Leaving Wife

markelock

TigersEye wrote: »

What you really mean is that they want their cake and eat it

with coffee. and two slices of cake. filthy filthy cake.

poor bloke. Pssst summed it up well I think.

My parents divorced when I was about 12, it probably affected me more than I think, but it was the right thing to do, and I benefitted from it, both moved on and had new lives.

ianian99

TigersEye wrote: »

What you really mean is that they want their cake and eat it

whats the point in having a cake if you cant eat it?

ianian99

TigersEye wrote: »

Thats what my father said to my mum and now he's on his new bit of stuff, so sorry if I don't believe you, but I have heard this story more than once

are you bitter about it?

callow

Without going into the morals of it, as my husband up and left me, the best thing would be if your wife could up her hours and work 16 hours a week. That way she will have her wage topped up with Working Tax Credit and you can come to your own arrangement with maintenence.

Again if your wife is willing and is able she may decide to downsize. We sold the family house and my husband gave me all the equity and I was able to buy my own smaller house outright.

TigersEye

ianian99 wrote: »

are you bitter about it?

Well how would you feel if someone you loved had been hurt constantly by someone she loved so much and she didn't do anything to deserve it, in fact she tried everything to save the marraige and was constantly been slapped back down again and again:mad:

ben500

Most women wouldn't hang around for 21yrs it's too easy to walk away and get sorted and far too many take full advantage of the fact, often with the kids in tow merely to ensure their future finances. It's a screwed up world but the screwing up is done by both sexes in case you lot hadn't noticed.

Mrnidgap

callow wrote: »

Without going into the morals of it, as my husband up and left me, the best thing would be if your wife could up her hours and work 16 hours a week. That way she will have her wage topped up with Working Tax Credit and you can come to your own arrangement with maintenence.

Again if your wife is willing and is able she may decide to downsize. We sold the family house and my husband gave me all the equity and I was able to buy my own smaller house outright.

Thanks nice to get some advice instead of people thinking they know me. It has crossed my mind to give her the house and I will make that offer but that would need to be done soon after we split. But she will not be able to afford the mortgage.

ianian99

TigersEye wrote: »

Well how would you feel if someone you loved had been hurt constantly by someone she loved so much and she didn't do anything to deserve it, in fact she tried everything to save the marraige and was constantly been slapped back down again and again:mad:

so i wasnt wrong then about bitter burds coming on was I?

Pssst

TigersEye wrote: »

What you really mean is that they want their cake and eat it

Well i can only speak for myself and ive had more than my fair share of cake and wouldnt be too bothered if i never had another morsel. I certainly wouldnt live under the rule of a tyrannical controlling woman just for the sake of some "cake".
Why is it that women assume that men always need "cake" and are always chasing it? Dont women need or chase it too?

TigersEye

ianian99 wrote: »

so i wasnt wrong then about bitter burds coming on was I?

How about speaking from experience, and wishing I'd done things different, I just hope that the wife and child can come out of this situation with their self esteem intact:)