MSE Pregnancy Club V

Millie's_Mum

I'm going to see the consultant tomorrow to decide about whether to have a section so potentially by this time tomorrow I might know when charlie will be arriving, yippee cos I am fed up of being uncomfortable now.

I don't remember feeling like this last time, I think because it was my first and I was a bit scared of what I was getting myself into, but this time I'm just absolutely fed up of being pregnant and feeling rubbish and I just want to get on with it.

Plus OH and I just had a conversation about sorting the spare room out so that one of us can go in there cos at the moment neither of us are getting any sleep.

cybermum

elle_gee wrote: »

Free lawn-mowing too.. everyone wins!

:rotfl: never thought about that one!
He'll be off to hunt one down for us at this rate :rotfl:

Drinking Frijjii milkshake now as well,I'm obsessed

cybermum

feelinggood wrote: »

Hospital bag is even more scary :eek: I'm still hoping I'll just wake up one morning and the baby will be next to me!

I realised earlier, that 10 weeks means there is only 10 weekends. That isn't many, they go by so quick.

I have 10 weeks to go too and now you said 10 weekends its scared the hell out of me LOL

I keep thinking I have plenty of time left

greent

tarajayne wrote: »

Right, house opinions. I am a money worrier, comes from spending years without any. We live in a lovely detatched house and once we put a stud wall across the study area it will have 5 bedrooms. The living area is not so large so we thought about extending the kitchen/diner to include a family room so it would be huge leaving the living room seperate. We would only loose the patio which could be moved outside the living room and french doors put in.

It's the money that worries me, Our house was worth £445k, now I reckon £385. Our mortgage has approx £108k. We could remortgage now for £15k more and it would cost the same each month and we would just do the extension for that. Or we could borrow £20k and have the velux windows, bi-fold doors, oak floor etc and it would be an extra 20 quid a month. OH obsessed with not paying any more a month but is it something anyone else would be worried about. Should we just say !!!!!! and do it as it would add more than that to the value, I'm fed up with thinking about it.

Personally (joining in late, as always!) I'd go for it. We've just added 30k to our (as was) 95k mortgage (was 130k when we moved here in Oct 2005) When we moved in the kitchen was tiny and tatty - we were just going to tart it up, but ended up spending more than 20k on a bit of building work and custom built real maple units with shiny black granite worktop - it's yum, will last and is neutral enough that if we moved I can't see people hating it enough not to buy the house. (We financed that ourselves though)

Our current work is a loft conversion - we live in a (large ) 4 bed, 4 reception room house and are having the loft made into a huge bedroom and bathroom for us. DD (11) will then move into ours (with ensuite - a 'nice to' at 11 with brothers), DS1 will move into DDs, DS2 wants to move into DS1s and babe will have DS2s (eventually, of course - will be in with us for a while - DS2 was until 7 months and I expect this one to be a bit longer, as I'M NOT PLANNING ON RUNNING UP (OOPs - sorry for caps) and down stairs in the night for feeds :rotfl: This means LOTS of redecorating and new carpets/ flooring BUT I'd rather spend and get it 'right' than live with a 'it'll do' job. we only have DHs income (about the same as yours tarajayne) and our mtge payments have gone up £250 from this deal :eek: (now just under 1100 per month :eek: :eek: )
If you can get the extra 5k and it only cost £20, then what the hell! £20 is less than a takeaway (unless its the chippy:D ) and then you get what you want - cos otherwise you'll be living with an 'it'll do' job......

Jmho, of course :rotfl: :rotfl: But if it was me, I'd go for it


greent
x

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

Hospital bag is even more scary :eek: I'm still hoping I'll just wake up one morning and the baby will be next to me!

I realised earlier, that 10 weeks means there is only 10 weekends. That isn't many, they go by so quick.

I know :eek: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Feelie, you are not going to just wake up one day with a baby, no matter how much you try and convince yourself :rotfl:

Right, cant really find any lists but here is a start:

Cot/Cot bed + matress

Or Moses basket or Crib (I wouldnt recommend getting both of these)

Cot/moses basket bedding: At least 4 sheets for each, I swear by fitted sheets for everything, but you can get flat ones for over the baby.

Blankets: I'm not sure how many but I'd say 4 is a good guess, you dont need to use 4, but they are handy to have.

Baby monitor: not essential, but useful even if baby sleeps in your room, i mean it's not like you will be in the room all the time when the baby is sleeping.

Changing Mat: Again not a nessessity, but they are handy.

Chest of drawers: and other nursery furniture I guess, unless you already have other bedroom furniture.

Bath box: to keep toiletries in, again not essential but handy.

Vest: at least 4, I'd say 6 in each size.

Baby grows: the same as above.

Hats, scratch mits, booties, bibs etc.

