The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

40somethingmum

Hi everyone

Thanks to you all for the warm welcome you gave to me when I jumped aboard the wagon last night.

Day 1 - so far so good - I have not bought any alcohol !! The wine in supermarket at lunchtime was waving to me but I managed to ignore it.

I know that I really my mindset to crack this thing . There is a saying - "change your mind change your life" but it is easier said than done.


It was a lovely sunny afternoon and instead of thinking I wish I was in the garden enjoying this weather I was thinking - I wish I was in the garden enjoying a glass of wine !!

Anyway I am determined to succeed :

I need to save money ( I am massively in debt )

I need to lose weight ( About a stone)

I need to be a more patient wife and mother


Good luck tonight

pariskate

Hello, can I jump in here please? I used to post last summertime but kind of fell out of the MSE habit....

Anyway, I'm back and my drinking has crept up and up, I find myself drinking every night and I just don't takeit so well now - physically it affects me more than ever, so...time to cut back.

I like the idea of setting a target number of alcohol free days so can I start with 15 please?

Looking forward to getting back on track and catching up with the thread.

lillibet_dripping

Not today - failed miserably. In tears
x

budget_babe

Hi everyone :hello:- (gotta say I love this little guy).

Anyways firstly HAPPY SHOPPER MY FIRST DAY AF FOR APRIL SO 1/1 SO FAR MY DEAR. Hope all is well with you? Take care and good luck with the scoring this month, lots love and hugs. xxxxx

Fb hope your hubby is enjoying his birthday. Enjoy having your family around and spending time together. So Happy Birthday to Mr Bishop and have a lovely evening. Hugs xxxxx

Mp happy birthday to Mr Polly too, sorry I did not get chance to say have a lovely break, you probably wont get to read this now but have a lovely time and see you for your BIG BIRTHDAY. Hugs xxxxx

Jo well done you on staying af last night, it must have been a good feeling to wake up and remember that: YOU DID NOT DRINK. Hang onto that and stay focused for this April challenge. Hey if I'm scoring May I will be looking over your shoulder in a nice way everyday. (Just got an image of Long John Silver with his parrot Capt Flint).

Talking of Captains? Do you remember this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMzaiCS1jrM
I used to listen to Noel Edmonds on radio one when he championed the cause: HISSING SID IS INNOCENT :eek:
Ok yes I know I am losing the plot, its the stress of scoring May and I still have a month to go :eek: I have to watch my blood pressure you know. But darling Jo please take care and I am wishing you only good things for April, stay strong and take care. Love n hugs xxxxx

Miss P fantastic score of 30 af days for March :T hope you and little piglet are ok and enjoying some quality time together? Lots of love and take care. xxxxx

115k sending you hugs, I hope you are feeling better now? Please take care and good luck for April. Hugs xxxxx

Lillibet Dripping sending you a big hug (()) please try not to get upset, I know its hard but the only way forward is to put it behind you and focus on staying af for the next day. If you read back through the thread then you will see that alot of posters advise just taking one day at a time. So wishing you well sweetheart and sending you love n hugs, xxxxx

Upsy hope everything is well with you? Good luck for April and take care. Hugs xxxxx

Winebox I hope you are ok? I don't think you have posted your target yet for April? I know you said you wanted to join in so please pop in and update Hp with your target? Remember we are all here for you and we all want you to succeed. So please take care and look after yourself. Big hugs ((())) xxxxxx

GG I know you said that you were struggling, I hope things are getting better for you? So wishing you well in our April challenge. Please take care, love n hugs. xxxxx

Hugs to: Stroppy, Fay, Bis, Eselt, Gc, Noy Noy, Wbf, Sea, Ms London, ad1jnl, Maman, Miamoo. Wishing you all every success in April. Hugs xxxxx

Dear Lurky and the Lovely Esther, hope you are both well? Good luck for April and love to you both and the family. Hugs xxxxx

Fedup hope everything is well with you? A big well done for March and good luck for April. Hope your little dog is ok now? Love n hugs xxxxx

Bsntc Now just because you are not scoring don't think you can go missing you know. You have got to still keep up everyones spirits. We have come to rely on you and your great sense of humour. I always look forward to your posts So again thankyou for scoring March and good luck for our new April challenge. Btw :shhh: (I hope Hp hasn't given me a donkey to ride :rotfl:)

