Leaving Wife

Triggles

Its only the start of it. There will be loads of bitter burds coming on giving him stick. Just a matter of time, it will be the usuall suspects too and I bet we get a fair bit of stick too!!
Cany wait:eek:

Good grief. "Loads of bitter burds." And that's not as sexist as you're accusing us of being?:rotfl:

Seriously, if you look back a bit, there was a post by a female that stated she wanted to leave her husband - he'd done nothing wrong, but she was attracted to a coworker and thought he was a better prospect for her. She literally got flamed by tons of people - both men and women posters. So it's not all as you claim.

Pssst

hm71 wrote: »

sounds like my bloody hubby- if you had said 3 kids then I would have def thought it was him!!! my friends & I have decided that a man hits 40 and all hell lets lose- 4 of my friends whose hubbys range from 40-47 my hubby 44 are all having the same kinda problems.

Perhaps thats when they wake up and smell the coffee..?

TigersEye

Triggles wrote: »

Good grief. "Loads of bitter burds." And that's not as sexist as you're accusing us of being?:rotfl:

Seriously, if you look back a bit, there was a post by a female that stated she wanted to leave her husband - he'd done nothing wrong, but she was attracted to a coworker and thought he was a better prospect for her. She literally got flamed by tons of people - both men and women posters. So it's not all as you claim.

Thank you

TigersEye

Pssst wrote: »

Perhaps thats when they wake up and smell the coffee..?

What you really mean is that they want their cake and eat it

Mrnidgap

TigersEye wrote: »

My father did this to my mum, and promised her he would support her financially, she believed him because she loved him so much, he did give her money for a bit then bit by bit took away everything and now she has no money and living on pension credits. There is a lot more to her story than these few lines, but to say the fact that my father loves to stick the knife in and twist it, is no joke:(

I hope this lady gets a good lawyer and make sure she gets everything down in black and white, why should she suffer, just because her husband wants a new life, or rather the start of his midlife crisis, if he would only be honest.

Why would I want to hurt the mother of my children? She has been part of my life for a long time and I only have positive feelings for her. Why am I not being honest? You do not know me. I work 12 hours a day Monday to Friday and it's got to the stage where i prefer to be at work than home. If I stay as I am I will fade away, am I not entitled to be happy? or am I the least important person in my life?

ianian99

Pssst wrote: »

It seems to me that when a female pitches up on this site and says shes leaving her husband becuase of this that or the other the Amen corner cry hallelujah,another sister has been saved and there are cries of support and continual enquiries about how are things going etc etc..blah blah blah.

But just let one man come on here and say the same and he is condemned for abandoning his wife and responsibilities and then insulted by the suggestion that he is suffering some kind of mid life crisis.
Also the suggestion that he isnt telling all and that there must be some gymslip lolita in the background.

A man is just as entitled to independent thought word ,deed and happiness as any woman on this planet.

Sometimes a man feels that he has spent so long caring for others that he has forgotten to care for himself and live his life.
Life is too short.
I say to that man, do what you feel you have to do but dont forget your responsibilities.

here here .

looktothefuture

My stepfather no longer loved my mother after 17 years and they split up! He may not have been my birth father but he made sure not only my mother but my sister and I were looked after (even though we were by this time we were 18 and 23 but still living at home!). They tried councilling, tried living together but having seperate lives and tried just staying together for the sake of their 17 year relationship. It never worked...

They seperated, went their own ways and lived their own lives and you know what... they are still friends to this day. Talk to your wife, but no doubt you already have, and do it as openly and calmly as you can.

All I can say now is, good luck to whatever you and your wife decide to do!

OP, do what is the best for you and your wife (and children) to find the best fit for YOUR LIVES!

hm71_2

Pssst wrote: »

Perhaps thats when they wake up and smell the coffee..?

been married long have ya??:rotfl:

ianian99

Triggles wrote: »

Good grief. "Loads of bitter burds." And that's not as sexist as you're accusing us of being?:rotfl:

Seriously, if you look back a bit, there was a post by a female that stated she wanted to leave her husband - he'd done nothing wrong, but she was attracted to a coworker and thought he was a better prospect for her. She literally got flamed by tons of people - both men and women posters. So it's not all as you claim.

excactly ONE post where the woman got slated.
I bet I could find 100 where women have posted and the men were called ba$tards

TigersEye

Mrnidgap wrote: »

Why would I want to hurt the mother of my children? She has been part of my life for a long time and I only have positive feelings for her. Why am I not being honest? You do not know me. I work 12 hours a day Monday to Friday and it's got to the stage where i prefer to be at work than home. If I stay as I am I will fade away, am I not entitled to be happy? or am I the least important person in my life?

Thats what my father said to my mum and now he's on his new bit of stuff, so sorry if I don't believe you, but I have heard this story more than once