Bottles is not BF: 6

Steriliser

Breast pump if BF

Bouncy chair

Oh nearly forgot, buggy and carseat

Have probably missed out loads, so if anyone else has got any lists feel free to post!

feelinggood_2

That looks like a more realistic list! What size do I get things in? I mean, is 0-3 months alright, or do I need that plus newborn? And one of them egg things, I like them!

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

That looks like a more realistic list! What size do I get things in? I mean, is 0-3 months alright, or do I need that plus newborn? And one of them egg things, I like them!

It's always difficult with sizes.
I have bought 6 vests in newborn from Tesco for about £3, and then 6 sleepsuits for about £5 or £7.
I'm going to take all newborn stuff and hope that I dont give birth to giant!
Yeah get an egg lol I might get one too, they are cool

greent

tarajayne wrote: »

Yes, we do have most things, gotta get a cotbed though as DS broke the side of his. I think as I've had a few I learnt what you really needed and what you bought because you thought you were supposed to. Have to say though ladies, and please don't take this the wrong way, but I was truly shocked to hear of the cost of some of your pushchairs. Read some of the posts twice 'cos I thought I'd read it wrong. Don't be mad at me!:o

LOL!! I have to confess I thought the same We bought a new travel system for DS2 (3 last month - other one was quite girly and was then 8 years old - sold it to a friend) and it cost about £140 - 150 inc the car seat and gubbins - and will be used for this babe too.

I also (personally - pplease don't shout at me!!) don't see the need for a changing unit or one of those vanity box things for bits and pieces. I used to change DD on a mat on the floor or dining table (first few weeks for that as I'd had a c section) and DS1 was the floor or my lap. DS2 was almost always my lap - and usually without even a mat (apart from when he was newborn and they poo and pee unexpectedly and with force - and that yellow poo stains!!) As to the vanity box thing - I just don't *get* it. I have a changing kit downstairs (wipes, nappies, bags) in a cupboard in the lounge and one upstairs in babe's room. I don't use bubble bath on teeny babes (they don't need it - they don't do anything to get dirty!) and use handmade ('natural', organic, unfragranced) bar soap on a flannel for major grubby bits (eg when weaning) which is kept in the bathroom, along with baby bath (lives inside big bath) Cradle cap I use olive oil and leave it to soak in - and rarely had to wash it out - it gets absorbed (and DS2 had LOADS of hair!) DS2 has had nappy rash maybe twice? and only since weaned (not when exclusively bf) - and I put a wee bit of unrefined shea butter (pure, not the stuff from somewhere like body shop) on which seemed to sort it (maybe I was just lucky) I still have 1 of the 2 sudocrem weeny tubs from bounty bags I had with DS2 - I think the other one was given to my cousin.

And it's not *just* cos I've done this a few times - I never bought into the idea of changing units/ vanity boxes and the like with my first

I'm obviously just plain weird!!:p

greent x
slinking off now..................

Sami_Bee

Feelie if you like the egg thing then get one
I saw some lovely bright clothes in mothercare today a bit expensive but MUCH cheaper than those designer ones u were looking at!
only things of the top of my head missing from AMs list is
Nappies, (and wipes, cream, nappy sacks or fancy nappy bin)
Formula if bottle feeding
dummies if using
baby bath or u can wash them in the sink - very cute

Sami_Bee

Geent I don't get the box thing either :rotfl:
Chris has bath oil for eczema which lives on the edge of the bath with my shampoo etc.
I can't change nappies on my knee I tried my best but I just can't do it

Elle and anyone else interested you might find the following going private story interesting

nadnad wrote: »

Lu - it cost £1500, and Js is right in Northern Ireland the way it happens is you choose your consultant (who also works in NHS), and go to him or her for all your appointments - i saw mine A LOT! The appointments are usually at the doctors house - mine had an annex built for this purpose. At each appointment she did the usual - blood pressure, had a poke about on belly, and scanned me, answered any questions etc. She also took the bloods that were required.

However you still have your baby in an NHS hospital (although must say with the elective section being private meant i got to have an input as to which day and i was also 1st to have a section that morning), you can also choose to have a private room but I didnt really want to, the ward was quite spacious anyway and I wanted other mums to chat to!

You also have your 22 week scan at an NHS hospital.

And if you wish you can still go to see NHS midwives throughout your pregnancy, I didn't do this until about 30 weeks when i needed my blood pressure monitored a lot.

TBH i thought £1500 was very reasonable, I lost count of how many times I saw my doctor, both due to the blood pressure and hyperemesis (i was sick until 25 weeks!), so imagine the next time she'll bump the price up on me to compensate! I honestly feel it was money well spent especially as i had a "difficult" pregnancy, I felt looked after and secure, I could ring her at any time, she talked through everything and included me in the decision process. OH was at every appointment with me which was lovely too.

Makes me wish I was in NI