Bhb, Polaroid, PP, Pbt, Mari, Patchy, BB2, Ophelia where are you? Hugs to Ym. We miss you xxxxx
Mr Igloo you are missing too. xxxxxx

Nial24 and Oz hope all is well with you? hugs xxxxx

Welcome to:Pariskate well done on joining and wishing you good luck for our April challenge. To all our other newbies hope you are all ok? Take care and hugs xxxxx

To everyone who is missing and that hasn't posted for a while then please take care and if you can, drop in and say Hi. Big hugs. xxxxx

To anyone that is lurking and want to join then please post a message, you are all welcome and who knows it could change your life for the better. Big hugs xxxxx

So signing off now.
God bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

fedupandskint

Many thanks BB, Mr Young Dog is ok now after bathing his eye with saltwater bath several times a day

I am AF tonight making it AFD 1/19.

Take care everyone and see you all tomorrow

glasgowgirl

Evening,

NTC - thanks so much for doing the scores for March and for all the motivating jumpies at the end!

Happyshopper - could you add me in with a target of 12 for April please? Thanks

4 AF days in a row this week - back on the wagon, thanks goodness! Feeling good.

Hope everyone else doing well.

xx

Oh - and BB, thanks so much as always for your thoughtful and caring post xx

fluffyb

Lilibet,please don't be upset - it's day 1. I did my first challenge in March but had a drink on the 1st March and felt so cross with myself I made sure I didn't drink on the 2nd March!!! I went on to have 17 AFD in March - more than the whole of last year. So don't despair - start over tomorrow

Thank you BB - hubby has had a lovely birthday and all the family have just left. I could have had a drink, but decided not to - mainly as I know I will be drinking most evenings next week when we are away, so I managed to refrain and keep up my no drinking during the week [unless I am on holiday;) ].I feel quite chuffed at that though :j

So........1/10 AFD for me please happyshopper :j

Hope all is well with everyone else xx

budget_babe

Just heard this song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NG2zyeVRcbs

I have selected a couple of verses which I think say how many of us feel........

I can almost see it
That dream I’m dreaming but
There’s a voice inside my head sayin,
You’ll never reach it,
Every step I’m taking,
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking but I
Got to keep trying
Got to keep my head held high

There’s always going to be another mountain
I’m always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes I'm going to have to lose,
Ain’t about how fast I get there,
Ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side
It’s the climb

The struggles I’m facing,
The chances I’m taking
Sometimes they might knock me down but
No I’m not breaking
I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I’m going to remember most yeah
Just got to keep going
And I,
I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on,

Remember it is not how fast anyone gets there, it is about the journey that we set upon, it is about:
KEEPING THE FAITH.

TO ALL MY VERY DEAR FRIENDS JUST BE STRONG AND PLEASE KEEP THE FAITH THAT YOU CAN DO THIS.

AND YOU ARE DOING THIS FOR ALL THE RIGHT REASONS AND FOR THE BETTER PERSON THAT YOU ARE GOING TO BE.

GOD BLESS
BUDGIE XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

budget_babe

Oh and Fb so glad to hear you have had a lovely evening, well done on staying af. :T Well done and take care. Hugs xxxxx

GG so pleased to hear that you are feeling more positve, so well done on 4 af days in a row. I am so pleased to hear that. Lots of love and take care. xxxxx

Fedup really pleased to hear that your little dog is getting better, how are you now? Do you know when you will be back at work? Lets hope that April is a better month for you now sweetheart. Hugs xxxxx

Budgie flying out ..............

Oh and no mse this weekend, how awful :eek:
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

eselt

Hi all- just wrote a really long post and lost it- said I didn't have permission, grrrr. Anyway thankyou so much NTC, stirling job and thankyou happyshopper for starting the new month- can I be included please? Keeps me on track- I know I'm not out of the woods yet and you lot are my security blanket.

Just a quick note on the people who suffer from anxiety and panic, I found I was drinking to get rid of these symptoms but actually alcohol withdrawal was causing them- 3 days with no drink, eating better, taking some vitamins- panic and anxiety virtually disappeared. I think you've gotta get the alcohol out of the equation and see whats left- chicken and egg I know, I started drinking to try and control my lack of confidence and anxiety in social situations so its hard to separate this. Try it though guys, reduce the alcohol (don't give up abruptly if you are a heavy drinker), eat, take your Vit B- can almost guarantee anxiety/panic will reduce.

Best of luck everyone- new month and all that, suns coming out- welcome new people, plenty of room here, and lots of support, and we don't judge!