OS Daily Tues 20th Jan 09

redruby

Hugs to Pippa and family, hope all goes well xx

Beth hugs to you and your dear brothers too xx

Vicky A, hope all went well with your mum xx

CRANKY40

Hugs to everyone missing their mum for whatever reason. The advertising emails from various companies around Mothering Sunday are the ones that really wind me up - don't they know that not everyone has a mother? I don't suppose they care. I have to say that if my mum was still alive she would probably be getting right on my nerves on a regular basis just as she always did. We were very different. I am more like my dad.

I am decluttering my house as per flylady instructions. I was aiming for one bag for the charity shop per week, but have 3 already so far in less than a week.

Pippa I hope your MIL is ok, and VickyA, I'm thinking of your mum too.
Thriftlady how old are your children? Could they do their granny's computer lessons instead? Lovely chance for a bit of extra bonding. You may have to offer payment of some form though :rotfl:
Aussie ((hugs)) I wish I'd had that kind of relationship with my mother. Sadly, it's my nan that I miss the most.

I don't like my MIL for her many and varied emotional blackmail attempts, but I still take ds round to see her every week. I believe that it's an important relationship for ds. I do however leave him there for 2 hours and go home until pickup time. This is not having a go at anyone, it's just saying I know where people who don't like their parents or inlaws are coming from.

No other OS to report as I've been to stinky work, and fed both me and the child on fishfingers and chips tonight.

Take care all of you

thriftlady_2

CRANKY40 wrote: »

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Thriftlady how old are your children? Could they do their granny's computer lessons instead? Lovely chance for a bit of extra bonding. You may have to offer payment of some form though :rotfl:

Oh, yes they'll be well up for that and they won't want paying. My sons are nearly 12 and 13 and they have way more patience with my mum than I have and they know more about computers.

Can I just make it clear again that I don't dislike my mum at all, she just gets on my nerves at the moment, bless her:)

Hardup_Hester

Evening all
When my ex & I decided to get married, my MIL told me I had to wear lilac as it was the only appropriate colour for soiled goods, our relationship went downhill from there, lol.
Wannabe Sybil, you go girl, lol.
Hope you feel better soon PP.
At work I'm still waiting to get some 'help' from BOW, I'm not holding my breath, she really is as nutty as a squirrels [EMAIL="f@rt"]f@rt[/EMAIL].
Have a good evening everybody.
Hugs Hester

*moggins*

Sorry to offload here but I can't go to any of my friends or family as they will all just say "I told you so".

I'm sat here waiting for OH to come home, I rang him at 5 to ask if he was on his way home, he said he was at the bus stop. He then sent me a message at 6.30 to ask me to come and pick him up, I rang him to find out where he was and why he wasn't on the bus, he's been back in the pub where he works and is completely drunk.

I can't do this any more, he lies to me all the time about stupid things, he takes all my money for drink and cigarettes, he's been unemployed for 5 months and he's only had this job for a week and it sounds like he's getting fed up with it already. We did split up after christmas but missed each other so much we got back together and he promised things would change.

2 weeks later nothing has changed and I am just hurt, stressed out and fed up, he promised that he would stop drinking when he got a job, however that seems like it was just another lie to keep me happy. I have to face the fact that he is an alcoholic and nothing is going to change him, he will always love himself and booze more than anything on earth.

I know what I have to do, it's just that when he is sober (rarely) he can be such a special person and I do love him. I just have to face the fact that I can't stop his downward spiral and I can't be around to watch it happen and have him drag me and the children down with him.

Sorry I've offloaded but my best friend has been telling me all along what he would do and she has been right on everything, I can't face crying on her shoulder again.

mudgekin

moggins I am so sorry to hear of your problems with your OH. Ofc you can offload here and no apologies needed.

I think the most telling part of what you said was that you know what needs to be done. That alone takes a lot of strength and insight to be able to get to that realisation. You also know that your friends and family will probably heave a sigh of relief and all gather round and support you so much. Huge ((hugs)) to you from your virtual family

Pippa and Beth, warm hugs to you both, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

NN friends and NN to my adopted Sybil and LB:p

ps I will tell you all about the delish pud that DH served up to me tomorrow ~waddles off rubbing my full tummy~

CRANKY40

thriftlady wrote: »

Oh, yes they'll be well up for that and they won't want paying. My sons are nearly 12 and 13 and they have way more patience with my mum than I have and they know more about computers.

Can I just make it clear again that I don't dislike my mum at all, she just gets on my nerves at the moment, bless her:)

I didn't for a minute think that you disliked your mum. My mum was a "fusser" and got on my nerves too. I worry about things, but in my head IYKWIM. My mum would run through every possible scenario of something out loud, and then run through it again for good measure. It used to drive me nuts. I still would have liked her to meet my baby though.

Moggins if I were your best friend I'd want you to phone me. My dad is an alcoholic and is lovely from about 6am to 10am. After that he's a pain in the bum, but luckily I don't have to live with him. My dad doesn't think he has a problem

Hester I can't comment on your MIL I'd get banned. I love the squirrel thing, I shall be using that one.

dreamyd

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You are facing a very difficult situation right now, even if you know what you have to do. I hope that you have got a good support network around you, so that you can start protecting yourself and your kids from your OH's excesses. There is an organisation called Al-Anon (think that's right) that's there to help the families of alcoholics. It might be worth contacting them to see if there's a group (or at least an advice line) near you.
Thinking of you. be strong

juliejim

Hugs moggins - I've pm'd you.

purpleivy

Moggins if you were my friend I would hope that you would ring. You are going to need all the support you can get. Just tell her she was right and if she comes on with I told you so, just agree with her she was right.

Thinking of you.