The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

40somethingmum

fedupandskint wrote: »

Happyshopper!!!!! I have recounted on my posts and I have completely miscounted my days!

I'm on 15 AFD including today!!!! :jGet in!!! :jGlad I recounted!! I got mixed up over the BH and when the forum was offline.

Only 4 more days to go to reach the target! Which means I should reach my target before my holiday starts next week.

Lovely BB I was thinking about May and thinking of going for 26 AFD for then. Anyway will let you know before I go away as I get back when May has started

Well Done you

40SM

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

Morning all

Well not AF for me yesterday, I actually logged on quick last night to fess up but OH walked in and wanted to know who I was talking to, hence me quoting 40SM's post about wanting to keep quiet about posting on here! I have no excuse and no justification for drinking so not gonna bother, but laying there in bed this morning for a while before everyone got up, pondering about how long my drinking has been out of control. Memories kept flashing up of occasions where I drank when it was really not necessary or I was going out somewhere but woud buy 'back-up' beer to keep in the fridge for when I got back incase I hadn't drunk enough when out - these were the days I could openly keep beer in the fridge :o



I think I've got enough evidence now to suggest that I might have a probolem my relationship with alcohol has to stop as it has slowly taken over my life without me even realising. I've just turned 37 but feel a lot older, I am lucky to have a bit of a baby face but I'm noticing the aging going on, alcohol is reaching into every bit of my body and aging and damaging it in some way. It's time to stop doing that and start looking after myself.

I'm going to quit the alcohol and start the Volvic 14 day challenge. If, after 2 weeks of drinking 1.5 litres of water, I don't feel any better (I imagine I'll feel worse before I feel better, but 2 weeks I should be over any dodgy bits) then I'll go back to drinking alcohol and wrecking my life!!

Good luck Jo - I don't have any idea if the Volvic challenge helps you quit alcohol - I would imagine it just leaves you more hydrated and gets people to buy more Volvic.
If it doesn't work, don't go back to booze. You have admitted you have a problem with alcohol, so why pour fuel on the fire?
Remember how you felt when you had that really good AF run? You were delightful and so positive.
Also, this is what you wrote in February -

I've decided to go with eselt's idea and say that I am no longer a drinker (with respect to Bis and GC that have their 'just for today' ways of doing it and that's right for them which is great). I was thinking about it on the drive home, I've decided to liken it to either me eating a dodgy prawn or my mum eating pork, both cause horrible things to happen, just like too much beer, either in one night which causes untold grief the next day or just enough beer to do the trick every night which causes untold grief in the long run. My dear old mum constantly tells me that (cue the old girl voice..) 'I like pork, but it just doesn't like me' and that's the way I'm working it. Also if I had a dodgy prawn and was sick as a dog the next day, there is no way I would say 'wow, that was indeed a dodgy prawn, let's have another and see if I can make me feel better!'. Why do I get hammered, then have a hair of the dog the following day?

I don't feel all that deprived tonight cos no one can stop me drinking, it's just I don't like the way it makes me and is controlling me so I shan't bother thanks

I love that last line in bold

budget_babe

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Ps. BudgetBabe - how do you keep track of so many peeps? It must take ages :eek:

Hi Bhb, I have a system But seriously it is so important to try and give encouragement, as it is so hard to give up alcohol. (As everyone on here knows, Grahame posted a little while ago that it probably helps me to stay af, and I guess it does. But well done you on 14 days af :T its really great to hear. Just one thing though! I will have no slipping in May, no siree no, no, no:eek: I shall send Molly Polly around with her whip, you will be so scared to come out of that pool that you will have to change your user name to? (Wrinkly old prune :eek: P.s you know I love you really). Hugs xxxxxx

Fay your post so made me smile think we have all been there at some time or another. Lovely days to cherish you know when they are all grown up and living their own lives, in a heartbeat you would happily go back and do it all again. So hugs to you and take care. xxxxx

Jo I saw you post earlier today and I have been pondering on what to say since then? You have been on my mind whilst sitting in the garden, then cleaning and cooking. Infact all day and I have come to the conclusion that you have said it all in your post. You realise now that you do have a problem and to that end it is only you that can change this. It is so many wasted years and yes it is inevitable that it will take its toll, you have the ability to change the future but when the future arrives you are unable to change the past. So therefore take this opportunity to make your past one that you will look back on and be proud of. I wish you well my friend and as Gc says PLEASE DON'T DRINK AGAIN. God bless. xxxxxx

Dear Fedup TOUCHDOWN :T Well done you on more af days than you thought, see you can do this now with your eyes closed. Btw when are you away as I would like your opinion before you go please re: May. I am rethinking my original idea after having a chat with Bsntc. Oh its such a responsibility, I remember Winebox reaching for the headache tablets with the stress, think I will be doing the same. So take care and keep positive. Hugs xxxxxx

On that note: Bsntc and Winebox how are you both? Hugs xxxxxx
Gc pleased to see you back matey:D as always you post whats needed. Hugs xxxxxxx
Bis Hugs to you too and take care. xxxxxxx

