The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

lillibet_dripping

Morning peeps
Sadly, not an AF Saturday night for me, but I am not downhearted because I ONLY HAD ONE G & T:j:j:j
Saturday used to consist of starting with the wine at about 11.30, drinking one bottle, sleeping in the afternoon, then starting all over again in the evening. How on earth did I get to that place?

I had another lovely day pottering in the garden. The raised beds are now cat-proof and I have lots of seedlings sunbathing in the greenhouse. It seemed the right thing to do to pour a small G&T and sit in the evening sunshine and admire my efforts.

yellowmonkey - well done you for starting to get back on track. Keep it up!
nirelandguy - we are all so proud of you:j
sleepyjo - that must have been so hard for you. Well done:T
Have a relaxing Sunday y'all
x

fedupandskint

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Come on Utd

Well done YM! and Well said about the footie!!!! :j

budget_babe

Hi everyone,

Eselt I am watching the F1, hope you are enjoying it too? Fedup glad to know you are a fan too Btw you are doing fantastically well :T I am so pleased that life seems to be getting better for you after the awful time you have had of late. So both of you take care and come on: Brawn Racing. Hugs xxxxxx Oh and I could spare a hug for Ross Brawn if he likes? :rotfl:

Adj1nl so glad to hear from you matey, do you know that sounds like my perfect day a walk by the sea and fish and chips I daydream sometimes that one day I will go and live by the sea, I just love it. I suppose what is meant to be and all that? But please do take care of yourself and keep posting. If you don't mind me asking you said before that you were having suicidal thoughts which really worried me, have these subsided at all? Oh and so glad you have told your Mum its a step in the right direction to start admitting how you are feeling. So sending you a big hug and you are on your way to getting better, just don't put a time limit on it, you will get there in the end but as you have guilty feelings (and I can relate to this). If you start thinking: I should be better now, then this will be counter productive. You will come out the otherside sweetheart just be kind to yourself and get plenty of rest and try and do things just for you for awhile. Lots of love xxxxxx

Sleepjo well done sweetheart on not drinking :T build on this now because staying af can be done, ok its not always easy but it is possible if you really want it? So lots of love and enjoy the day with your Ds before he goes back. Hugs xxxxxx

Fay well done to you too :T and you sorted out your bedroom as well. So good luck for today and I hope you get some sun with you? Its quite nice here Hugs xxxxxx

Nirelandguy well done on staying af, I knew you could do it Good luck for the rest of the month and take care. Hugs xxxxxx

Yellow Monkey lovely to hear from you and I am so glad that things are getting better for you. I know what you mean about not buying alcohol, if I did then I would be too tempted so I don't buy it and it works for me. So good luck and I hope you get to post more now? Re: united sorry but I can't cheer them on my Ds is a Chelsea fan Take care and hugs xxxxxxxx

Mari hope you are doing ok sweetheart? Keep posting and take care Hugs xxxxx

Jo so pleased to hear that at last the tax credits people have finally found your form, at least you will be getting something. How are you today? I hope all is well with you? Take care and hugs xxxxxx

Molly Polly sending you a big hug too, hope you are ok? Lots of love xxxxxxx

Ld well done on cutting down so much :T Take care and look after yourself. Hugs xxxxxxx

Bhb please get out of that pool for five minutes and come and let us know how you are? Hugs xxxxxx

Happy I am on 19 today please, hope you are ok? Take care and hugs xxxxxx

Hugs to all the missing housemates hope you are all having a good weekend? Take Care
Budgie xxxxxxxxxx

yellowmonkey

budget_babe wrote: »

Re: united sorry but I can't cheer them on my Ds is a Chelsea fan Take care and hugs xxxxxxxx

:D:D

ym

Pippilongstocking

Morning all

Glad to hear everyone had a pretty good Saturday night - Hi YM not seen you in a while hope its all settled down - and as BB has done her usual amazing hellos and updates - I will just wave to you all.

Still in bed but working with laptop - house is cold BB its dry and still (unusual) but no sun yet!

Just as well no Alcohol last night - DS woke me up at 12am as he had split paint for his models over the cream carpet in the area beside his computer - no idea if its all out - whilst I was less than happy - at least I had the wearwithall to sort it all out - black paint, cream carpet - gulp. Its still wet at the moment and looks a bit splotchy but will see.

Poor thing he was terrified to tell me - but cleared up all his desk and stuff pronto as I wass muttering (quite loudly) about throwing all of it in the fire - whoops x

Have a great day today whatever you are doing - x

jo1972

Morning all

Jon, so glad you are sorting yourself out, however tough it may be. What did your mum say when you opened up to her? As Budgie says, my perfect day is also a walk by the seaside then some fish and chips, especially when the weather is a bit overcast and windy and the sea is choppy!!

FUAS, congrats for the AF Saturday!!

Jo-Jo, well done for the AF bbq, that is very impressive. Just a couple of days ago you sounded so down and defeated, now look at the positivity shining through, just goes to show what a couple of AF days can do! Keep it up!!

