MSE Pregnancy Club V

astonsmummy

kurjam wrote: »

well i am 38weeks on thursday this week, i went for ecv last wednesday they tried 3 times to turn my baby but no luck.
went back to hospital yesterday and little one is still breach, they have now booked me in for a c section, i am so scared....
this is my 5th baby and have had home births in the past, i absolutly hate hospitals, and worse still i have got to stay in for 3 days !!!
any one got any advice or can tell me how there c section was, just wandered if i change my mind and tell them im not having this c section what will they do, can they force me to have it ??
have tried lots of things to turn baby but no luck, it is not a big baby and i only measure 35 cm.....
please help, thanks in advance

Hiya hun, I had an emergency C section with DS nearly 5 years ago.
It's not all bad, I recovered pretty quickly, do you have an OH at home, how old are your other children?
You will need extra support, but the best advice I can give is to rest but not too much, if that makes sense.
I beleive I healed quicker because I didnt lay myself up for weeks, and after I came out of hospital I done what I could but listened to my body and didnt over do it.

Please try not to be scared, I knwo thats not really much use but honestly it's really not as bad as it seems.
I've only had one baby by CS and i'm absolutely crapping myself about having a normal birth
EDIT to add, I had DS on the Monday at 12.15pm and was released on the Wednesday at 2.30pm.

Jo_R_2

kurjam wrote: »

well i am 38weeks on thursday this week, i went for ecv last wednesday they tried 3 times to turn my baby but no luck.
went back to hospital yesterday and little one is still breach, they have now booked me in for a c section, i am so scared....
this is my 5th baby and have had home births in the past, i absolutly hate hospitals, and worse still i have got to stay in for 3 days !!!
any one got any advice or can tell me how there c section was, just wandered if i change my mind and tell them im not having this c section what will they do, can they force me to have it ??
have tried lots of things to turn baby but no luck, it is not a big baby and i only measure 35 cm.....
please help, thanks in advance

Hey kurjam

I had an ECV with DD2, she was quiet compliant and turned straightaway. This baby was breech earlier on, there was talk of no home birth as planned, and either giving birth in hospital or by c/s.

No, they can't force you to have a c/s! Always reminds me of when chatting about DD2 being 3 weeks late, the number of people who have said, "oh, but I didn't think they "let" you go that far..." :mad::mad::mad: It always makes me have visions of them not letting me out of the consultant's room and strapping me to a bed! It makes me feel really sad that women think they have to have something done because one doctor has said so, or because they don't realise they have other options as well. When one consultant said that if I was still pregnant when I came to see him next week at clinic then he was going to "induce me", I was like, "erm, not you're not!" Sorry to rant but how dare he, if anything I am going to CHOOSE to be induced!

Ask what other options you have available, are there any midwives (either hospital based or community) or doctors who have experience of delivering breech births, are there any other options for having baby turned again, have you tried any 'alternative' methods? Would you be happy to deliver a breech baby at home if the midwives had experience of breech babies, or if they didn't? Would you compromise through having a natural hospital birth? What kind of breech is baby - I can't remember exactly but there's one that is considered more risky than other breech positions...

The Home Birth website is great for stuff like this: https://www.homebirth.org.uk , if you haven't already, check out the page about, "but you can't have a home birth because..." and the responses.

I know how you feel btw, I hate hospitals too and the thought of birthing another baby in one petrifies me!

tarajayne

Jo, when my DS was born 5 years ago it was OH's first. He didn't want the others in the house and was extremely overprotective of DS, didn't like them cuddling him etc. You must, must, from the start make it very clear that having a baby is a family event and the baby is a part of everyone. I would never of had mine in the room but they were around so they could come in very quickly. I tried to see it from his point of view and was careful how I went about it but the others can be left feeling pushed out, my DD has had a lot of problems since DS came along. I only agreed to have one more baby do that DS didn't end up being the centre of OH's universe.

Sami, morning, hope your feeling better after your rant. Good news, my investigation from work is over, no grounds to proceed. XXX

reallylost

Hi there all

congrats to all who now have their babies with them and welcome to all the newbies

Am still here due tomorrow!!!!!!

