The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

barshamhillbilly

Lurkio wrote: »

wagon collapsed underneath me quite spectacularly......

Sorry to hear that Lurky - hop back on its quite nice up here really

fluffyb

7 AFD's for me please HS :j

Hope everyone else is managing ok tonight xx

fedupandskint

Hello everyone, a bit fedup literally tonight with stupid stupid Virgin Media messing me about, can't wait to give them the heave ho but need to consider a phone line now with someone else and get cheaper broadband with O2.

Anyhow on day 17 AF now! Will hit my target on Thurs in time for my holiday!

I am going for 26 days in May up from 19 this month! It took me 4 months to get to this point and for it to get easier for me. First 2 months very hard as it hit home how much m drinking had increased over the last year. March and April clicked into place and it got easier for me. It took a couple of months for my sleep pattern to settle even tho' I wasn't drinking daily. Now sleep well most nights and the wine bells don't peel as loud as they did before.

Am going to fall out bigstyle with Virgin tomorrow and they can get stuffed.

System

chnelomi wrote: »

hi every one was just wondering if anyone could help me with a little (or big)advice.
I think my OH has a drink problem. he has always been a drinker but because he worked it was never a problem.he was always to busy to drink except at weekends,pretty normal really. unfortunately he lost his job and since then hasn't had luck with another and he is really drinking heavily.

It has gotten so bad that he stays up himself till 3/4 in the morning drinking then wants to sleep all day. i have tried stopping him getting near any of our money but he just borrows it and i have to pay it back. (told people not to but they still do). his family don't believe he has a problem as he can go a night without drink(whoopee:mad:)

Last night he drank so much on his own he was sick when he came to bed all over the duvet,he was so out of it he couldn't stand to go to the toilet it is now in the bin. any idea what i could do cant live with him when he is like this.

lol the duvet is in the bin not the toilet.......i knew what i meant.

The poor guy is depressed, and the only way he knows how to cope is by hitting the bottle, which will help him feel better within himself for a few hours, but sadly Alcohol is a depressant, so once he sobers up the cold harsh reality will hit him again only this time worse than before, and the longer he keeps doing this the worse it will get. He is on self destruct mode by the sounds of it.

You need to make him go to a Doctor ASAP as I don't think any of us here are qualified to help.

Good luck

stroppy

Hello all,
Well am feeling very fed up tonight
Am always so determined to be AF during the daytime but once the evening arrives it all just go's to pot. I find sundays quite easy just because thats always been my rule.....I then think well monday will be easy it was no problem today why should it be tomorrow....then monday comes and I feel great from not having had a drink Sunday so I have a drink?
Last night I drank wine from a box rather than a bottle, always limit myself to 2 glasses out the bottle on a week night and because i can see how much i've had I never get hangovers and know I can get up fine the next day. I have broken my normal wine glass so had to use a different one on measuring it tonight I realised I had probably drank a bottle last night plus OH had a nightcap of whisky and couldnt finish it so offered it me....(I have a no whisky rule now except on a friday as I know it makes me feel rough)but I necked that as well,Yuk I have felt groggy all day and knew I could have gone without a glass of wine tonight but instead I had one to make me feel better?!Which it has but am fed up I could have notched up another AF day quite easily!
Dont know why I've bothered setting myself targets the past 2 months I clearly can't do it and am now finding myself obsessing how c**p I am at giving things up and maybe I should just not bother
I have cut down a bit but still love having my glass or 2 of an evening, I am just panicking myself more that now I've tried and failed...maybe I have a problem....I always saw myself as 'the good time girl' who was invincible and stuck my fingers up to everyone who was 'normal'(Ive always been a bit rebellious!)but now I wish I could take or leave things like everyone else I seem to know!
Sorry for the rant
Stroppy xx

Bismarck

can I stick my tuppence in, chnelomi?

I'd vouch for a trip for your OH to AA first (or get him to come on here if it's easier?) say you are really worried and don't know what to do.

The reason I say don't go straight to the docs is that once you're gone into the system, you sometimes have to put down these things on a medical form when applying for jobs etc so it could hamper the future...this is my big issue with the system at the moment - I don't see why asking for the help you need should jeopardise your future prospects but I think it does unless you can keep it off the records...

it's a dumb system and self-defeating at times.

if he can get the help he needs anonymously then I'd recommend it, obviously - if the ways I mention aren't going to work or won't work quickly enough then go to the docs by all means...your call anyway but I've been in his place to a fgood degree and it's horrible.

if you can get him to come online at all or show him this thread, just to give him and you hope, please do so.

take care.

fluffyb

Hey stroppy don't beat yourself up It is only the last 2 months I have managed to have any AFD's at all myself. I can sooooooo relate to what you say. I would wake up every morning and say to myself 'today I'm not drinking' but by 6pm I was out with the bottle and telling myself I'd not drink the next day instead It is so hard, huh??

Something just seemed to click with me at the beginning of March and I was determined to cut down and just drink moderately at the weekends instead of every night.I m sure the kudzu are making it possible for me this time though. I tried last year to cut down and failed miserably.

Dont be down on yourself. Tomorrow is another day xx

Bismarck

stroppy, I could well be wrong here but the odd glass or so isn't really an issue until it bothers you.

Drinking it out of the box was always tricky for me because it seemed endless then it suddenly seemed light for no apparent reason! Then denail sets in.

A couple of glasses a night doesn't seem that bad to me. I was always mystified when drinkign a bottle of wine to yourself was considered scandalous whereas 4 cans of stella is viewed more favorably...

I was just never good at just having a couple of glasses.....and thought wine came in boxes or 3 bottles for £10 for a very good reason...

dotstar24

fedupandskint wrote: »

Hello everyone, a bit fedup literally tonight with stupid stupid Virgin Media messing me about, can't wait to give them the heave ho but need to consider a phone line now with someone else and get cheaper broadband with O2.

Anyhow on day 17 AF now! Will hit my target on Thurs in time for my holiday!

I am going for 26 days in May up from 19 this month! It took me 4 months to get to this point and for it to get easier for me. First 2 months very hard as it hit home how much m drinking had increased over the last year. March and April clicked into place and it got easier for me. It took a couple of months for my sleep pattern to settle even tho' I wasn't drinking daily. Now sleep well most nights and the wine bells don't peel as loud as they did before.

Am going to fall out bigstyle with Virgin tomorrow and they can get stuffed.

virgin media are rubbish!! i'm with O2 now and they're so much better

stroppy

Thanks guys,
My couple of glasses are big glasses so 2/3 of a bottle every night plus a full bottle on a friday and saturday plus a good couple of whiskys on a fri and Saturday ....the units add up to way more than I should be drinking in a week for a girlie I know it could be worse and I could be drinking as much as I did from the age of 14 till when I had my babies:eek:My friends would have half a lager ...I would have tennents super or whisky
Would like to know what made me that person at such a tender age and why?!
Boxes are bad....I will tell hubby not to buy me any more!
I seem to have an ingrained thought that fri and sat are drinking days....sunday no way....monday...ah well its been a hard day...tuesday...well its my day off wednesday,Why not? wednesday....well now it is my day off....Thursday,Its nearly the weekend!
Have bought kudzo but not took it yet
Stroppy xx