's just hard when he's done everything in his power to help and support me over the years and I feel that this is a time of role reversal, when I have to look out for him for our sake - so that he's still around iykwim.

Intellectually, I completely understand and recognise the correct thing to do is as you say, but emotionally, it's not that easy, of course. I'll keep those words in mind though. Thank you.

Looking forward to hearing from Sharon.

Just a mini whinge, I joined the NHS Consultative Commitee about 18 months ago in the hope of being able to positively influence things and so far, the only things that have been brought to the tabe are choosing the different voices and tones for the electronic messages you get when you call them. Sheesh.