Fay, have you come out of hiding yet

Nirelandguy, what can I say....well done!!! You have proved to yourself that you don't need alcohol. And it also proves what we were saying the other day here on the thread, that the anticipation of being AF is actually worse than being AF. I'm so proud of you

YM, the monkey's back :D:D So pleased things are settling down on the other stuff, congrats on a week AF, very impressive

Lillibet, sounds as though you enjoyed your 1 G&T in the garden yesterday, well done for not having more

Budgie, morning :wave:

Well not AF for me yesterday, I actually logged on quick last night to fess up but OH walked in and wanted to know who I was talking to, hence me quoting 40SM's post about wanting to keep quiet about posting on here! I have no excuse and no justification for drinking so not gonna bother, but laying there in bed this morning for a while before everyone got up, pondering about how long my drinking has been out of control. Memories kept flashing up of occasions where I drank when it was really not necessary or I was going out somewhere but woud buy 'back-up' beer to keep in the fridge for when I got back incase I hadn't drunk enough when out - these were the days I could openly keep beer in the fridge :o

I'm still trying to track back and work out exactly when I hit the point of no return. I remember taking my mum to Paris for 5 days for her 70th birthday, that was back in 2001 and I got completely lost trying to find a shop that sold beer, so if I was desperate then it must have been before that. I also, ironically, remember us taking DD1 to Disney in Paris and necking a quick beer when going to the shop with nobody knowing, she must've been about 7 or 8 (she's now 17 :eek:).

Memories keep popping up of taking DD1 to tap dancing on a Saturday morning, she went for 7 years from 1996, every week without fail and I remember having a hangover over every week without fail, she'd go tap dancing and I'd be in the cafe round the corner having a full English and lots of coffee

I think I've got enough evidence now to suggest that I might have a probolem my relationship with alcohol has to stop as it has slowly taken over my life without me even realising. I've just turned 37 but feel a lot older, I am lucky to have a bit of a baby face but I'm noticing the aging going on, alcohol is reaching into every bit of my body and aging and damaging it in some way. It's time to stop doing that and start looking after myself.

I'm going to quit the alcohol and start the Volvic 14 day challenge. If, after 2 weeks of drinking 1.5 litres of water, I don't feel any better (I imagine I'll feel worse before I feel better, but 2 weeks I should be over any dodgy bits) then I'll go back to drinking alcohol and wrecking my life!!

Right, end of mammoth post, off to make another coffee and get my backside in gear, gotta visit my godfather today in hospital, he put his foot in the bath without checking the water and not realising he'd had the wrong tap on and scaleded his entire foot and been admitted into a Burns unit, unfortunately it's an hour's drive away and you know how I feel about driving to places I don't know :eek:

Speak to you all later xx

barshamhillbilly

budget_babe wrote: »

Bhb please get out of that pool for five minutes and come and let us know how you are? Hugs xxxxxx

Sorry got carried away - Cut the the nettles down in the goats field and got so hot I just had to

Really fancied a beer at the time too, but managed without :j

Nirelandguy - Great job :T:T (have been there with the coke )

SleepyJo - :T

YM - Go for it mate, we are right behind you

I am now into my 14th consecutive day of alcohol freedom :j

Everyone else, hope everything is going well, keep up the good work.

BHB

Ps. BudgetBabe - how do you keep track of so many peeps? It must take ages :eek:

happyshopper

April scores after Days 17/18

Name Target/30 Actual/18
115k 15 5
40somethingmum 27 10
ad1jnl 30 10
budget babe 30 18
dotstar24 6 0
eselt 30 18
fayjmck 20 13
fedupandskint 19 14
fluffybishop 10 5
glasgowgirl 12 3
happyshopper 20 10
lillibet dripping 10 2
lurkio 18 3
maman 10 4
maz123 7 1:T
miss piggy 25 14
needstochange 16 9
noynoy 13 6
pariskate 15 7
stroppy 10 1
**upsy daisy** 15 2
wanna bee free 10 3
winebox 10 3

Double updates today as didn't post yesterday. ad1jnl/Jon have lost count a bit, do you want to let me know your total? Must be 14 or 15 by now? fedup I already had you on 11 - see post 4216, so I've put you on 12 but let me know if you want me to change it. Budgie no I'm not all bloody right. Stupid rubbish Fabianski! (Arsenal goalie). Come on Everton!! Sorry, I just can't bear Man U. Their fans are lovely tho;). On the plus side, I only had 2 bottles of Becks AF with the game yesterday instead of beer so that's something I guess. And I do indeed have another slow puncture, I think it's something on the actual wheel causing it so I'm taking it into the shop next week for somebody to have a proper look. Am quite excited/daunted, my registration pack for the London to Southend bike ride arrived yesterday so I might take it a bit more seriously than I was going to and perhaps look after meself a bit and abstain from the booze a bit nearer the time else I fear I won't make it. 59 miles, ye gods!! :eek:. The furthest I've ever cycled in one day is only about 20 miles and that near killed me.

HS

EDIT: amended fedupski's score

noynoy

morning campers not af last night as it was b day and went out with pals..i got a bit drunk but not too much just giggley and i interspasred them with soft drinks and this morning i have no hangover i feel fab i had a fab time and not wasted today!
so monday back on the wagon

eselt

Hi all

Up at 5 to watch the grand prix- well worth it too, I love it when it rains!

Well done NIreland, and Fay and other AF peeps (sorry haven't got BB's knack of remembering everyone).

Yellowmonkey- congrats on bankruptcy, it should prove to be a huge weight off your shoulder. I went BR a couple of years ago, and even things like opening my post or picking up the phone became easier as I hadn't realised just how stressed I had become by being hassled/threatened by credit card companies and banks all the time- when that all stopped I started to feel so much better. Feel quite angry that creditors are allowed to push people right to the edge like that- I know we borrowed the money and got the debt in the first place, but my debt was mostly student loans and the result of trying to survive after breaking up with OH, paying for childcare etc. and the banks gave me no slack at all when I approached them and said I was in trouble. Well done YM- big decision, but its one many people are living with at the moment.

Jo1972- you sound philosophical today and very determined, you are doing so well.

Hope everyone has a great day- suns out here so I'm off out for a bit of light therapy. Catch you all later.