The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

Sea78

Good luck with that tidying Jo! I am having to blitz the house today before their dad drops them off this afternoon. Slept the full night, which is progress - my sleep has been so bad since I have been drinking more.

Going to have a dry night tonight. Would like to say a dry week, but i'll just take it one day at a time for now I think.

Hope you are all well, and not struggling too much today. The cravings haven't gone yet...do they ever go?

Sea xxx

polaroid

Hi all,

blimey this thread moves quick - takes me ages to catch up with it now!

GC - i have taken great offence to some of your posts and its the reason that i have posted so much recently....but, i really respect how you have replied what everyone has said, and i think that sometimes things can be taken the wrong way when on a thread. I also appreciate that you personally have had a very real and serious situation with alcohol and therefore feel very stongly about it. so, i will try and take your posts with a pinch of salt now..did you enjoy slumdog? i loved it, i hope it manages it win some awards

BB, i am sorry you are having a rubbish time, i hope you are ok. you have done so well - 5 weeks - wowzers!!!

fed up - dont leave

Eselt, you post really made me sit up and take notice. i have been getting complacent and i can feel myself slipping back.

so please WB can you put me in the AF feb challenge and i want to do 23/28. i have already used up 3!!!

ps i have a confession to make....until i went to the Library yesterday i didnt realise that the alan carr book wasnt alan carr from the telly!!!!
i couldnt understand how he had written a book that had you all talking about it!!! ooopps

have a great sunday xxx

jo1972

Good luck Sea, just think of today, that's all

polaroid

sorry, where are my manners.
Hi newbies

and hi Stereo steve. stick with us your in the right place

xx

graemecarter

polaroid wrote: »

Hi all,

blimey this thread moves quick - takes me ages to catch up with it now!

GC - i have taken great offence to some of your posts and its the reason that i have posted so much recently....but, i really respect how you have replied what everyone has said, and i think that sometimes things can be taken the wrong way when on a thread. I also appreciate that you personally have had a very real and serious situation with alcohol and therefore feel very stongly about it. so, i will try and take your posts with a pinch of salt now..did you enjoy slumdog? i loved it, i hope it manages it win some awards

BB, i am sorry you are having a rubbish time, i hope you are ok. you have done so well - 5 weeks - wowzers!!!

fed up - dont leave

Eselt, you post really made me sit up and take notice. i have been getting complacent and i can feel myself slipping back.

so please WB can you put me in the AF feb challenge and i want to do 23/28. i have already used up 3!!!

ps i have a confession to make....until i went to the Library yesterday i didnt realise that the alan carr book wasnt alan carr from the telly!!!!
i couldnt understand how he had written a book that had you all talking about it!!! ooopps

have a great sunday xxx

I have occasions where sometimes people really get under my skin. I build up big resentments quickly about them. I cannot handle resentments well, so I look at both myself and their actions to decide if :
1) I should be getting that annoyed - ie. is it that big a deal?
2) Am I resentful at them because I am fearful of something? (anger is the common reaction when we are fearful)
3) I put myself in their shoes, and try and understand their predicament/feelings. Is there an explanation I have missed?
4) How would other people handle it?

When I have answered these things honestly, usually the is fault on both sides. I see my part in the problem.

I then think "Do I want to be happy or be right?" I always used to choose 'right', but I now choose 'happy' - so if someone doesn't say thank-you when I let them out of a junction for example, I let it go. Why build a resentment??

Slumdog has got awards written all over it - though it was extremely good. Best picture and best director at the oscars :T

Have a good day people

Bismarck

Morning all,

How are we?

Thought for today : if we were truly happy, would we feel the need for a drink?

So if we simply focus on feeling happier and more positive, doesn't that help quell the urges?

PS....sorry if this sounds selfish but I did some quick maths yesterday...I've now reached 600 days....and yet I dreamt last night that I had a pint of really flat useless beer in a funny bar in a very strange dream and woke up feeling very confused! and was really annoyed (in my dream!) that it made counting the days more complicated!

take care everyone!

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all

Winebox - 7 for me please!

Polaroid Don't worry, my OH thought I was on about allan carr from the tv too!

Fayjmck Will expect you thursday then Shall put the kettle on and get the doughnuts in - if Piddle Pants Piglet leaves any !:rotfl:

Well I'm three quarters the way through my Allen Carr book. Makes interesting reading. Certainly makes you look at alcohol in a whole new light. Whether it will make me stop drinking by the end of it I honestly don't know. He certainly seems to veer towards giving up completely and I just don't know if I'm capable of it or whether I actually want to. Perhaps thats his whole point....this is what makes us all addicted to alcohol. Shall reserve judgement to the end of the book anyway.

As I've mentioned before, Sundays are the day i will usually have a drink. Maybe I will tonight, maybe I won't. At the moment I don't know.

Anyway, have good sundays all whatever you are doing

Take Care

Miss P
xx

budget_babe

Hi everyone,

I just want to say THANKYOU to you all and the help and support you all give. Things are difficult at the moment, I have realised the reason that I was drinking to excess. It was to mask the unhappiness that I am feeling.

Without going into too much detail, I have been married for 25 years this year. My life has been my son (who I totally adore with all my heart). The past few years has been all about putting him through university, as I didn't want him to get into debt myself and Mr BB have paid for this, using our savings and overdraft facility etc.

So it has past that my darling son graduated last year with a first class degree, (I am so proud). He is now working in the city and has a really good job, he is happy and content.

I have realised that now myself and Mr BB have grown apart and to be honest we don't really have very much in common. Things have been very bad he is suffering depression and is not working. After many arguments we have decided that we will probably seperate, there is no one else involved and we will remain friends as we have been together a long time.

It is through not drinking that I have realised what is wrong in my life, I feel very alone at the moment and very sad.

Sorry if I have burdened anyone?

Polaroid glad to see you posting. Hugs

Love n hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

barshamhillbilly

Afternoon All,

Slipped yesterday and had a couple more than I should.
I feel a bit stupid because I was a bit bored yesterday afternoon and decided to have a can at 2.00pm. I knew full well that I wouldn't be able to keep to my three cans once I started. Doh ! :rolleyes:

Still - I know for today now - so have some very nice shandy from Morrisons - £1.60 for 10 little bottles. A couple of those should fill the gaps until later.

We've been on the saw-bench cutting wood all morning for the fire ..... face full of sawdust, so need something to wash it away .

All have stocked up on some lower strength beer for next week, so may restrict myself to a couple of those tonight to make up for my slip last night.


Have a great afternoon everyone.

Best Wishes
BHB

polaroid

BB, just read your post.
its just made me realise how utterly selfish i can be. i get so wrapped up in my own carp and cant see beyond it. then i read your post and you are going through such a terrible time. i cant begin to imagine, blimey to seperate after 25 years, sheesh. i really admire how you have not drank for 5 weeks and managed to see the reality through the blurry clouds (drink).
when i keep slipping up i tell myself that its ok because of all the carp i am going through and anyone else in my position would need a drink. but thats just bu**sh*t. look at you, going through such a massive life change and you've kept off the booze.

sorry to ramble, but just had my eyes very widely opened.

thanks BB, you take care hugs and love xxxxxxxx