The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

Pippilongstocking

Jo - I wear contacts normally only very few folks see me in my goggles - (normally) freckles - many - and red hair - well half way between blonde and red - auburn ish - and quite plumpish -

I imagine you dark or black haired - small and very petite???? Kinda like that girl who is irish and was in a sit-com thingmy - will google it tomorrow x

Hi Heath xxx

jo1972

That's very sad BB, I hope your daughter is alright?

Yup, I'm happy to have all my marbles tonight

jo1972

fayjmck wrote: »

I imagine you dark or black haired - small and very petite???? Kinda like that girl who is irish and was in a sit-com thingmy - will google it tomorrow

Yeah do, cos now I'm intriged!!

Pippilongstocking

pub landlady - wee village in ireland - think she fancied the priest
??

graemecarter

eselt wrote: »

Hi all- I intended to post much earlier but its taken me ages to catch up on all the posts!

Just on the 'one day at a time' debate, I couldn't do it like that, I had to think ahead because I needed to change my whole outlook from 'I am an alcoholic' to 'no thanks, I don't drink'. Whilst I described myself as an alcoholic I felt pathetic and weak and just succumbed to every temptation- after all, everyone expects alcoholics to drink themselves stupid everyday so I wasn't doing anything unexpected or different. When I began to really think of myself as someone who doesn't drink, I seemed to have more willpower somehow, and more pride in myself. You have to completely change your mindset- I now realise what a small part alcohol should play in our lives, but for so long alcohol, all day, every day it was all I knew. Filling time and doing different things at danger times has been a challenge- but because I've got my physical and cognitive energy back I am doing so much more I couldn't be bothered to before- particularly with the children. I can concentrate on reading now, have interesting conversations, go out and get some exercise, do the garden...boring stuff I know, but I have to keep telling myself theres nothing more boring than an old loudmouthed drunk or a hangover.

GC- I think you point you make about habits is spot on, its a fine line between a habit which is hard to break and an addiction.

Hope everyone is OK- theres too many of you to name on here at the moment, but good luck to all. Catch you later

Having a disease is pathetic and weak? I don't feel that way at all, and neither should you.

And just because everyone expects alcoholics to drink everyday, it doesn't mean we have to

Whatever works for you is ok by me however. I am glad you are not alcoholic

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

I've decided to go with eselt's idea and say that I am no longer a drinker (with respect to Bis and GC that have their 'just for today' ways of doing it and that's right for them which is great)

I so hope it works for you.
I could not think 'I will never drink again' and stay sane. That's why one day at a time works for me.

Why do I get hammered, then have a hair of the dog the following day?

To get rid of

• Headache
• Shame
• Guilt
• Yourself and your emotions

and you have a bad relationship with booze

I don't feel all that deprived tonight cos no one can stop me drinking, it's just I don't like the way it makes me and is controlling me so I shan't bother thanks

Good for you- never forget this.

ETA: I've just realised I've now made double figures this month :j :j :j

Ace - something is working already:T

fedupandskint

Morning everyone,

I had one glass of red wine last night because the bottle was open really and I didn't want to waste it. It took me about an hour and a half to drink it and I really wasn't bothered at all about it. I was really surprised as I usually drink very quickly. surprised in a nice way, looks like the tide is tunrning the right way at last! I opened the bottle on Sun and had a couple of glasses but wasn't too fussed about drinking, looks like I can't really open a bottle any more unless I'm in company because I won't be able to drink it.

I've enjoyed hearing what you all think you look like - what do you think I look like?

I'm going to cook/freeze the rest for cooking as I really want to hit my AF target in the next 2 days

Pippilongstocking

Jo - Dervla Kirwan - Ballykissangel

Hello all - hope you are all well today - not AF last night - opened a bottle of wine late (11.30) - had a glass - then poured the rest down the sink - hope everyones good today - xx

eselt

Hi all- well done everyone, esp. Jo- just a couple more days to go.

GC- I love your posts, they always make me think. I've wrestled with the idea that alcoholism is a disease, but at the end of the day (and its just the way I look at it) I feel if I think of it as a disease I can absolve any responsibility, it makes alcoholism seem passive and something that just happens to people and somehow none of the mess I got into was my fault- but deep down I do know it was my fault, and my biggest failing was arrogance- I had all the warnings, I read all the research, I went to doctors, my friends and family offered advice, but I thought I could control it, I thought it would never happen to me and that people who let themselves be consumed by alcohol were weak and hopeless, and I thought I was stronger than that. Before I became physically dependant I did have the chance to get my drinking under control but I blew it, and then the choice was gone and I was a full blown alcoholic. I see alcoholism as a behaviour, one that I've now stopped- it upsets me more to think that I'll be an alcoholic forever, than never having another drink does to be honest. The paradox of this all is that you can only really analyse alcoholism in hindsight, and even then it still makes no sense to me!

Hope everyone is OK today- I am going to spend today living my life- its about bloody time.

Needstochange

Well done FUAS, I have had to throw a few half chewed bottles away lately :eek: and that really would have been unheard of last year. Have you seen the small bottles they sell at Asda? My local one has them for 4 for a fiver I think so at least you wouldnt waste any when you are enjoying a glass?

I dont think I would be very good at guessing what others look like. Personally I am the spit and image of my avatar:D

Just been watching the news and the piece about alcohol and cancer
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7906355.stm another good reason to cut down.

BB sorry to hear about your daughter thats terrible
Jo well done girl, hope you slept better last night

11 for me please WB