Should I buy my 4-year-old son pink shoes?

Savvy_Sue

I am jealous, because I am sorry to report that I've been unable to find any suitable trainers (ie black with a flash of pink) in an adult size 8 which are comfortable. I seem to have very awkward shaped feet ... Never mind, I've only tried once so far, will go look again later in the week.

Tootie_Fruity

An interesting thread. I'm of an age where people would think pink for a boy was strange too. It's good to see that those people who still think it is, and probably drag their knuckles on the ground behind them when they walk, are in the minority on this thread.

Buy the shoes. You can't live your life worrying about the opinions of fools.

creased-leach

Not read the whole thread, but I wanted to leave a quick comment.

I'd thought that all my male friends would be content to wear pink. However, I found out that one of the guys I'm close to finds the colour absolutely abhorrent, and refuses to wear it.

I would never have known- if his boyfriend hadn't told me.

Honestly! :rolleyes:

Savvy_Sue

To be fair, many of my female friends wouldn't be seen dead in 'my' pink either.

Mutter_2

My point would not be whether pink shoes or not, but that a Four year old should have a choice.
Why would anyone allow a four year old to choose?

To be perfectly honest, I'm far more interested as to who is paying for the shoes.
You Op,? ........ Or me?

fernliebee

Of course 4 year olds should have some choice. How will they grow up to learn how to make more important decisions if they don't have small choices from an early age. I'm not saying they should demand something or have an ultimate choice but using shoes as the example, he has asked for pink shoes. The OP then decides what make, how much to spend or where to buy them. Alternatively in a shoe shop you might choose two suitable pairs and then let them choose which they prefer.

Your last comment is verging on the ridiculous IMO! Have to bring every thread onto the benefits debate! Booooooring! Anyway like you I have completely veered off the subject!

Mutter_2

The child is age 4.
You want to give him choices?
As the child is already dictating as to what he should wear on his feet... and won. Let's see.

Next choice, school or not?
Uniform or not?

Later, hanging around the shops or not?
At the girlfriend's or not?
Smoking or not?
Lager or not?
There are lots of stages that many others could fill in for me. Just trying to say, you are the parents.
YOU say what goes.If you don't like the shoes, don't buy them.
As a rule of thumb by the way, "We pay, We say." If they want fashion, earn it, but later.

Mutter_2

fernliebee wrote: »

Of course 4 year olds should have some choice. How will they grow up to learn how to make more important decisions if they don't have small choices from an early age. I'm not saying they should demand something or have an ultimate choice but using shoes as the example, he has asked for pink shoes. The OP then decides what make, how much to spend or where to buy them. Alternatively in a shoe shop you might choose two suitable pairs and then let them choose which they prefer.

Your last comment is verging on the ridiculous IMO! Have to bring every thread onto the benefits debate! Booooooring! Anyway like you I have completely veered off the subject!

Why shouldn't I be concerned as to who is ultimately paying for a faddy pair of trainers. If it's me and many like me, I should know and so should all other tax payers.
Booooooooooooooooring to you love maybe. Paying the top rate tax ain't boring to me.
Paying benefits via clothing/food coupons is the way forward.

fernliebee

Mutter wrote: »

Why shouldn't I be concerned as to who is ultimately paying for a faddy pair of trainers. If it's me and many like me, I should know and so should all other tax payers.
Booooooooooooooooring to you love maybe. Paying the top rate tax ain't boring to me.
Paying benefits via clothing/food coupons is the way forward.

I actually agree with you about the vouchers, however nobody has suggested these trainers were faddy, and surely clothing vouchers could be spent on these? He need's new shoes, but just want's them in pink, if he then didn't want to wear them IMO it would be tough, they would have to wear them until they outgrew them (a few weeks at 4! )

And yes I do find it a bit boring that every thread gets turned into a benefit debate. I agree with you but really, do you agree with everything the government spend our taxes on? I would prefer my (our) taxes paid for pink trainers than arms or funding the war on terror but each to their own, that's not what this thread is about.

Anyway I'll leave it at that because I'm being booooring myself

skintchick

Why not buy them? I think all little boys go through this stage and it's perfectly natural. A friend of mine's young son insisted on wearing dresses everywhere for a few months and she just let him get on with it.

He's a normal hetero teenager now.