Should I buy my 4-year-old son pink shoes?

peace-babies

If you haven't ordered them already get him the shoes, its not giving into the child. I used to have a choice in my clothes and shoes when I was younger (within reason) and I didn't turn into a spoilt brat and I like to think I'm a nice person now. (what a silly statemen,t buying the child something they will appreciate isn't going to make them spoilt brats or set a precident now he's four for goodness sake)
My little brother (5)loves pink and has been known to sport my sisters fairy outfit just because he thinks it is lovely and like to pretend he can grant wishes for people. He can't see why my little sister can wear fairy dresses and his old dungarees too but he can't and to be honest neither can we hence he can play with her dolls and she can play with his trucks and scalextric with him (ok the scalextric is mine and OH's). My friends son whos 3 has a lovely pair of skater trainer type things that have pink in them and his friends (mostly boys) think their really cool and want a pair the only eyebrow that was raised was his grannies but even she had to admit he looked cool in them.

Sami_Bee

LittleTinker wrote: »

He is 4 for goodness sake!! He doesnt get a choice in colour of shoes!

Frightened of giving into his need??? Are you serious about that?

OP...YOU are the parent...he needs new shoes. You go get him functional, well fitted, multi purpose shoes. And that is it!

Give into Pink Shoes now and you will never be in control......But that is the general way these days anyway isnt it. "Awww...but he will be so upset not to have his ickle wickle pink shoes".

Too many mums and dads give into sentiment these days. No wonder we have a nation of Brats who want everything now!!

Being a parent is not about being a dictator, its about teaching your child how to make a decision and to do that you need to offer options. its not like the OP offered to buy him anything and everything he asks for.
I always offer my son an option, if I see something I like for him I ask him if he likes it and if he says no then I don't buy it, I also ask him what he would like for breakfast or lunch - sometimes he asks for chocolate or biscuits so on those occasions I tell him that that isn't something you have for bfast/lunch but if he eats what I pick for him then he can have one for dessert. I like to think that this is good parenting on my part but I suppose we've got to wait at least 10 years before I find out

adouglasmhor

sarahs999 wrote: »

Do you have children?

Yes but they are busy being seen and not heard :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

pinkcandyflossprincess

i have two sons and wouldnt personally buy them pink shoes as it would look a bit odd but there again they havent asked
dressing up box seems the right way to go as are you able to handle it if he does get picked on

jackieb

My 16yr old got his hair dyed at college yesterday. He wouldn't tell me what he was getting done beforehand - only that he wanted something unique. Yesterday afternoon I looked out the window to see a purple (and blue and deep pink!) head come up the drive. :eek:

And I had to go to Tesco with him today. :rotfl:

LittleTinker

sarahs999 wrote: »

Do you have children?

Yes I do....why?

adouglasmhor

jackieb wrote: »

My 16yr old got his hair dyed at college yesterday. He wouldn't tell me what he was getting done beforehand - only that he wanted something unique. Yesterday afternoon I looked out the window to see a purple (and blue and deep pink!) head come up the drive. :eek:

And I had to go to Tesco with him today. :rotfl:

Many years ago my youngest brother and his mate who was staying over were Scooter boys and came in to say goodnight to my mum. With their crash helmets still on. She withed for 15 minutes and went through to see my Brother with a blue Mohawk aand his mate with a green one. Much hilarity ensued.

pinkcandyflossprincess

in addition to my post above id just like to say that at xmas my 3 year old demanded to go to pre school in a santa suit..nothing wrong you would think
well old people were tutting and frowning as if there was something terribly wrong in it , its not just kids, its more likely the adults im afraid that cant seem to shut their mouths!!!:mad:

jackieb

pinkcandyflossprincess wrote: »

in addition to my post above id just like to say that at xmas my 3 year old demanded to go to pre school in a santa suit..nothing wrong you would think
well old people were tutting and frowning as if there was something terribly wrong in it , its not just kids, its more likely the adults im afraid that cant seem to shut their mouths!!!:mad:

If I saw a wee one in a Santa suit, i'd think it was incredibly cute.
I can't imagine anyone frowning on a child dressing up (not saying you're lying. Just can't imagine the kind of people that would do that kind of thing to a 3 year old).

jellyhead

My son's preschool puts santa suits in the dressing up box, and they make a pretend sleigh with chairs