Dear Lurky WHERE ARE YOU? xxxxxx


Happy or not so happy I agree with you on Man U but yes their fans are lovely well Ym is Well done on doing the bike ride though very impressive :T You will need to be in peak fitness so I agree not much or nil alcohol is needed. Hugs xxxxxx

B3nton hi and welcome, I wish you good luck and look forward to hearing how you are getting on? Hugs xxxxx

Miss P just a quick note to ask how piglet is? I hope he is getting better and that you are ok too. Take care and hugs to piglet and yourself. xxxxxx

Upsy, Ms London, 115k, Sea, Wbf, Stroppy and Gg hugs hope you are ok? xxxxxx
Miamoo how are you getting on? Hope all is ok? Take care and hugs xxxxxx

40sm and Noynoy hi and glad to see you both about, glad you had a nice birthday noynoy Take Care and hugs xxxxx

Fb hope your downstairs loo is done now We're still on the lounge, oh its a long job. :eek: Hugs xxxxxx

So hugs to everyone else and take care.
Budgie xxxxxxxxx

Edit sorry Jo forgot to say I hope your: Godfather was ok today when you visited him? Poor chap it sounds so painful. xxxxxxx

Pippilongstocking

Evening chaps and chapessess (that covers everyone right?!)

Herbal tea and some work checking in - will be day 14 for me after today - two whole weeks eh - who'd thought it.

Lots of lovely posts on here tonight BB I have no idea how you keep up waves enthusiastically to all and says hello, keep up the good work.

E - hope the gym wasn't too hard

Jo I may join you on the drink 1.5l a day challenge but will stick with tap water - had a look at the site looks ace

b3nton - welcome on board - no one uses their teeth much - but watch out for molly's whip - even BB is threatening it now!! (I am dreading May........(joke!!) we will all be on the straight and narrow)

Bis and Graeme as ever wise words. Molly and E ta for looking out for me this past week I do appreciate it very much. xx

Budgie babe - made me smile today - after all its ONLY a carpet and bless them they had baby wipes out (my stock favourite for cleaning things) and towels and a sponge and had made a good start - before the got me downstairs - I am glad I was sober as I know I did overreact a bit - but who knows how that might have gone if I had been the wrong end of a bottle of wine - ??

I have to say I do miss that 'switched off' head thing that wine gives me - but don't miss the self loathing I feel the next day after I have drank. When I start I don't seem to be able to just stop really. So as many of you say probably best not to start then eh?

On a very domestic note I just picked and stewed the first of the rhubarb - teas half constructed for tomorrow as well my word the evenings are long without that first glass of wine and 'stuff' everything I have to do as I sink into the sofa.

Lost a lodger and not got the room relet, probably won't now until next term after the summer - so tightening the belt a bit (hence the big shop).

Waves to you all - xx

PS even managed to walk to work a couple of days this week with my puppy - all progress

barshamhillbilly

budget_babe wrote: »

I shall send Molly Polly around with her whip, you will be so scared to come out of that pool that you will have to change your user name to? (Wrinkly old prune :eek: )

It was cold today ...... Thats my excuse anyway :rotfl::rotfl:

lillibet_dripping

Evening all:j
Just popping in to say another AF day for me:j That makes 3 now, right?:T
Back to school/work tomorrow so going to bed early. Am looking forward to a clear head in the morning - I start my new job:D

Hope you all had a lovely day. See you in the morning
x

budget_babe

Hi Ld just wanted to wish you good luck for tomorrow Let us all know how you get on? Take care sweetheart and lots of love. xxxxx

Bhb you always make me smile and I missed you when you were missing? Big hugs xxxxx

Eselt re: the gym this could just have come at the right time for you. remember points make prizes (Don't worry I have not been drinking its just my May thingy going on). :eek: xxxxxxxxx

Dear Ntc I have pmd you if thats ok? I am going to stop dilly dallying because its driving me mad, well that and DUST YES I SAID DUST Hugs xxxxxxx

Budgie going now as tittering to herself, no its not twitter :j

Btw Mr Ice Baby where are you? Hope you are ok? xxxxxx
Eselt though not a Ferrari fan :eek: It did make me smile when the lovely Rob Smedley said to Massa: " Felippe. stay cool baby your visor is on its way, its all under control". Classic :cool: xxxxxx

Ok guys off now to titter some more, though I gotta say its not the same without DEAR LURKY, can me matey please come back? xxxxxxx

maz123_2

Evening people, :hello:
Well i got drunk last night, and managed to cry into my vodka! Feel like a prat, but also feel like i won't be doing that again.:o I'm getting bored with myself behaving like this.
I will be AF today, and at least I didn't ruin today and still got out and enjoyed the day.
good luck for tonight everyone
maz

barshamhillbilly

lillibet_dripping wrote: »

. Am looking forward to a clear head in the morning - I start my new job:D

Good Luck

pariskate

Just a quick one as I'm just back from a weekend away. No AFD but no sloshed/over indulged days either so I fell good about that.
Will catch up tomorrow.