Yes last time I posted I thought things were happening but turned out to be a false alarm!!!!!
The midwife was so nasty I was glad it wasnt the real thing cos I wouldnt have wanted to have her there anyway. ( " this is your 4th baby mrs P.. surely you know the difference between BH and real ones by now") will wait til the head is out next time shall I!!

Just a quickie on the MIL topic....when I found out I was expecting DD1 (who is 15 now) my MIL offered to "GET IT SORTED" for me!!!!! she didnt speak to us for the whole pregnancy then emigrated to Greece when DD1 was born, saying she was too young to be a granny ( should have thought about that when she had DH at15!!) and has not contacted us since!!!

will update if anything happens

astonsmummy

tarajayne wrote: »

Jo, when my DS was born 5 years ago it was OH's first. He didn't want the others in the house and was extremely overprotective of DS, didn't like them cuddling him etc. You must, must, from the start make it very clear that having a baby is a family event and the baby is a part of everyone. I would never of had mine in the room but they were around so they could come in very quickly. I tried to see it from his point of view and was careful how I went about it but the others can be left feeling pushed out, my DD has had a lot of problems since DS came along. I only agreed to have one more baby do that DS didn't end up being the centre of OH's universe.

Sami, morning, hope your feeling better after your rant. Good news, my investigation from work is over, no grounds to proceed. XXX

Brilliant!
Bet thats such a releif xx

Jo_R_2

Thanks tara. I'm very aware that I'm very (ahem!) bolshy for want of a better word when it comes to birthing stuff, he's already compromised about a HB (although he completely understands and actually explains to others now the benefits of being more relaxed, how it affects hormoners and so on!:T) so I don't want to ride roughshod over his feelings completely.

I do understand what he's saying... I mean god I'd love to have all that first throes of romance when it's just you and him but he knows me and DDs come as a package and that's just how it is and he's fine with that. I think he's thinking of how it would be in hospital where it would be me and him and then the girls would come after to visit baby, you know Need to think of a delicate way to handle it I think.

tarajayne

Jo_R wrote: »

Thanks tara. I'm very aware that I'm very (ahem!) bolshy for want of a better word when it comes to birthing stuff, he's already compromised about a HB (although he completely understands and actually explains to others now the benefits of being more relaxed, how it affects hormoners and so on!:T) so I don't want to ride roughshod over his feelings completely.

I do understand what he's saying... I mean god I'd love to have all that first throes of romance when it's just you and him but he knows me and DDs come as a package and that's just how it is and he's fine with that. I think he's thinking of how it would be in hospital where it would be me and him and then the girls would come after to visit baby, you know Need to think of a delicate way to handle it I think.

My OH didn't want a HB either, thought I was putting his son at risk. Tell your OH that afterwards he appreciated it. His brothers wife had their son in hospital 5 weeks earlier and when he compared their experience to his he was glad we had done it.;)

tarajayne

sampainter wrote: »

Hi there all

congrats to all who now have their babies with them and welcome to all the newbies

Am still here due tomorrow!!!!!!

Yes last time I posted I thought things were happening but turned out to be a false alarm!!!!!
The midwife was so nasty I was glad it wasnt the real thing cos I wouldnt have wanted to have her there anyway. ( " this is your 4th baby mrs P.. surely you know the difference between BH and real ones by now") will wait til the head is out next time shall I!!

Just a quickie on the MIL topic....when I found out I was expecting DD1 (who is 15 now) my MIL offered to "GET IT SORTED" for me!!!!! she didnt speak to us for the whole pregnancy then emigrated to Greece when DD1 was born, saying she was too young to be a granny ( should have thought about that when she had DH at15!!) and has not contacted us since!!!

will update if anything happens

How did you get so flippen lucky to have a MIL that emigrated.:p

angelfairy

morning all ladies,

a quick question for those of you who have done this all before....

what are you feelings in relation to having the injection after birth to assist with the delivery of the placenta???

Sami_Bee

Tine :eek: Makes me so glad that everyone in our families are all different shapes and sizes!! I'd love to see my tall 1 size bigger MIL try to wear my baggy jeans at half mast!:rotfl:I can't even share clothes with my sister anymore

Tara - :j I'm sooo Glad your "in the clear" Have they actually said you are innocent as it were? I hope so! xx

SamP :eek: wot a hypocrite MIL!!!